Couch 205: The 5 x 41 Couch

unaluna · Sep 26, 2019 at 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Sometimes it’s better to be smarter than the people we hire.

It just occurred to me...in therapy we’re all like the Undercover Boss.

What? No, its just YOUR t that dresses in disguises! I cant figure this out, but i havent had my coffee yet.

NP_Complete · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:34 AM

There's an ophthalmologist in Florida who I share a name with. Same last name. Same first name, except I spell mine with an 'e' and hers is with an 'i'. The combo of first/last name is kind of unique; if you google it with either spelling, very few people come up. We use the same email provider and both have emails like firstname.lastname@email.com. I get mail for this person sporadically. In the past, I have forwarded her email to her, sometimes adding a note saying "hey, we have almost the same name, here's your email". I've never once gotten a thanks or any acknowledgement. I get personal stuff, like photos from a party, a magazine subscription she apparently bought for her kid, warranty information for a very expensive stove she bought, and professional stuff, like invites to ophthalmologist stuff, drug rep emails, some lawyer thing once. Am I an asshole if I just delete this stuff and don't forward it to her or am I just being petty because she's never once thanked me? What would you do?

kumy · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:44 AM

I don't think you're being petty. Everybody would like to receive a "thanks", at least once in awhile. I wouldn't blame you if you decide to stop forwarding it.
I would send her a email asking her whether she prefers to be forwarded her emails or not (and I would ask her if she could send mine if she gets it by mistake sometime).

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:53 AM

I’m going to see the life coach on the 8th at 7. After work. She says she only works part time on Tuesdays and Wednesday’s so she will accommodate a late appointment on Tuesdays. This should be fun. Let’s see if she can refrain from doing therapy.

SlumberKitty · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:56 AM

Good luck on the life coach appointment @Jersey 4 I hope she works out for what you want!

SlumberKitty · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:58 AM

Good morning, Couchies! I have a lot to think about from T last night. I will probably post it in IST. I don't know how I am this morning. I feel sort of disconnected from myself. It looks like it is going to be slow at work which I am not looking forward to because it makes the day long. But maybe some work will come up that I don't foresee. Hugs to anyone who wants one! Kit

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Good luck on the life coach appointment @Jersey 4 I hope she works out for what you want!

Thank you. As long as she doesn’t try to do therapy at me it will be fine.

unaluna · Sep 26, 2019 at 11:22 AM

Npcomplete - omg, shes probably just deleting all of yours!!! Sorry, this strikes a nerve! I went for a few years not getting emails at work because idiots assumed my email addr followed the standard format, but that had been taken YEARS ago by a now/then defunct employee, so everybody kept sending emails there, instead of to ME. Management didnt give a flying eff.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 26, 2019 at 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Thank you. As long as she doesn’t try to do therapy at me it will be fine.

Out of curiosity, what would you consider life coaching vs. therapy?

My problem is, when I think of "life coach" I think of this one...very screwed-up character from Nip/Tuck, which of course isn't an accurate representation of a life coach. But I'm honestly not sure of the difference between coaching and therapy, so I'm curious.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 26, 2019 at 12:09 PM

Today, in an incredible showing of self-control, I managed not to burst out laughing when Dr. T farted quite audibly near the start of session. He did excuse himself (otherwise maybe I'd have thought it was his chair or something). I sort of smiled and just carried on with what I was saying.

atisketatasket · 01:07 PM

I get emails for my mom—different first names and even emails but both doctors, even though she has an MD and I have a PhD. The AMA keeps pestering me for her dues.

As far as I know I am the only person in the world with my name. Makes it hard to avoid the FBI.

atisketatasket · Sep 26, 2019 at 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Out of curiosity, what would you consider life coaching vs. therapy?

My problem is, when I think of "life coach" I think of this one...very screwed-up character from Nip/Tuck, which of course isn't an accurate representation of a life coach. But I'm honestly not sure of the difference between coaching and therapy, so I'm curious.

I think of Jeremy on Peep Show, whose advice as a life coach was “If you sometimes think you should do something, you should do it.”

Um...yeah...

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Out of curiosity, what would you consider life coaching vs. therapy?

My problem is, when I think of "life coach" I think of this one...very screwed-up character from Nip/Tuck, which of course isn't an accurate representation of a life coach. But I'm honestly not sure of the difference between coaching and therapy, so I'm curious.

Life Coaching is different because she’s not just going to sit and listen to me talk about life and the problems that come up and how to handle them. We are just going to set some goals for myself going forward. This coaching isn’t going to be about H, my mother, my father, my siblings, anxiety, depression, etc. I have a very specific goal for this coaching. I need a coach to help me set goals to help me create a life worth living instead of feeling like I’m living in a purgatory. A lot of it is centered around what I do for a living.

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:12 PM

She told me no therapy will come into play for what I need.

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:15 PM

LT- think of it as if you were in college and talked to an academic advisor about which classes to take for the following semester.

Life coaching is going to be similar for me but just about work.

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I get emails for my mom—different first names and even emails but both doctors, even though she has an MD and I have a PhD. The AMA keeps pestering me for her dues.

As far as I know I am the only person in the world with my name. Makes it hard to avoid the FBI.

I hope you never find yourself in a situation where you need to run from them.

stopdog · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:20 PM

An ex-lawyer friend of mine stopped being a lawyer and became a life coach. His description of it is a that people do stuff when they feel accountable and he provides that and cheerleading/encouragement for people to take action.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

LT- think of it as if you were in college and talked to an academic advisor about which classes to take for the following semester.

Life coaching is going to be similar for me but just about work.

Ah, OK. That seems like a good way of describing it. I think I understand the difference now, from your postings. I think I had just envisioned a life coach as being sort of a more positive therapist. Like focusing on the good stuff and moving a client forward vs. talking about the past.

Jersey 4 · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Ah, OK. That seems like a good way of describing it. I think I understand the difference now, from your postings. I think I had just envisioned a life coach as being sort of a more positive therapist. Like focusing on the good stuff and moving a client forward vs. talking about the past.

Yes, I thought the academic advisor comparison may help.

atisketatasket · Sep 26, 2019 at 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

I hope you never find yourself in a situation where you need to run from them.

Too late...I told you Una was a bad influence.

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kumy Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2019 Location: hanging from a cloud Posts: 3,002 4 192 hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 10:44 AM #223 I don't think you're being petty. Everybody would like to receive a "thanks", at least once in awhile. I wouldn't blame you if you decide to stop forwarding it. I would send her a email asking her whether she prefers to be forwarded her emails or not (and I would ask her if she could send mine if she gets it by mistake sometime).

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,181 5 1,178 hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 10:53 AM #224 I’m going to see the life coach on the 8th at 7. After work. She says she only works part time on Tuesdays and Wednesday’s so she will accommodate a late appointment on Tuesdays. This should be fun. Let’s see if she can refrain from doing therapy.

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 10:56 AM #225 Good luck on the life coach appointment @Jersey 4 I hope she works out for what you want! __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,880 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.1k hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 12:09 PM #230 Today, in an incredible showing of self-control, I managed not to burst out laughing when Dr. T farted quite audibly near the start of session. He did excuse himself (otherwise maybe I'd have thought it was his chair or something). I sort of smiled and just carried on with what I was saying.

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,181 5 1,178 hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 01:12 PM #234 She told me no therapy will come into play for what I need.

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,181 5 1,178 hugs given	Sep 26, 2019 at 01:15 PM #235 LT- think of it as if you were in college and talked to an academic advisor about which classes to take for the following semester. Life coaching is going to be similar for me but just about work.