Couch 207: The spiced gingerbread couch

SlumberKitty · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Slumber, but is the person monthly or weekly? That overrides the actual calendar.

Why was fall always the blowing-upingest of the payroll runs?! 🤯 i guess because of all the holidays.

Hi unaluna, the person is a salaried individual who is taking an unpaid leave of absence for three days out of the pay period. I'm looking at labor law on the dol.gov website and you can either use an hourly or daily equivalent of the person's weekly salary or any other amount proportional to the time not worked. But as it turns out, you can do an hourly equivalent and a daily equivalent and the two do not come out the same way. I always error on the side of the employee (whichever way gives them more money) since it is not spelled out in our handbook but there's differing points of view on how to proceed. So it's complicated and I'm getting a headache. Sigh.

Lemoncake · 02:41 PM

I'm back home after having the joy of having my card declined at the store. ( My app didn't show me that I had a pending transaction so I had less money than I thought I did and I didn't actually check it today but did yesterday).

Thankfully I did have enough cash on me.

Moral of the story kids always carry cash.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

My new favorite tv show is Escape to the Country. I am soooo ignorant of UK history and geography. I am more convinced than ever that i am a long lost English princess.

Or maybe my twin princess? I've watched one too many episodes of that too.

Forget England come visit me in the Highlands. All the Shortbread and Haggis you could ever want.

YouTube

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Hi unaluna, the person is a salaried individual who is taking an unpaid leave of absence for three days out of the pay period. I'm looking at labor law on the dol.gov website and you can either use an hourly or daily equivalent of the person's weekly salary or any other amount proportional to the time not worked. But as it turns out, you can do an hourly equivalent and a daily equivalent and the two do not come out the same way. I always error on the side of the employee (whichever way gives them more money) since it is not spelled out in our handbook but there's differing points of view on how to proceed. So it's complicated and I'm getting a headache. Sigh.

It does sound complicated, but you're doing your best and knowing how to solve it is half the work.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Hi everyone, Therapy last night went okay with Pastor T. He wants me to have an "accountability partner" for the SH. Someone I can call and ask them to pray for me when I want to SH. I'm really not sure I am comfortable with this. First off, a lot of people IRL don't know about the SH so it would mean being open and vulnerable with someone--ugh. Second, it is not really a churchy sort of problem to have. Maybe that is me making judgments about myself, but I just don't know if people in my Church would get it. I have one friend from Church who I know would pray for me but she has told me before, she doesn't understand it at all. And he says I hang out too much with the senior adults, because they are safe and I don't have to be too vulnerable with them. I don't know if that is true. It's just that I hang out with my parents and they hang out with the senior crew. I'm going to go to therapy tomorrow night with regular T. I'm pretty stressed about the accountability partner thing. I kind of want to SH over it. Probably not a good thing. HUGS to anyone who wants one, Kit

I'm pretty sure there will be others at the church also struggling with SH .The thing is you could have an accountability partner, but it doesn't have to to be something you need to do right now. If it's stressing you out so much.

It's okay to also hang out with those you feel more comfortable with.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

My boss walked over to ask me a question while I was crying. Not just watery eyes, full-on tears rolling down cheeks. So embarrassing. He just said "when you have a minute can you come over and help me with something?" At least we both pretended it didn't happen.

Boss is human and has cried too.

How are you feeling now? Are you still at work or at home?

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

I missed about 250 posts. Sorry!

I have two cats. One of them has been missing since about the second week of June. I'm still going to houses in the neighborhood to see if anyone has seen him but no luck yet. I think it's time to give up. I asked G-d for a sign and this is what happened....

The next day I took my other cat to the vet for dental work. They did blood work before the dental and decided not to do the dental after all because her kidney function was impaired and she might not survive anesthesia. She's now on a special diet and she could have a year or two left. I think this is a sign that I should stop looking for my lost cat and focus on the one I still have.

I think someone has taken him in, I don't see any sign of him in the neighborhood.

Comments appreciated.

I'm sorry about your missing cat and your sick cat.

I hope he will make his own way home.

NP_Complete · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Boss is human and has cried too.

How are you feeling now? Are you still at work or at home?

I'm okay. Thanks for asking. I also emailed my therapist for reassurance that he was telling me the truth yesterday that I'm not an awful person after I shared something really shameful. I have a deadline at work this week that I'm struggling with so I'm trying to stay focused and nose to the grindstone.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I want to talk to my T tonight or someone who isn't going to be a judgemental you know what. I feel like I'm messing everything up.

Possible trigger:

I ran to the bathroom after pdoc sat on the floor and cried and banged my head on the wall because I didnt have any blades in my purse. I stooped to a low.

Pdoc is weaning me off this med but hasn't talked about replacing it with anything. Today's appointment was so rushed it was ridiculous.
The feelings I'm having tonight are intense.

I'm sorry you're struggling so much right now.

How gradual is the reductions in your medication and the time frame you're doing it in?

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I'm okay. Thanks for asking. I also emailed my therapist for reassurance that he was telling me the truth yesterday that I'm not an awful person after I shared something really shameful. I have a deadline at work this week that I'm struggling with so I'm trying to stay focused and nose to the grindstone.

I hope P gets back to you soon.

For now can you write out/remind yourself of the things P has said about yourself.

You're doing your best at work- that's all that matters

ElectricManatee · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I'm back home after having the joy of having my card declined at the store. ( My app didn't show me that I had a pending transaction so I had less money than I thought I did and I didn't actually check it today but did yesterday).

Thankfully I did have enough cash on me.

Moral of the story kids always carry cash.

I'm glad you had cash! It's always good to have a backup option. I hide twenty bucks in a separate part of my wallet for just such situations.

atisketatasket · 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

This is true, as I plan to go buy 2 new litter boxes after work today identical to the preferred one, so I can replace the oldest one and give them the +1.

Is that all they get for National Cat Day? Chintzy.

SlumberKitty · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:47 PM

Ahh, got the pay issue sorted out. Not entirely on my own. I was on the right track but I was stuck on there being 96 hours in this particular pay period--which there is, for hourly employees. What I forgot was that salary employees get paid 86.664 hours per pay period regardless. So once I got that, then the math made sense. Hourly employee's pay is so much easier to figure out when they take a leave of absence, but more of a pain to figure out with OT and DT and stuff like that. But now I am exhausted and I have a headache, and I have to teach tonight. All I want to do is sleep. Plus I am still stressed over my Pastor T appointment last night. All my muscles and my insides feel tight. My shoulder now has cream on it because it was hurting so much, probably from the tension. I need more caffeine. Lots of caffeine. A nap would be better but since I can't nap at work, CAFFEINE!

SlumberKitty · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is that all they get for National Cat Day? Chintzy.

I didn't know it was National Cat Day! I think everyday should be National Cat Day! Obviously, I love my kitties....

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I'm glad you had cash! It's always good to have a backup option. I hide twenty bucks in a separate part of my wallet for just such situations.

I think I'll start keeping another small purse too in case I forget my wallet.

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is that all they get for National Cat Day? Chintzy.

Oh I didn't know this either.

What does new cat get?

SlumberKitty · Oct 29, 2019 at 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I didn't know it was National Cat Day! I think everyday should be National Cat Day! Obviously, I love my kitties....

Always learning something new on the couch! Thanks @@

Lemoncake · Oct 29, 2019 at 04:16 PM

When I went on the walking tour back in september, the tour guide actually asked our group of maybe 16 what the word for pushing someone out of a window was.

DEFENESTRATE!

I felt very smartz.

LostOnTheTrail · Oct 29, 2019 at 04:20 PM

You're getting a good Couch education!

Oct 29, 2019 at 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

My new favorite tv show is Escape to the Country. I am soooo ignorant of UK history and geography. I am more convinced than ever that i am a long lost English princess.

The UK is my fantasy home i know i am related to about a quarter of Glasgow.

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Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Oct 29, 2019 at 04:16 PM #198 When I went on the walking tour back in september, the tour guide actually asked our group of maybe 16 what the word for pushing someone out of a window was. DEFENESTRATE! I felt very smartz. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."