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Has anyone dealt with jealousy or dislike from your therapists spouse
I know some might chalk this up to paranoia but , my therapists spouse runs his practices Facebook business page She blocked me from liking the page or any posts on the page, and from commenting on any post. That's honestly super passive aggressive I've been working with my therapist for almost 10 years, and have, at times, been in a lot of communication with his spouse, as I met them both at a residential treatment center in which he was the clinical director and she was my "lodge advisor" I have at times wondered if his spouse is somewhat jealous towards me and my therapy with my therapist, I dont understand why though. It just feels ****** to me Anyway just venting I guess __________________ |
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Does she do that with all the clients or just you?
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I see his other clients like and comment on her posts tho
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Based on just what you shared in the OP, it is not clear what the spouse would be jealous of, could be many reasons. Did you comment on the page before the blocking? Do you have an idea why she would be jealous?
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You know, just ask him about it. A lot of ts are NOT facebook friends with clients. I would say its more about protecting your privacy.
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As far as what she's jealous of I dont know. I dont even know if its jealousy . It definitely seems as if something is going on. I mean why would she block me for no reason . __________________ |
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I dont think you understand what I'm saying. And when did I ever say the world needs to know im his client . Its their practices Facebook page , where they post inspirational images and articles related to recovery and wellness and also events they hold
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I'm not calling you toxic!
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Over 1000 people like the business FB page . Many of his clients do comment often and like the posts. As far as outing myself as a client by just commenting or liking a post,I am not concerned about that __________________ |
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I was thinking that perhaps she didn't like something you commented (that is probably the most common reason people block others on social media), but if it was years ago and you only got blocked recently, that would not make much sense. I would just ask the T. I really think most therapists who use social media (including strictly business pages) do not manage them super consistently and democratically. I know this not only from observing but also because one thing I do as private work is managing professional social media for clients. They pretty often ask me to do things and deal with other users in ways that do not make any logical sense to me and are quite discriminating. This includes some mental health professionals. There is also the added layer if someone else is handling the pages and they have freedom to do things on it, they might not always adhere to policies the owner would have, strictly. Why is that? As I mentioned, IMO (and experience) it can be many things, even just as ordinary as an error or unintended click. The latter happened to me a couple times and it resulted in deleting an important contact, purely by mistake, which I did not even notice until much later. Other thing that happened, when handling many social media accounts from one computer, is posting something on the wrong page, for the wrong user, because I was not logged in to the correct account. That can be even more annoying even if it gets deleted immediately. None of these were in FB for me but others where it is easier to make mistakes, but can happen.
I can easily imagine jealousy from a Ts spouse as well, especially if they are in situations like you describe, know the client well etc. But I agree with you, it should not be managed in this way. If they choose to handle the profession in this way, which is a bit unconventional, I think they should be super responsible for not acting out impulses that may come with the nature of the situation. This is why I would ask the T directly, instead of speculating and getting too upset. If you don't want to express the upset, could maybe just say something like "You know I sometimes look at your professional FB page. I've just noticed recently that I'm blocked from it. Do you know why?" |
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It could be jealousy. That’s entirely possible. I suppose there are any number of reasons for it. You get his undivided attention. You get his utmost compassion. You get his validation. He is always kind and patient with you. In other words, you get the very best side of him. However, that’s not what it’s like for her at home simply because he’s not her therapist.
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This is how I know my therapists spouse __________________ |
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I dont meant jealous in like a romantic way I guess it just feels really passive aggressive. And kinda makes me feel bad about myself __________________ |
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Then if you're blocked it is the business that has blocked you. It might be hard but it seems like you could tell your T that you are blocked and ask what is the reason. Matter of factly, It's business. Maybe he knows, maybe he doesn't, maybe it is all a mistake. It's his business, It's up to him.
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