Couch 187: Dry Cheerios

I have emails I sent them but most things were via phone so no. This is a huge reason why I never speak up about things, you gotta be careful, rather than just being yourself and saying how you feel. It's annoying. *not directed at you but generalized statement*

Forgot to reply to this earlier--feel free to PM me!

Geez, that's horrible. Even if the dog can't be trained for some reason, there are always diapers... And you can get reusable washable ones inexpensively on Amazon...

SS

yep and her dog is great. she's had her 8 years, she caught on to potty training within a few weeks. I'm just so sick of people who toss dogs away like garbage.

LT

also I wont be doing the training business, due to my health issues. I need to get through all this crap first... which would be a few months. I'll see how I feel then if I wanna bother with it still

I completely understand how you feel. I think your T is just trying to be careful to not say what is "average"--I wonder if he could possibly be worried it would make you feel worse if he said it was worse than average? What my T told me regarding my childhood really helped, and I don't know if it would help you or not. But he said how different people react differently to different childhoods. Someone could have what people might consider a terrible childhood and come out not that affected by it. Someone could have a childhood that seems OK from the outside, but their parents aren't attuned to them and their needs, and it really deeply affects them. And the latter is more the case for me. He put it better than that--I'm doing a bad job of explaining it.

He was saying it to me in the context that I don't feel I experienced what I called "capital-T trauma," but more a bunch of "lowercase-T trauma." Made more complicated because my parents weren't understanding and accepting of what I was going through (in terms of mental health issues--OCD, anxiety, depression, etc.). And my mom felt like I should be someone completely different from who I am. T also said to me that experiencing chronic intense anxiety can itself be a form of trauma, and that really helped me feel validated.

Again, I have no idea if this is helpful or not. But I don't think it's necessarily about, say, ranking how bad someone's childhood was on some objective scale. But it's more the effect that childhood had on the person. What happened in your childhood truly had a profound effect on you. So to me, that's a traumatic childhood. It doesn't matter how it ranks compared to other clients (he really shouldn't be comparing you to them in terms of stuff like that either).

I would definitely tell him how all of this makes you feel. I hope he can understand and help you feel better about it.

It's rainy and gross outside. Maybe we'll just stay in bed all day.

My stupid coworker came to work sick with the flu - fever, cough, the whole thing last Saturday - even though our employer told her not to show up.

So last night at 3am I came down with the flu (I had a flu shot this year and was hopeful). I called in for tonight because I'm not going to spread it around like she did.

That’s so rude. She should have been sent home. I mean, I know people need to work and make some money, but it’s really rude to show up spreading germs. I’m sorry you caught the flu from her.

The statistics on the flu shot's effectiveness are about the estimated number of hospitalizations it prevents, not necessarily preventing getting the flu in the first place. While it does make you less likely to get the flu, a large part of the benefit is in lessening the severity if you do get the flu. So you might end up not being as sick as you would have otherwise. Sorry, I know that's not much consolation. But you did the right thing by getting the shot and you're doing the right thing by staying home.

Idk how supplies of tamiflu are this year, but it might be worth calling your doc. If you take it right when the symptoms start it can lessen the severity and duration. But you have to take it within the first day or two, it's fairly expensive depending on your insurance, and it might not be worth a trip to the doc. It's more important for those at higher risk of complications, like infants and seniors.

Doing laundry today, made a pot of my lentils, and have brussel sprouts roasting in the oven now. Yum! Happy saturday everyone. Hugs/headnods as appropriate.

Just got an email from the prof for my astronomy class that starts in 5 days and found out our first assignment due date. I'm glad I already got the book and computer access code!! i'm excited about this class!

((Cara))

What is this "snow" everyone's talking about?

Watching my daughter playing football (soccer) today, the opposition coach was horrible! These are 9 and 10 year old girls. When they conceded a goal he shouted aggressively "THAT'S BAD! THAT'S BAD!" and he shouted to one girl "YOU TURNED YOUR BACK ON THE BALL! WHY??" No wonder the girls on the other team looked like they were having much less fun than our girls. I can't believe it's allowed to go on. I can't believe the parents allow it. It's no way to coach children.

I am not sure. In Houston it is 64 F (about 16 C) and sunny. Beautiful weather.

we're supposed to get abotu 6-8 inches. why does it have to snow over the weekend bc i still will ave to go to work monday!

The weather here is pretty miserable too

Me tooooo it's 66 degrees F and sunny at my house right now!

I agree - so rude. I told her last week she had no business coming in to work in her condition. Several other employees caught it and we also have at least one immunocompromised employee - she's ok so far thankfully.

I'm feeling much better than I did this morning!