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Poohbah
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#21
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But seriously, piggymomma, I'm glad to hear that you've found someone to work with over the summer. I, too, am curious why you're so worried that you'll like the new person. Do you feel like it's being disloyal in some way? Or are you worried that if the new T works better for you, it's a threat to your attachment to your current T? |
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Poohbah
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Magnate
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#23
Permission? This is so odd.
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Grand Poohbah
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#24
OP appears to enjoy the input/interference from her therapist. In that sense, it is not odd at all. It probably feels like evidence that he cares about her, despite it being more about collusion with waifdom than being about care in any empowering sense.
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Poohbah
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#25
I do value his input. I have a history of making very poor decisions so if he can guide me in such a way that I can learn better decision making skills, I will take it.
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Poohbah
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#26
I found someone else who specifically enjoys working with Borderlines, so I've requested an appt with her as well. She works on a sliding scale so she will be more affordable. I'm sure between the two of them, one of them will work for me.
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Grand Magnate
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#27
Maybe instead of having T's make your decisions for you, you could ask them for skills on doing them yourself. I think you would benefit way more with learning to do it on your own and feel good about it. It's something I struggled with for most of my life because my mom always made my decisions for me. Learning to do them on my own, even if they felt wrong or ended up not going well, has made me feel better about myself and my abilities.
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Poohbah
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#29
I think it's great you are open minded enough to try out a woman T, and I hope she's better than the other guy just because it's good to have more acceptable choices to choose from. Good luck with it.
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Poohbah
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#31
This is an understatement. If he was your husband, everyone would call it what it is: an abusive relationship. This dude is on a massive power trip. Why this **** gets rationalized is beyond me.
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Poohbah
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#32
I met with the new guy today. OMG. He’s AMAZING. I’m actually really excited now for the summer.
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#33
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#34
That's awesome news.
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Poohbah
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#35
He is everything my current T is not. I think I’m going to get soooo much out of working with him.
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#36
I am so glad you like your new t hope it works out for you. Hugs
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#37
Wow! I'm excited and happy for you, it sounds like the new guy is going to be a big help! Glad you were able to get in early and not have to deal with weeks of worry leading up to the first time meeting him!
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