Couch 192: The Rainbow Cupcake Couch

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:54 PM

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Yay! They accepted my offer! Moving 20 minutes closer to work.

Awesome, congrats!

LostOnTheTrail · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:55 PM

Having session sooner than usual is both good and bad. It was good to be able to follow up on our work so soon, but now I have to wait longer for the next one. Roll on next Thursday. Could really do with it not being April quite so soon, but there's nothing much I can do about that.

As to where I will end up going in session..that's anybody's guess.

Need to clarify whether I'll have a session the week beginning the 8th. Handy having a break thrown in at a time when I am the most confused. After April the year runs away with itself.

Possible trigger:

I am in a great deal of emotional pain, but I will not admit that to myself.

Jersey 4 · Mar 27, 2019 at 07:08 PM

My cousin is sending her teenage son over to help H with the basement. The boys wants new sneakers and she is going to make him earn the money for them. So that’s happening in 2 weeks. At least one thing got resolved today.

stopdog · Mar 27, 2019 at 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Did...did they swap where hugs and thanks are under posts? Didn't hugs used to be at the bottom? Am I making that up?

They are both still at the bottom for me - otherwise I can't tell a difference. It looks the same to me. But I have mine set to a fairly minimalist look in so far as it is customizable.

Mar 27, 2019 at 07:33 PM

Currently there is a lizard on the outside of my office window, and my cats are insistent that they have the ability to scratch through the glass to get to said lizard. They are not yet ready to admit defeat. The three of them are working together at it.

Jersey 4 · Mar 27, 2019 at 07:35 PM

It’s 8:30pm and I still have 4 loads of laundry to do. Guess I’m out of here for tonight.

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Currently there is a lizard on the outside of my office window, and my cats are insistent that they have the ability to scratch through the glass to get to said lizard. They are not yet ready to admit defeat. The three of them are working together at it.

Con-catenation!

Omers · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Currently there is a lizard on the outside of my office window, and my cats are insistent that they have the ability to scratch through the glass to get to said lizard. They are not yet ready to admit defeat. The three of them are working together at it.

OK, this is SO wrong but... is the lizard really a T helping them come to terms with their unmet needs from their human, helping them release some of that built up anger?

I am so bad tonight and no filters.

WarmFuzzySocks · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:33 PM

I'm doing laundry with you, Jersey.

Happy folding!

ElectricManatee · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:37 PM

I'm going to see a psychiatric nurse practitioner tomorrow. I don't really want to go back on meds, but it seems wise at this juncture. The practice gave me an intake packet to fill out that's like half an inch thick. I really hope I like and trust this person because they are certainly going to know a lot about me after they read all this information.

Unrelatedly, what is up with therapists thinking everybody is going to develop erotic feelings for them? It comes across as weirdly arrogant to me. I'm fortunate that my T doesn't seem to jump to that conclusion all the time, but I have had to explain to her on several occasions that I don't secretly wish we could be friends. Frankly, I would be much more comfortable with erotic transference than with my raging maternal transference.

ElectricManatee · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I'm doing laundry with you, Jersey.

Happy folding!

I keep creating Mount Laundry over and over. Clean clothes come out of the dryer and then everything just grinds to a halt.

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Frankly, I would be much more comfortable with erotic transference than with my raging maternal transference.

That makes sense. At least erotic transference puts you on an equal footing.

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Unrelatedly, what is up with therapists thinking everybody is going to develop erotic feelings for them? It comes across as weirdly arrogant to me. I'm fortunate that my T doesn't seem to jump to that conclusion all the time, but I have had to explain to her on several occasions that I don't secretly wish we could be friends. Frankly, I would be much more comfortable with erotic transference than with my raging maternal transference.

Well, like Info always says:

I’m too sexy for my shirt

Actually, I’ve never had a therapist seem to think I’m going to fall in love with them. It might have been the pulsing waves of hostility that radiate off me towards them.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I'm going to see a psychiatric nurse practitioner tomorrow. I don't really want to go back on meds, but it seems wise at this juncture. The practice gave me an intake packet to fill out that's like half an inch thick. I really hope I like and trust this person because they are certainly going to know a lot about me after they read all this information.

Unrelatedly, what is up with therapists thinking everybody is going to develop erotic feelings for them? It comes across as weirdly arrogant to me. I'm fortunate that my T doesn't seem to jump to that conclusion all the time, but I have had to explain to her on several occasions that I don't secretly wish we could be friends. Frankly, I would be much more comfortable with erotic transference than with my raging maternal transference.

I was just telling my T today about how the paternal transference was the more difficult part for me with ex-MC. And now that I'm feeling a bit of it for T, it's scaring me. ET I can deal with--the paternal stuff is much more painful. Though in reading more about it, I think what I had for ex-MC was actually maternal transference. More looking for the nurturing, the unconditional love. While with T, it's more paternal, someone to both advise and protect me.

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

That makes sense. At least erotic transference puts you on an equal footing.

Um...how does unrequited love put anyone on an equal footing?

WarmFuzzySocks · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:46 PM

Oh man, Couch, stick a fork in me.

The dishwasher leaked. There is now a giant dehumidifier in my kitchen. I am exhausted by the constant noise. And the back of the linoleum began to mildew, and we can't remove it until the insurance guy gets a chance to inspect it and gives the go-ahead AND the boys' dad (with the best of intentions, wanting to help the experts who might not have set things up right) rolled back the linoleum which exposed the mildew-y back all night long to the dehumidifier that is blowing air all over the place.

So on top of everything else, my eyes itch, which is really. the. worst.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

That makes sense. At least erotic transference puts you on an equal footing.

Exactly. And as I said to my T today, he could probably just write of ET as "Oh, she just finds me attractive." I imagine dealing with someone only 7 years younger than him with paternal transference is more difficult. Though it seems he believes it's more about core needs being met (or not) than transference per se. Or something.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Um...how does unrequited love put anyone on an equal footing?

Hm, good point. Or love that might possibly be requited, but they could never even tell you, let alone act on it.

WarmFuzzySocks · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I keep creating Mount Laundry over and over. Clean clothes come out of the dryer and then everything just grinds to a halt.

Here too. I've been washing and drying, but the baskets of clean things are sitting in the living room stubbornly not folding themselves.

I never get to chill, I Netflix and fold instead.

I try to tell myself I'm being efficient, doing it all in one go.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 08:53 PM

Hugs, WFS...

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Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Mar 27, 2019 at 07:08 PM #383 My cousin is sending her teenage son over to help H with the basement. The boys wants new sneakers and she is going to make him earn the money for them. So that’s happening in 2 weeks. At least one thing got resolved today.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Mar 27, 2019 at 07:33 PM #385 Currently there is a lizard on the outside of my office window, and my cats are insistent that they have the ability to scratch through the glass to get to said lizard. They are not yet ready to admit defeat. The three of them are working together at it.

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Mar 27, 2019 at 07:35 PM #386 It’s 8:30pm and I still have 4 loads of laundry to do. Guess I’m out of here for tonight.

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,309 6 15.5k hugs given	Mar 27, 2019 at 08:33 PM #389 I'm doing laundry with you, Jersey. Happy folding! __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,768 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Mar 27, 2019 at 08:53 PM #400 Hugs, WFS...