Booked with new guy

I found someone else who specifically enjoys working with Borderlines, so I've requested an appt with her as well. She works on a sliding scale so she will be more affordable. I'm sure between the two of them, one of them will work for me.

Maybe instead of having T's make your decisions for you, you could ask them for skills on doing them yourself. I think you would benefit way more with learning to do it on your own and feel good about it. It's something I struggled with for most of my life because my mom always made my decisions for me. Learning to do them on my own, even if they felt wrong or ended up not going well, has made me feel better about myself and my abilities.

Hopefully one of the two you see is a good match for you

I agree. I told current T that I have a list of changes that I want to make going forward in September. This is one of them. Thank you for being gentle in your verbiage.

I think it's great you are open minded enough to try out a woman T, and I hope she's better than the other guy just because it's good to have more acceptable choices to choose from. Good luck with it.

Yes - you nailed it all. Well, I don't feel like it's disloyal in the sense that I know I'm returning to current T in September, and he's the one insisting I see someone, but I AM worried I will like the new T better and it will create a massive dilemma for me. I really don't want to switch, so I don't want to be put in a position where I have to decide which is better. I know our current relationship is odd, and we have our share of "moments", but I really do like the guy, and he has helped me a lot.

This is an understatement. If he was your husband, everyone would call it what it is: an abusive relationship. This dude is on a massive power trip. Why this **** gets rationalized is beyond me.

I met with the new guy today. OMG. He’s AMAZING. I’m actually really excited now for the summer.

I'm glad it went so well Piggy Momma

That's awesome news.

He is everything my current T is not. I think I’m going to get soooo much out of working with him.

I am so glad you like your new t hope it works out for you. Hugs

Wow! I'm excited and happy for you, it sounds like the new guy is going to be a big help! Glad you were able to get in early and not have to deal with weeks of worry leading up to the first time meeting him!