Therapist told me "To avoid grumpy people stay at home"

I don't know if that was behind what my last therapist was doing or not, but she terminated me saying she "didn't have the emotional resources" to continue. It definitely felt like a rejection, that or that she was incompetent and my trust in her (and my trust in myself for trusting her) was very misplaced. And it was very, very difficult. Still is, kind of.

Nevertheless, I've been trying to figure out what it is, or was, that I needed and how to get it without therapy. For me, a support group has been a big help.

One thing I wanted is some good (clear and specific, etc.) feedback about how I come across sometimes, and then usually I can begin to pick up the cues without being told. But specific information from people, if they can tell me in a way I can understand, helps get me started. My last T never understood that, although since the termination I have gotten some of what I think I needed from other people.

Is that something that you think might help you? I'm just wondering because where I am there are no social skills classes. I asked my last T several years before the termination even, and just nothing. And then, after the termination, I interviewed several other T's and asked could they do that, and they just looked at me they had no clue what I was talking about, or why I would want that. I think they have been trained to think of "the relationship" with the T as providing experience with that kind of thing, but it never worked for me. Something specific would have been better for me, I think -- it would indicate some respect for me as an independent adult, even one that isn't functioning so wonderfully sometimes.

I'm doing OK without therapy now. It's been 4 years. The first few years were very rough but it's getting some better now.

ETA: Social skills in the way I have needed it is not DBT. That was useless to me, or worse. I don't have BPD but they put me in DBT in an IOP program because they didn't have anything else to try.