Does your T check in on you?

T reached out once to check how I was doing. It actually was not helpful. There was something going on in my life that was painful. At that point I was doing other things to distract myself. Her email brought me back to the problem.

She frequently reached out for non therapy stuff. Which way helpful for the connection.

Emdr T never has normally I am okay with it. A few weeks ago I had an episode where I became nauseous, hot. Felt dain and unsteady on my feet. A part of me wished she

she did only once, a long time ago, it was while i was taking a break from therapy, well mid-break my dad passed away, and i called her that morning and told her on the phone and we talked briefly about it, she was a big help that morning. After that it was a few weeks later she emailed me said she had been thinking of me and was checking on how I was doing. a month or so after that i resumed therapy.

Never. However, he does respond promptly to emails and phone calls. He has also given extra sessions when requested. The one thing he offered unasked was video sessions during his multi-week trip.

No, my T has never checked on me. I don't think I would like that and as I'm sure others have said, that is not considered part of what T's are supposed to do. For me having a place to go once/week where I know he will be there and responsive to me, makes me feel less alone. But I am stupidly optimistic and a glass half full kind of person. For me it means a lot that that space is available for me and it's mind to do with as I please.

Awesome T does not as it would undermine many of our current treatment goals. I suppose he would if say he saw an accident on the news that looked like my car or heard on the news of some kind of emergency near where I live. But as a general rule no. He wants me to initiate contact and ask for what I need. He would also see it as pushing me or forcing me to talk to him.

I did have a T who would. She nurtured a very dependant relationship and then therapy became very harmful. That T hurt me just as much as the people who neglected/abandoned me and the ones who were emotionally abusive.

Only if I email first or if i've skipped a
session. Very infrequently to rearrange session time.

No and I think this would be hugely triggering and confusing for me. I get triggered enough just being asked in session if I can keep myself safe outside of session so the idea of a check-in phone call that I didn't initate would lead to a spiral and a felt invasion of privacy together with my needy side wanting to be adopted. Yay abandment issues.

Nope. I don't have any contact between sessions... unless it's an emergency.

I wish she would. But I email first if I have questions or comments about our work together. I often need to resist the urge to email, since I often want to talk about stuff that can only be discussed during sessions.

Never. And with the exception of this summer where we agreed he would email me on Mondays, he usually doesn’t respond to my emails either.

Very very rarely. I think maybe 3 times in 3 years? It gives me the warm fuzzies when it happens though, like maybe he might actually care a teeny tiny bit. He does normally reply in some form to any emails I send too.