Dear T: I really need to tell you something XLI

HowDoYouFeelMeow? · Sep 13, 2019 at 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart

Maybe she sees the dog as a therapy dog? Some ts use them. That said, I completely understand your feelings and your T shouldn't allow it to jump up and lick you. My T has a dog but it doesn't come into the therapy room. Just as well really as I'm a dog lover and it would be a distraction (in a different way!).

In a way, yes. It’s passed off as a therapy dog for the clients, but it’s pretty clear that it’s actually a therapy dog for T. I don’t mind it when it’s behaving or even licks a little bit, but I do mind when it continuously barks without her trying to stop it, when the licking and jumping is excessive, and when our sessions pause so she can tend to its needs.

Sep 13, 2019 at 11:53 PM

Thank you for expressing how much you enjoy working with me the other day. I have really sensed that since I came back in June, and 'twas nice to hear. I need this break though and I appreciate your understanding why. And thank you for saying that bit about how at least I am able to TALK about why I do, now. Where I couldn't before. I don't know yet when I will be ready to come back. I will, though. I will.

Lemoncake · Sep 14, 2019 at 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by HowDoYouFeelMeow?

In a way, yes. It’s passed off as a therapy dog for the clients, but it’s pretty clear that it’s actually a therapy dog for T. I don’t mind it when it’s behaving or even licks a little bit, but I do mind when it continuously barks without her trying to stop it, when the licking and jumping is excessive, and when our sessions pause so she can tend to its needs.

You have a right to say if you want it there or not. It's YOUR session and time. I wouldn't be happy with it being a distraction.

Lemoncake · Sep 14, 2019 at 04:21 AM

School starts in 16 days.
You go away for a week in 17.

I think I'll see you when you come back.

comrademoomoo · Sep 14, 2019 at 08:55 AM

You've changed your mind already, I knew you would do. You should never have told me that you loved me, it is a stupid thing.

kaleidoscopeheart · Sep 14, 2019 at 09:31 AM

I know I said I wouldn't just curl up in bed, but I totally am. I wish I could see you earlier because that last session seriously messed me up.

kumy · Sep 14, 2019 at 10:34 AM

I wish you could read minds

chihirochild · Sep 14, 2019 at 01:06 PM

Dear T,

I miss you, even though I just saw you yesterday. I hate this.

-c

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 14, 2019 at 01:08 PM

'If you could read my mind, R
What a tale my thoughts would tell...'

Seething quietly, but maintaining.

unaluna · Sep 14, 2019 at 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

'If you could read my mind, R
What a tale my thoughts would tell...'

Seething quietly, but maintaining.

Gordon Lightfoot, my alltime favorite song.

susannahsays · Sep 14, 2019 at 05:00 PM

What are you doing

malika138 · Sep 14, 2019 at 08:46 PM

I don't know where I am - I am not depressed. I went to the office picnic today, but only spoke to a few people. On some psych central quizzes I only score mild anxiety but other it is moderate. I went to pilates last week

Possible trigger:

and I freaked out when she touched my back and my hands.

I told you this in an email and said I was exhausted afterwards. You focused your response on how sleeping in a poor coping mechanism. But you ignored my reaction to touch. Is this just about learning coping mechanism for dealing with anxiety? I feel fine.

Possible trigger:

Last night, when I was home alone, and the family was out, I SH.

If I don't tell anyone then am I doing it for attention? I think it is affirming, but I don't know what it is affirming.

Possible trigger:

It makes me feel real. It reminds me I feel.

I don't even tell you all that often.
No one would look at me and think I need therapy or meds. So what am I doing in therapy and on meds?

LonesomeTonight · Sep 14, 2019 at 09:04 PM

Dear ex-DrT,
I went to one of those painting things tonight. At one point, describing a technique, the instructor said to imagine someone you're mad at. And I thought of you. It's not my greatest work, but it got some stuff out, I think. I do appreciate that you convinced me to try painting. Maybe I'll eventually get brave enough to take an actual class....

LT

susannahsays · Sep 14, 2019 at 11:52 PM

A little while ago, I heard you tell the receptionist to tell some woman you are full and can't take her on. This made me feel smug for some reason.

Jersey 4 · Sep 15, 2019 at 07:19 AM

Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. I keep thinking back to that one session where you said you wanted to refer me out. I should have told you to go ahead. I was too deep in transference to realize you would have been doing me a favor.

I don’t know why I felt like I needed you so much. Stupid me.

Lonelyinmyheart · Sep 15, 2019 at 07:54 AM

I'm trying not to text you, especially as you suggested doing so on our usual session day. I'm trying not to care because caring hurts. If my money situation changed I can't trust that you would see me, so I don't want to get into something that is going to hurt me. You're so giving, so empathic. so caring, that it hurts my heart to see you. It's a while yet anyway, so trying to focus on other things and not care.

ChickenNoodleSoup · Sep 15, 2019 at 08:37 AM

I miss you sooo much right now... only 5 more days, I guess.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 15, 2019 at 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Gordon Lightfoot, my alltime favorite song.

I also adore that song. First heard it on the Trigger Happy TV soundtrack in the late 90s and didn't know what it was for years.

daisydid · Sep 15, 2019 at 10:17 AM

To all the ones I've loved before,

I miss you. I'm searching for yet another new therapist, and I wish you were an option. But life doesn't work that way. Distance or money or time make me seeing you impossible. So I will continue to search, and hopefully I can love again.

Jersey 4 · Sep 15, 2019 at 12:46 PM

Oh and also do you remember that time you double booked me with another client and took me instead of the other client? Yeah. I hated you that day because when you walked in you said to me..”she has a balance from last session anyhow” That’s the day the whole so called “relationship” changed. I got the spot that day because I paid my bill on time.

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Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 04:21 AM #724 School starts in 16 days. You go away for a week in 17. I think I'll see you when you come back. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."
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kaleidoscopeheart Member Member Since Apr 2017 Location: Parts Unknown Posts: 333 7 77 hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 09:31 AM #726 I know I said I wouldn't just curl up in bed, but I totally am. I wish I could see you earlier because that last session seriously messed me up.
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kumy Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2019 Location: hanging from a cloud Posts: 3,002 4 192 hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 10:34 AM #727 I wish you could read minds
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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 05:00 PM #731 What are you doing __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,768 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 09:04 PM #733 Dear ex-DrT, I went to one of those painting things tonight. At one point, describing a technique, the instructor said to imagine someone you're mad at. And I thought of you. It's not my greatest work, but it got some stuff out, I think. I do appreciate that you convinced me to try painting. Maybe I'll eventually get brave enough to take an actual class.... LT
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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Sep 14, 2019 at 11:52 PM #734 A little while ago, I heard you tell the receptionist to tell some woman you are full and can't take her on. This made me feel smug for some reason. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold
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Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 07:19 AM #735 Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. I keep thinking back to that one session where you said you wanted to refer me out. I should have told you to go ahead. I was too deep in transference to realize you would have been doing me a favor. I don’t know why I felt like I needed you so much. Stupid me.
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ChickenNoodleSoup Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2017 Location: In a land far far away Posts: 1,575 7 1,305 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 08:37 AM #737 I miss you sooo much right now... only 5 more days, I guess.
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daisydid Member Member Since Oct 2018 Location: the astral plane Posts: 493 5 375 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 10:17 AM #739 To all the ones I've loved before, I miss you. I'm searching for yet another new therapist, and I wish you were an option. But life doesn't work that way. Distance or money or time make me seeing you impossible. So I will continue to search, and hopefully I can love again.
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Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 12:46 PM #740 Oh and also do you remember that time you double booked me with another client and took me instead of the other client? Yeah. I hated you that day because when you walked in you said to me..”she has a balance from last session anyhow” That’s the day the whole so called “relationship” changed. I got the spot that day because I paid my bill on time.
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