Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

Polibeth · Dec 11, 2019 at 04:57 PM

Summer - I would have done the same thing. I'm sure your boss appreciated the heads up.

chihirochild · Dec 11, 2019 at 05:06 PM

Nice wood-burning fireplace at the AirBnB

Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

SlumberKitty · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:21 PM

In the waiting room...waiting for my T appointment....

LonesomeTonight · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:30 PM

Hope it goes well, Kit.

stopdog · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:30 PM

I have a new battery powered leaf blower.
It is super fun

Elio · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:31 PM

hi couch

velcro003 · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:45 PM

hello, elio! slow day on the couch today.

ElectricManatee · Dec 11, 2019 at 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Awww thanks for remembering this IS one book I'm nutty about.

You really will get something from reading it.

Just my opinion but children need to feel like they're special and that they matter. I've wanted the same thing with R before and it makes sense to me - I'm guessing she was quoting either the bit about why the rose was important or the fox.

Yep, it was the part about the rose. I came home to my little kid after my session with regular T and looked at her and thought, "You're not special," and it was such an absurd thought. Of course she isn't remarkable compared to other babies, but she's very special to me. That's all I wanted from my regular T. I think she was trying to say that I wanted special treatment (which I did, because she offered it for so long), not that I'm not special to her. Maybe... EMDR T thinks regular T might be frustrated with me. Which makes sense because I'm pretty frustrated with her right now too...

StressedMess · Dec 11, 2019 at 10:25 PM

I went on a cleaning spree, but lost the berserker-rage after about an hour. If you don't look under the bed or in that particular corner, it's very clean! Tomorrow is another day, I might finish it then.

Hugs for all the couches who work too much or are hurting. Head-nods to the non-huggers.

I'm staying up until the clothes finish washing, throwing them in the dryer, and passing out. Have a great evening couch!

Elio · Dec 11, 2019 at 10:28 PM

Hi Velcro.

It's been one of those days.

02:28 AM

I dont know what happened while i was out for half an hour but i came home and the dogs were huddled together on the dining table and the cats had crammed themselves into the hidey hole in the cat tree. Took 20 minutes to persuade the cats out. Everyone is outside and dont seem keen to come inside. I am wondering if it was a snake? Cant see any snakes good thing i used to be a reptile rescuer if i do find it i can catch it.

unaluna · Dec 12, 2019 at 02:32 AM

Bcm, just reading that makes my hair stand on end! Is it related to your being gone? How often do you have snakes???!!

Dec 12, 2019 at 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Bcm, just reading that makes my hair stand on end! Is it related to your being gone? How often do you have snakes???!!

Its the first time its happened. I have lived here 2 nearly 3 years now and have never seen a snake in this area but we are in a drought and it is breeding time so they will be looking for breeding partners and water.

Dec 12, 2019 at 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

I am in a self-hatred spiral. Also, my T confronted me about me having an eating disorder, tonight. All around fun!

Hugs if wanted

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 12, 2019 at 12:49 PM

Working with anger is hard. That is all.

Jersey 4 · Dec 12, 2019 at 01:17 PM

The 4 year old kicked the infant and knocked him flat on the back of his head. I texted his mother and I put him in his room until I hear back from her. I don’t know what to do with this. The infant touched a toy his was playing with and the 4 year old just kicked him down. I need to leave. I don’t have the training to handle this child.

atisketatasket · Dec 12, 2019 at 01:34 PM

No one, including his parents, seems to have the training to handle that kid. It isn’t just you, Jersey. You’re not failing at anything.

stopdog · Dec 12, 2019 at 01:36 PM

I don't think you have been happy about taking this job since the start. Is it time to start looking for another job? Not liking it seems to be wearing you down.

The 4 yr old is acting like a challenging 4 yr old it seems to me (I didn't spend much time at it, but I worked for a couple of years working at pre-kindergarten day care to earn money for law school). He can't, of course, be allowed to hurt the baby -but I do feel for him. Adults can get upset when someone touches their stuff - hopefully they don't punch -but resentments build etc.

Jersey 4 · Dec 12, 2019 at 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

No one, including his parents, seems to have the training to handle that kid. It isn’t just you, Jersey. You’re not failing at anything.

This is true. I just don’t know what to do right now. Luckily the baby is okay because he hit the carpet. It could have been a lot worse if he would have hit the hard wood floor. Also where he kicked him on his body was right on his rib cage. The baby is like 18lbs and 40lb almost 5 year old drop kicked him. I’m living him in his room. I have to protect the baby.

atisketatasket · Dec 12, 2019 at 01:47 PM

My sister was older and there were toy-touching issues. She got physical once. She was then allowed no toys for 24 hours and since it was near Christmas my parents held back the present she wanted most until her birthday a few weeks later.

She never got physical again. Yelled, yeah, but it had clicked in her head violence wasn’t acceptable. Something like that needs to happen for this kid, especially since I think he attacked the baby before. Maybe tomorrow will bring answers.

If the job is causing or worsening your recent depression and anxiety you might want to move on anyway. Just don’t think you failed.

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Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 04:57 PM #181 Summer - I would have done the same thing. I'm sure your boss appreciated the heads up.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 05:06 PM #182 Nice wood-burning fireplace at the AirBnB

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 09:21 PM #183 In the waiting room...waiting for my T appointment.... __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,731 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 09:30 PM #185 I have a new battery powered leaf blower. It is super fun __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

Elio ............... Member Since Sep 2006 Location: in my head Posts: 2,911 17 8,779 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 09:31 PM #186 hi couch

velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 09:45 PM #187 hello, elio! slow day on the couch today.

Elio ............... Member Since Sep 2006 Location: in my head Posts: 2,911 17 8,779 hugs given	Dec 11, 2019 at 10:28 PM #190 Hi Velcro. It's been one of those days.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,871 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Dec 12, 2019 at 02:32 AM #192 Bcm, just reading that makes my hair stand on end! Is it related to your being gone? How often do you have snakes???!!

Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,162 5 1,170 hugs given	Dec 12, 2019 at 01:17 PM #196 The 4 year old kicked the infant and knocked him flat on the back of his head. I texted his mother and I put him in his room until I hear back from her. I don’t know what to do with this. The infant touched a toy his was playing with and the 4 year old just kicked him down. I need to leave. I don’t have the training to handle this child.

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,149 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Dec 12, 2019 at 01:34 PM #197 No one, including his parents, seems to have the training to handle that kid. It isn’t just you, Jersey. You’re not failing at anything. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth