Found an an incredible podcast series by Carolyn Spring (who has DID) on healing from complex trauma. There's transcripts for ALL the podcasts, so feel free to read if listening to 35mins or so of audio isn't your cup of tea. I prefer reading transcripts since I rarely have the focus to sit and listen.

You cna find all her podcasts here: Podcasts | Carolyn Spring

[MoxieDoxie]

Geez I resemble this:

And then if we’re what in attachment terms is called insecure-ambivalent, then what we want more than anything is for the therapist to love us, to notice us, to care for us, to look after us, to be there for us. And we’re looking, even unconsciously, for a magical experience of connection which on its own will change us, we hope, by making us feel properly loved. Whereas what we need is someone who will hold their boundaries, someone who will encourage us to do the work ourselves – someone who will engage with us and empathise with us, but will also maintain a bit of professional distance, as it were, and encourage us to do the work of managing our feelings, of respecting boundaries, of not expecting a miracle cure, but actually to do the work for ourselves. It’s about learning to manage our feelings for ourselves, rather than always looking for others to do it for us. It’s about learning to step back from our often overwhelming emotions and mentalise and reflect and learn to tolerate distress without acting out. It’s lots of things, obviously, but what we want – the therapist to look after us and calm us down when we’re upset – is not necessarily what we need. We need the experience of co-regulation, of the therapist helping us manage our feelings, in order to develop self-regulation, of being able to do it for ourselves. But we do need to learn to do it for ourselves, rather than just waiting for our next therapy session and dumping all our distress there.

[koru_kiwi]

Originally Posted by QuietMind

Found an an incredible podcast series by Carolyn Spring (who has DID) on healing from complex trauma.

good find! thanks for sharing this. i read her book 'Recovery is my Best Revenge' quite a few years ago and found it incredibly relatable and inspirational, especially as a fellow survivor with DID. i hear she currently is doing training seminars, mainly to help therapists understand complex trauma and dissociative disorders and how best to work with them. good on her for doing this and helping to educate and bring awareness to one of the most misunderstood and stigmatised 'disorders' resulting from such horrific early childhood trauma(s).

Originally Posted by koru_kiwi

good find! thanks for sharing this. i read her book 'Recovery is my Best Revenge' quite a few years ago and found it incredibly relatable and inspirational, especially as a fellow survivor with DID. i hear she currently is doing training seminars, mainly to help therapists understand complex trauma and dissociative disorders and how best to work with them. good on her for doing this and helping to educate and bring awareness to one of the most misunderstood and stigmatised 'disorders' resulting from such horrific early childhood trauma(s).

I just got that book of hers too. She has another one called Unshame I'm looking at.