[Tangerine87]

Why did my T leave me? I’m struggling without my t. I’m sad. I’m all of the above. I’m a mess. Hes not coming back till 3 weeks. I am so dependent on him.

[MrsA]

Is he on vacation or away on a trip? Does he call or text or email? Maybe you could focus on his return and feel excited instead of sad? Inhope time passes quickly and you feel better soon!

[Tangerine87]

He’s on vacation. I feel like a kid so silly.

[Misterpain]

Don't feel silly it transference ,its that feeling of safety and support,that's built up , feeling silly would be eating a quart of Ben & Jerry everyday ,and trying to lose weigh by drinking diet soda ? Lee's calories in your pop helps but a better plan would be lay off the Ben & Jerry's.

What your feeling is uncomfortable and very real ,however framing it as "silly" trivialized normal natural therapeutic relationship into "stinking thinking" .

This can be a learning experience , to reevaluate all the progress and victories you have made with T, it will help you focus on where you've been and where your going, and give a warm fuzzy feeling of memories of T,it may not make the time till he returns go any faster,but het who doesn't love a "greatest hits" or how I progressed from there to here. I haven't been to therapist in many years ,but I will say ,some of my personal highlights are strange ( I was horribly abused by men,so I typically don't bond well, or let them get close to me) yet after a grueling exhausting session my therapist would give me a bear hug ( that always had the desired response, me getting Snot and tears on his sweater, all at the same time being incredibly vulnerable ,and yet needing that contact "the it's going to be all right" hug . So try and focus on the good healing instead of thinking it's self defeating and silly.

Peace

[Lonelyinmyheart]

Breaks are just so hard. My T is away as well. There's no getting away from the feelings it causes, no matter what the adult or logical side of us knows. It's okay to feel the way you do, even if it probably doesn't feel it and of course you don't want to hurt, no one does. It's good that you miss T though because it means you're attached and that's when the healing can occur in a safe therapeutic space. I hope you can talk to T about your feelings when he's back, but in the meantime would journaling your feelings help, writing to T or doing some artwork, anything creative? It can be an outlet.