[justbreathe1994]

Today I shared my letter of loss that I wrote to ex T with my current T. After reading it, when I looked up at her, she looked like she had tears in her eyes. That meant a lot to me because I was so nervous about sharing it with her because I feel so ashamed of my feelings. However, she was very validating of my experience and I’m honestly shocked she is not totally freaked out by me. She is only like in her very early 30s, so it’s not like she’s even been a therapist for very long. While I understand my part in the relationship with ex T, it was validating to hear my current T say that ex T made some big mistakes too. She seems to think I would have a case against ex T if I ever wanted to report her to the department of health. This is all so strange to me because no one at the clinic I saw ex T at (specifically my dietician) really validated me or acknowledged any wrongdoing on ex T’s part. New T tells me that it is just how clinics work and she honestly seemed pretty upset by it. I don’t know what I’m looking for in posting this, but I think I just wanted to share that I am struggling with feeling like I’m not crazy. I still have trouble trusting my new T even knows what she’s talking about since she is so young, but at the same time, it was so validating to feel like my experiences are somewhat based in reality. I just wish I could have a candid conversation with my ex T, or anyone at that clinic for that matter, and they can admit they made some mistakes too. However, that’s not going to happen because that would open themself for litigation and a lawsuit. Instead, they just say that they were not in the same room as ex T and I when she was providing therapy, so they trust she was making the best therapeutic desicion. They give me a standard answer : “all of our therapists here act out of their best therapeutic intention.” Where is the accountability. My ex T had to doctorates and was the therapy supervisor.

[fille_folle]

What exactly are you alleging your ex-T did? I'm not clear on that. I also think it's bizarre that your new T suggested reporting your ex T to the department of health. Surely if a complaint were to be made, it would be to her licensing body. And surely she and the agency would be open to litigation if there was malpractice regardless of if you talked to them or not.

[justbreathe1994]

It’s a bit difficult to pin point any single thing she did wrong unless you know the entire context of our relationship, but overall, the argument would be that she was negligent. And it was my current T that said I’d probably have a case against my ex therapist.