[Fuzzybear]

I’ve been dumped by another therapist..

I suppose there is no cure for being stupid and undeserving

[weaverbeaver]

So sorry Fuzzybear, I don’t think you are stupid. I think your therapists are incompetent

[sarahsweets]

I am sorry about this! Did it totally blind side you or did you feel it coming? Did she say why?

Hugs. You are neither stupid nor undeserving. I am so sorry this happened.

[HD7970GHZ]

Fuzzybear,

My heart goes out to you. You are not deserving of this! I don't want to assume anything but I can almost guarantee that her ending therapy has more to do with her than you! Perhaps she is incompetent and unable to help and doesn't want to further harm you. Perhaps she is a mean person who is unable to empathize or understanding your needs. Either way - you did nothing wrong!

My heart goes out to you.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

[Mopey]

I’ve been dumped by another therapist..

Dumped?? Jeez, Fuzzy, what happened?

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

So sorry Fuzzybear, I don’t think you are stupid. I think your therapists are incompetent

This 100%.

It's not all you, and because it didn't work out doesn't make you stupid.

I got nowhere with the first two T's I saw before R.

[Anne2.0]

Just really sorry you have to experience this again, and FWIW, I don't think you are stupid. I think you deserve the help that will work for you, and this therapist obviously couldn't provide it.

[Citrine22]

Hi Fuzzybear,
I am very sorry things did not work out with your therapist. It has happened to me too, so I get it. I have a therapist now, who has been helpful, and I like a lot, but it has been very challenging at times.

I am hesitant to write this , but I will, in the hope that it might be helpful. I am a student of astrology. Today the Sun is conjuncting the planet Uranus. That means unexpected things are happening to the collective ( a lot of people) presently. I don’t want to impose any beliefs on you, but it might be something to think about. Maybe no matter what, this was not going to work out, at this time.

I am sorry about your loss. Take good care of yourself Fuzzybear.

[LonesomeTonight]

Hugs, I'm so sorry...

[LabRat27]

I'm sorry. That really really really sucks.
Hugs (if you want them)

[Taylor27]

Hugs Fuzzybear you are not stupid the therapist who dumped you is and i hope you do not give up there are so many therapist much better then the one you had. Hugs

[here today]

It may not help much -- but I think I'm beginning to see and feel that that's THEIR fault. The therapists and the people in my early life. It does help that I have some people, and animals, in my life who don't seem to think/feel that I'm stupid and undeserving. But after years and years of family and therapists who continue that pattern -- it really, really sucks, and I'm very sorry that has happened to you, too.

[Omers]

I am sorry some T’s suck... I have better words for them but they keep turning into little stars... I too have been dumped by therapists and it SUCKS. I have learned in time though that it is often a good thing as they were not capable of helping... it is their failure not yours.

[Travelinglady]

I'm sorry that happened. Did this therapist tell you if might happen or what?

[Fuzzybear]

I was just dumped - no warning.

Thanks everyone

[koru_kiwi]

sending hugs your way FuzzyBear


sorry you have been let down again

please don't give up hope

[SlumberKitty]

HUGS Fuzzybear, so sorry this happened.

[blackocean]

Is that even allowed???? “Ethical”?

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by blackocean

Is that even allowed???? “Ethical”?

It doesn’t matter..
I don’t matter
It’s my fault ....
It always was
They can’t mend a screwed up stupid ***** like me
I don’t even deserve a “hug”
I pollute everywhere I go

Thank you all for replying. I only got what I deserve... rejection and being blamed for my problems by an expert. They are “right” to help others since I’m not deserving. It’s ethical to give help to those who deserve it, I don’t and I deserve no explanation aside from being blamed by them

[Wonderfalls]

The only reason I can see for dropping a client abruptly is if the therapist feels they or their private life are being invaded--as in threatened. Anything else has to be their fault because their training is supposed to cover all types of situations. How could your problems be owned by you? It's a shared problem. If your problem is a barrier problem, then that's theirs too to deal with too. Your therapist should help you find someone who can deal with you, specifically. Otherwise they aren't doing their job.

[LabRat27]

Originally Posted by Wonderfalls

The only reason I can see for dropping a client abruptly is if the therapist feels they or their private life are being invaded--as in threatened. Anything else has to be their fault because their training is supposed to cover all types of situations. How could your problems be owned by you? It's a shared problem. If your problem is a barrier problem, then that's theirs too to deal with too. Your therapist should help you find someone who can deal with you, specifically. Otherwise they aren't doing their job.

That's pretty much the only ethical reason, the other being circumstances outside their control

that doesn't mean it's the only reason
some therapists have a strong emotional reaction to something and react too quickly based on their initial reaction without taking enough time to process and think about it
some therapists don't think things through or misjudge
some therapists aren't ethical and willingly and knowingly hurt a client/patient in a way that's unethical for their own (likely selfish or at least self-centered) reasons.
Some therapists aren't doing their job.

[here today]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

It doesn’t matter..
I don’t matter
It’s my fault ....
It always was
They can’t mend a screwed up stupid ***** like me
I don’t even deserve a “hug”
I pollute everywhere I go

Thank you all for replying. I only got what I deserve... rejection and being blamed for my problems by an expert. They are “right” to help others since I’m not deserving. It’s ethical to give help to those who deserve it, I don’t and I deserve no explanation aside from being blamed by them

Fuzzy -- THEY are screwed up. Maybe you somewhat, too, but so what -- you're a client, seeking therapy. THEY, and their system, are screwed up because they can't help and then they do things like this to you.

Emotionally, that may not make sense -- been there, done that, couldn't make sense to me either.

Except that -- logically -- can you see that that's true?

I lay on my sofa 3 years ago, after my last shaming, rejecting response from my last T, in a similar state to what you are writing about, and somewhere, despite that, some logic showed through. Finally. Didn't help a lot at the time -- maybe, because it's like "what am I going to do if it's THEM who are screwed up? The people I am going to for help?" But, over time, the logic has persisted and the feeling state has lessened.

The whole situation really sucks. They need to do something to fix it. They aren't.

Hope maybe something, out of the blue, shines through for you, too, before long.

[Xynesthesia2]

I am very sorry you did not have better luck again. I second what here today said and also, maybe therapy is just not for you overall. It would not be because you are damaged beyond repair at all, simply just it is only one approach and is not compatible/useful for everyone. It wasn't very useful for me either and I don't blame either the entire industry or myself - just not something that is effective for me. Much like a medication, lifestyle etc can work great for some but not others. Also, I am not sure what you would be seeking therapy for but I've found peer support communities much more useful, both online and in the 3D world. Where people actually relate to each-other, can share insight and tips for what has worked for them and provide company. I do think that therapy is extremely limited in what it can help and achieve.

[rainbow8]

I don't understand how Ts can do that to you. What is the reason they give you? It's not your fault, and I'm SO sorry this happened to you. There's got to be a compassionate, caring T for you! How long had you been seeing this one? Hugs.