Couch 193: The Aurora Borealis Couch

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience.

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy!

The Aurora Borealis also known as the northern lights are something I want to see someday. Plus I like to think of everyone on the couch as a light to someone else.

Last couch reached 100 pages, so here ya go!

New couch!!! Yay! Thank you.

We did have this moment where I said I was my father's daughter, that he was the most important person to me at the moment.( to which he replied that was the most real thing I've said in weeks). I said he couldn't see the real me, but then I don't know the real me. He said the way he behaved was because he cared about me. That he didn't need all the extra stuff. I reacted the way I did because I felt rejected, but now I think that in a way he could have taken advantage of me but didn't,

Can you break it down? What's the reason for the anger?

Are you part of a team or is it a solo presentation?

About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.

I liked Maxwell Maltz book Psychocybernetics. It sounds simple to say, but one of the things he suggested was to imagine it all out in your head bit by bit. Perhaps you can you film yourself doing the presentation, then watch it back to see where you could improve? Can you take a transitional object with you and keep it in your pocket?

Good luck on your presentation. When it's time for the Q & A, ask if there are any questions with your palms down. It's a subconscious signal that you aren't open to receiving questions. It's a little trick I used during uni that I found helpful. HUGS Kit

Thanks, I'll check that book out. I have tried making videos of myself presenting before. I don't think a transitional object would do much for me.

Thanks. I actually want them to ask questions, it's bad if they don't. My hope is to get them all talking to each other during the Q&A so I can hyperventilate while they're distracted.

Did you ever try Propranolol? This one is sometimes prescribed off label for speeches or performances. It may help.

Perhaps it is an important path of my growth to let go of the fantasy that Madame T would ever be adequate.

Thank you Una.



Ive been your offical mini me for a while now! We also had this moment with instant coffee.

I might just have to find a new coffee shop to study at on the weekends though. The one I like is a chain store and they do have 3 in our area, but it's the biggest one and I have "my corner" .

I did end up going to the study group, and I left at 6.30pm. It's good in a way, but they stop every 10 seconds to ask questions to make sure it's crystal clear, but it takes longer. I'm going to just work on my own tomorrow, but have this fear of missing out. (like Walgreen's in the Theranos scandal).

Omg. Cuteness overload.

Una there's this new show on youtube called Britains Fattest People 2019. You need to see the bariatric surgeon.

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I know, im in looooove with him! I think ive seen him on something else! Wait, the cute curly haired indian doctor or the one who looks like anderson cooper?

I'm talking about Nick Carter. I was like when he came on.

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There's also Sean Somers who has appeared on another show.

hihi coucharoonios. another super busy day at work today. i'm on lunch now for another few minutes anyway. hugs, headnods and sparkles all around as wanted.

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