Couch 197: The Minuscule Couch

SlumberKitty · May 30, 2019 at 06:00 PM

I don't know if one of the guys from the possible new company is going to be here tomorrow or not. He said he was. The other guy from the other company said he wasn't. It's very confusing. Tomorrow might be a busy day, three people are out on vacation (3 out of 20). So it's not like last Friday when we had 2.5 hours to sit down with them and answer a bunch of questions. On the other hand tomorrow I get OT! And it's Friday, so woo hoo for that! HUGS Kit

88Butterfly88 · May 30, 2019 at 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

My mom bought me a new one at Wal-Mart while she was here, only $20! It's a little lower cut in the front (Info would approve haha) than I like but I'll get over it. At least it's not all saggy like my old one was. That was worse.

Cool, I'll have to look there.

WarmFuzzySocks · May 30, 2019 at 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

All of that's hard enough to do with a T we've been working with for months, but i wouldn't be able to with a complete stranger.

Getting your perspective might be helpful but I don't think you owe your ex anything anymore. Your duty lies to your own heart. I'm sorry it brought up a lot of distressing stuff up.

How are you doing now?

Thanks, lemon... I think you hit the nail on the head right where my struggle lies: I know his therapist needs this information to help my ex, but I am working on disentangling myself and not taking responsibility for him and I cannot dive into the past right now. You're absolutely right, my actual real right-now duty and responsibility is to myself. Thanks for saying that, it really helps.

I'm pretty anxious about the whole thing still.

On the bright side, yesterday I was pretty wound up and needed to be outside, so I weeded all of the grass out of my front flowerbed, and am getting ready to do the same in the back. Go, nervous energy, go!

May 30, 2019 at 06:14 PM

I am supposed to ring the practise of my potential new T but I keep putting off because it feels like I just giving up on my exT, or something like it makes everything final. I don't know if I could ring and not cry

ScarletPimpernel · May 30, 2019 at 06:28 PM

Our new place has a pool and my mom's place has a pool. I'll have to get a new bathing suit as well. I prefer bathing shorts and top rather than a one piece. Mostly to cover up my thighs and easier to go to the restroom if needed.

LonesomeTonight · May 30, 2019 at 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Our new place has a pool and my mom's place has a pool. I'll have to get a new bathing suit as well. I prefer bathing shorts and top rather than a one piece. Mostly to cover up my thighs and easier to go to the restroom if needed.

I like board shorts for the bottom part.

May 30, 2019 at 06:40 PM

I rang the practice I can't get in til August but I don't care I am on his wait list, there are receptionists my T didn't have a receptionist that I interacted with just a lady who sat at the desk outside his door. I paid my exT directly it is going to feel strange giving money to the receptionist.

May 30, 2019 at 06:40 PM

I can't swim I would love to be able to swim but I can't coordinate my arms and legs.

LonesomeTonight · May 30, 2019 at 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I rang the practice I can't get in til August but I don't care I am on his wait list, there are receptionists my T didn't have a receptionist that I interacted with just a lady who sat at the desk outside his door. I paid my exT directly it is going to feel strange giving money to the receptionist.

I honestly preferred dealing with a receptionist for the financial part--had that with ex-MC and ex-T (and current p-doc). Current T handles the financial part himself, so I hand him my credit card at the end of session, which seems to emphasize the financial/business part of the relationship. And tomorrow I have to tell him how he overcharged me last week, which would be so much easier to discuss with a receptionist, as it feels much more emotionally charged with a T.

atisketatasket · May 30, 2019 at 07:11 PM

I have spent far too much of today tangling with how to calculate GDP, real GDP, nominal GDP, GDP deflators...economics is interesting to learn but it takes up way too much time.

That's OK, because leisure is not counted in GDP. Or in studying it, apparently.

May 30, 2019 at 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I honestly preferred dealing with a receptionist for the financial part--had that with ex-MC and ex-T (and current p-doc). Current T handles the financial part himself, so I hand him my credit card at the end of session, which seems to emphasize the financial/business part of the relationship. And tomorrow I have to tell him how he overcharged me last week, which would be so much easier to discuss with a receptionist, as it feels much more emotionally charged with a T.

I hated at first discussing financial things with my exT like I couldn't afford full fees and sometimes I would not be able to pay but even though it brought up feelings of inadequacy and such I also learned that most things are negotiable. The problem with me is talking to a woman about these things and not knowing what the clinic rules are. My exT would let me get behind sometimes.

May 30, 2019 at 07:31 PM

I saw this on Facebook so set it up this a.m. in our bathroom to greet h he thought it was great haha
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May 30, 2019 at 08:36 PM

Earlier this week I emailed the awful art class teacher to say I would not be attending the last 2 classes and she hasn't responded. I didn't like the way she gossiped about people in the other classes. I wonder what she said about me?

May 30, 2019 at 08:37 PM

I am having a piece of Madeira cake and suddenly I want orange and poppyseed cake.

May 30, 2019 at 08:54 PM

See Artie Google Madeira cake....

May 30, 2019 at 09:02 PM

Oh! Yum.

May 30, 2019 at 09:24 PM

Our Madeira cakes are generally orange in flavour

Lemoncake · May 30, 2019 at 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Thanks, lemon... I think you hit the nail on the head right where my struggle lies: I know his therapist needs this information to help my ex, but I am working on disentangling myself and not taking responsibility for him and I cannot dive into the past right now. You're absolutely right, my actual real right-now duty and responsibility is to myself. Thanks for saying that, it really helps.

I'm pretty anxious about the whole thing still.

On the bright side, yesterday I was pretty wound up and needed to be outside, so I weeded all of the grass out of my front flowerbed, and am getting ready to do the same in the back. Go, nervous energy, go!

I got the duty line from the disney movie Mulan 2.

Even though i complain a lot about R, the biggest thing he taught me was that it was okay to put myself first and that I didn't have to be nice. I would say yes to things I didn't even want to do, and trying to be the best version of me took so much out of me.

It's okay to have boundaries, and to say no. There's a video on youtube with Jada Smith where she's talking to her daughter Willow and she says she can't help anyone unless she makes sure that she's doing okay first.

YouTube

Maybe a short hike would help?

Lemoncake · May 30, 2019 at 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I saw this on Facebook so set it up this a.m. in our bathroom to greet h he thought it was great haha
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Ooooo I like that!

SheHulk07 · May 30, 2019 at 10:11 PM

I went to my session with T this morning on only 2-3 hours of sleep. I fell asleep on the couch with my 2 youngest sometime after 10pm and woke up in a panic at 1:30 am. I ended up doing laundry, cleaning and journaling among other bad things. Around 4 I figured I'd have to wake up in a few hours anyway because we moved my session 2 hours earlier than normal, so might as well stay up. At least I warned him I was going off of almost no sleep. I feel like I rambled on about nothing the whole time and felt so tired. I don't even remember half my drive to his office which isn't safe. And I don't see him tomorrow like usual. He's going out of town and I thought he'd be back in time for our Tuesday evening session but turns out he'll be gone until Wednesday night. So I have a whole week without him and only 2 sessions next week

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Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 06:14 PM #204 I am supposed to ring the practise of my potential new T but I keep putting off because it feels like I just giving up on my exT, or something like it makes everything final. I don't know if I could ring and not cry

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,413 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,432 hugs given	May 30, 2019 at 06:28 PM #205 Our new place has a pool and my mom's place has a pool. I'll have to get a new bathing suit as well. I prefer bathing shorts and top rather than a one piece. Mostly to cover up my thighs and easier to go to the restroom if needed. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 06:40 PM #207 I rang the practice I can't get in til August but I don't care I am on his wait list, there are receptionists my T didn't have a receptionist that I interacted with just a lady who sat at the desk outside his door. I paid my exT directly it is going to feel strange giving money to the receptionist.

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 06:40 PM #208 I can't swim I would love to be able to swim but I can't coordinate my arms and legs.

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,150 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	May 30, 2019 at 07:11 PM #210 I have spent far too much of today tangling with how to calculate GDP, real GDP, nominal GDP, GDP deflators...economics is interesting to learn but it takes up way too much time. That's OK, because leisure is not counted in GDP. Or in studying it, apparently.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 07:31 PM #212 I saw this on Facebook so set it up this a.m. in our bathroom to greet h he thought it was great haha

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 08:36 PM #213 Earlier this week I emailed the awful art class teacher to say I would not be attending the last 2 classes and she hasn't responded. I didn't like the way she gossiped about people in the other classes. I wonder what she said about me?

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 08:37 PM #214 I am having a piece of Madeira cake and suddenly I want orange and poppyseed cake.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 08:54 PM #215 See Artie Google Madeira cake....

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 09:02 PM #216 Oh! Yum.

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	May 30, 2019 at 09:24 PM #217 Our Madeira cakes are generally orange in flavour