[Searcher11]

Hi All....

i have stumbled across this site whilst looking for answers to impossible questions.... i have been in therapy for like 2 years or more now.... my therapist is great.... she has made such a difference to my life.... in fact i probably owe her my life....

but.... i have fallen head over heels.... deeply, deeply in love with her.... i know its a dream.... a fantasy.... cant ever be real.... but what do you do?? what is the answer....?? how do you let go of that stuff without destroying the very relationship you live for??

hard stuff.... its been so helpful for me to read past posts.... and i guess all in all there is no answer to these questions.... well, no answer i wanna hear anyway!

look forward to being a part of this community.... seems great....

best wishes.... Sara... X

[MissCharlotte]

Hi Searcher,

I would guess that the majority of us here have been in love with our T's at one point or another and many of us are madly in love with them now

Why do you want to let go? I do believe this love is real. It will never be consummated in the way of physical love making but it is real love and the relationship is a real relationship.

I think it's beautiful that you can express these feelings. Maybe you can discuss this with T? You two can explore why you have the urge to let it go and what these feelings may mean.

Welcome

[krazibean]

It's a wonderful feeling. very real. its also a crucial part of the heeling process. talk about these feelings with her. more likely than not, her understanding and sympathy for you will draw you even closer
Welcome to PC

[DePressMe]

Hi searcher, you are not the only one to fall for their T or pdoc. I fell for my pdoc. I had to examine why I had those feelings. It came down to a few things. One, he knew about my illness and yet still seemed to accept me. All the other things that attracted me to him were things that I was missing in my current relationships. Like my boyfriend and I live apart. I daydreamed about doing simple everyday things for my pdoc like making him breakfast and such. It might be interesting if you wrote out why you are attracted to your T. and maybe then see about getting some of those wants/needs full filled in your other relationships. One thing I found I had to do was talk with my pdoc about it. They are accustom to dealing with this type of thing and probably would be able to help you through it. Also, falling for my pdoc was a sign of trust--it was something I had to work through so we could have a positive relationship, but it was a good thing. I trust him even more now that we have cleared the air and I have moved on.

[Hopefull]

I love my T too. I love the fact that she encourages and nutures me. I'd look at what it is that you love about T. You probably need to find ways to get some of those same psychological needs met elsewhere too. It is also a sign of feeling safe with T. I find that I am more open to her complements and nuturing than to others because of the safety of the relationship. I love my T.