Changing bounderies

Firstly I don't think it is entirely wrong. I used to email my exT stuff that needed to be brought up in session but then never allow it to be discussed in person, it became unhealthy for me. My current T is fine with emailing but has also explained it that if I text or email and she responds then she might not be 100%, as in if I read something the wrong way or interpret something or she misunderstands something then I have to wait a week to discuss it in person. If I bring it up in session then I have her there 100% attention and we can discuss everything and sort it out before it becomes big.

Secondly I don't really care for him describing you the way he did. His feelings shouldn't be involved in what you are feeling. His interpretation of you shouldn't be involved. Any boundary change can be hugely difficult.

Current T used to text but about 6 months in she let me know she wouldn't be texting anything other than scheduling. It was because she lost her phone and, although she found it again, she realised how exposed and non private this communication was. I was so upset bt we discussed it. Even recently it was mentioned and I told her that was a very painful and tough transition. She heard me and took those feelings not once putting me down or making me feel badly. She knew that I understood logically but that some deep down part of me felt rejected and she did not compound that rejection by reacting negatively to my feelings.

I hope you can both work through this

My point is my attitude changed. Emails were a way to acquaint both of us of something that I wanted to bring up in session. If they are read at the beginig than it takes up extra time and makes them very present and creates the need to definitely talk about them. That's not alway necessary. I think sometimes I wanted T to know something without immediately brining it up in session unless it comes up. Does it make sense? I was willing to talk about the emails but when they correlate to what we are talking about otherwise. This has been the case upto this point. I am really discouraged by his lack of understanding. I feel like this creates an invisible barrier in my head and makes sharing things more difficult!