[precaryous]

A while back you said something that helped me on the Psychotherapy forum. I’m looking for your quote now but can’t find it.

It was something like, ‘Bad times come but they ALWAYS GO...’

Can you please help find it for me?
Thank you!

[Amyjay]

Eesh. I am sorry, I wouldn't have a clue how to help you find it. It could be in almost any thread, right? And from any time frame?

[atisketatasket]

Sorry for butting in...I used advanced search (upper right) limiting it to Psychotherapy and threads the two of you had both posted on.

This is the closest I got to what you described, pre, so if that’s not it maybe play around with search some more.

https://psychcentralforums.com/6453987-post3.html

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I can't speak to whether you should tell him about it or not.

But, this is really good learning/growing material for you. You felt so utterly overwhelmed and devastated that you had fully planned what to do about it. But in that plan you gave yourself a chance - you were going to wait until after Monday's session.

Then Monday's session came and it was better and you felt better, and the overwhelm passed and you were able to abandon your plan.

This is the learning and the change right here. When those devastating feelings overwhelm you, try to observe the cycle of what happens... because the cycle is they will overwhelm you, and then they will go. They will ALWAYS go. Even when in the middle of them it feels like nothing will ever exist again except for what you feel in that exact moment.

The more you can learn about that cycle and hold on to your knowledge of that cycle and keep a part of yourself detached and observant and waiting, the more stable and even-keeled and growing you will become.

Has this cycle happened before? Does it always follow a similar path? What things bring you out of it and back to even-keeled and rationally-thinking again?

The key to ending or healing this cycle and reducing the danger from it is in understanding it and bit by bit, developing the ability to hold on to the knowledge of it through the hard times.

In my experience being able to discuss this cycle with one's therapist is actually really helpful too. Sometimes when overwhelm is triggered the therapist can prompt or remind the observant remembering part of self or "wake them up" or activate them to remind them. Then that part can step in and hold the safety until the overwhelm subsides. It can become part of a shared understanding of a safety plan.

[Amyjay]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Sorry for butting in...I used advanced search (upper right) limiting it to Psychotherapy and threads the two of you had both posted on.

This is the closest I got to what you described, pre, so if that’s not it maybe play around with search some more.

https://psychcentralforums.com/6453987-post3.html

Thanks. Your butt is appreciated.

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Sorry for butting in...I used advanced search (upper right) limiting it to Psychotherapy and threads the two of you had both posted on.

This is the closest I got to what you described, pre, so if that’s not it maybe play around with search some more.

https://psychcentralforums.com/6453987-post3.html

That’s it!
I used search but couldn’t find it. Thanks!

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

Thanks. Your butt is appreciated.