Couch 211: The Stoffle couch

Lemoncake · Feb 21, 2020, 01:18 PM

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Waiting to see T2. He's running a few minutes late, too, but he did text me and let me know. I'm hoping it goes well. I'm still nervous every time.I meet with any of these Ts still.

Hoping your session goes well.

Your anxiety is perfectly understandable! Do you have anything to distract yourself until her arrives? I play music on my phone.

Lemoncake · Feb 21, 2020, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Of course. The tricky part of pancakes is the flip.

I bought an oat mix so the batter looked a bit thicker. On the box they had tiny ones but I thought I'd just make one big one. It stuck to the pan despite it being a non stick pan and in trying to scrape it off it resembled an egg, but it tasted okay.

Then i tried to make another two smaller ones but they cooked a lot on one side but the other side started going really brown in certain areas but wasn't fully cooked in others.

I just had dinner of brown rice cakes and cheese!

ElectricManatee · Feb 21, 2020, 01:30 PM

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Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Did you guys reschedule?

Thanks, Lemon! I'm already feeling a bit better. My kid was only sick for about a day, so I'm hoping mine follows the same timeline. My wife took today off anyway, so she's been taking excellent care of me, which almost makes being sick worth it. (We are both so used to only having the time and energy to take care of the baby and possibly ourselves, so this feels decadent.)

Liz and I have standing appointments, Wednesday one week and then Friday the next and then back to Wednesday, so fortunately I'm already on the books for this Wednesday. I am pleased at how not-gutted I feel by her cancelation. Maybe we are finally back on solid ground after our semi-permanent move to Rupture Town?

chihirochild · Feb 21, 2020, 01:49 PM

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I hope your mother is okay.

Movie night in?

How are things going with the dating apps?

Thanks, Lemon

I paused the dating apps for a bit because I was seeing a guy I thought I liked but then I got sick of him so I’m back at it. Ugh.

unaluna · Feb 21, 2020, 01:52 PM

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It works because it works.
Maybe try switching the food items to see if that helps a bit? Rice cakes, apples or sucking boiled sweets?

We dont have "boiled sweets" in america. (Googling). Oh! We call it "hard candy"!

All this time i thought it was something exotic that only Little Women had access to! Seriously!

LonesomeTonight · Feb 21, 2020, 02:04 PM

Glad you’re starting to feel better, EM, and that your wife is taking good care of you. Hope the illness is short-lived!

SlumberKitty · Feb 21, 2020, 06:01 PM

I got the statement to submit to the insurance now that Pdoc is cash only, so that way I can get reimbursed some. He changed my diagnosis: It is now Schizoaffective disorder, depressive type, generalized anxiety disorder (which I already had), and ADHD--inattentive type--that's new. Welp, I guess there's something to talk to T about tomorrow on top of everything else!

JaneTennison1 · Feb 21, 2020, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Ugh, i had one too, which i do remember. I need to respect the trigger warnings here. Or figure out why im not feeling safe.

It's the worst feeling, I woke up in terror but now no clue why, my son (5) was in bed next to me (he wasn't feeling great) and I woke up to him at 3am stroking my head and saying I love you mommy, so lord knows if I said anything lol

SheHulk07 · Feb 21, 2020, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Hoping your session goes well.

Your anxiety is perfectly understandable! Do you have anything to distract yourself until her arrives? I play music on my phone.

It went well, thanks Lemon. Talked about my SH a bit, the meltdown with my son that resulted in me taking him to the crisis walk in, and talked about the pdoc situation. He messaged a doctor at a hospital he used to work at to see if they have openings for a psychiatrist. And gave me some links for the online talk therapy platforms and other things to see if I find anything that I might think would be helpful especially at night.

I just played on my phone while I was waiting. 5 minutes is okay especially if I was warned ahead.

atisketatasket · Feb 21, 2020, 07:28 PM

The Chaffle Benedict. It’s what’s for dinner.

And, that is somehow the first egg I ever poached.

stopdog · Feb 21, 2020, 08:03 PM

You can start your own gluten free will it waffle blog.

unaluna · Feb 21, 2020, 09:32 PM

Mmm, looks like fried baloney.

Which i have never had.

Actually, the chaffle looks eggcellent.

Actually, im more interested in the dinnerware. What a sweet pattern!

atisketatasket · Feb 21, 2020, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Mmm, looks like fried baloney.

Which i have never had.

Actually, the chaffle looks eggcellent.

Actually, im more interested in the dinnerware. What a sweet pattern!

It’s actually a plastic plate from a set my grandmother had (so probably 1950s/1960s originally). The others cracked or I took food on them to parties and never got the plate back. This is the sole survivor.

I have not eaten baloney in 30 years.

stopdog · Feb 21, 2020, 11:49 PM

Fried bologna was big treat when I was growing up. My mom would make it sometimes out of oscar meyer bologna, but more often it was when my dad was left alone with us and we would go get a roll of bologna and he would slice it, fry it up, and put it on white bread with mustard. My sibling and I ate ours plain but my dad liked pickles on his. Yum - it was good. Now I want one.

This is a good description:
The Fried Bologna Sandwich is a Southern Classic | Southern Living

WarmFuzzySocks · Feb 21, 2020, 11:56 PM

All good at the dermatologist. She did freeze a little bump on my scalp but said it was probably nothing. Whew.

atisketatasket · Feb 22, 2020, 12:11 AM

You’re on a hot streak, WFS. Good mediation, good medical news.

Soooo...Vegas this weekend?

Quietmind 2 · Feb 22, 2020, 01:20 AM

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Does anyone here do adult coloring books? I took a look at some at the magazine stand and man would they stress me out. The designs look so complicated and there’s lots of teeny tiny areas to fill in.

But then I never did like coloring books all that much.

I do. But I don't want to "ruin" the book so I converr a page into black and white lineart and colour it in using Photoshop.

Quietmind 2 · Feb 22, 2020, 01:35 AM

Welllll, might be a bit TMI so I'm using trigger warnings. Gynaecologist and sex stuff.

Possible trigger:

My vaginismus dx got confirmed since the ultrasound came back fine. I tested negative for HPV too, hurrah. I was given a set of dilators, numbing cream and pelvic floor exercises to do. The dx is common in Asian culture, the gynaecologist said, just underreported and she has patients ashamed of self pleasure or even doing the clinical exercises, even when their sexless marriages are being strained.

Talking about that to T was hard. She asked if it's because she doesn't have a partner. It's not that. I think it's because talking about sexual trauma is easier than talking about sex. I did talk about feeling inadequate, broken, less than etc since I feel ashamed of not being able to have the consensual sex I do want...

WarmFuzzySocks · Feb 22, 2020, 01:37 PM

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You’re on a hot streak, WFS. Good mediation, good medical news.

Soooo...Vegas this weekend?

I should buy a lottery ticket at least. Oh wait. Maybe not. With my luck, I'd win millions of dollars next week and have to split it.

That kind of crummy luck I could handle, I guess.

Feb 22, 2020, 07:41 PM

After nearly ten months of feeling numb i had a dream about my ExT and then a dream about my first year at university and i have been up and down ever since its a bit abrupt but better than feeling nothing.

SlumberKitty · Feb 22, 2020, 08:00 PM

I think this new med cocktail might be helping some. I dont know if it is the Cymbalta generic or the increased rexulti dose. My T said she could see some positive changes in me this week. I'm really tired on the meds but my T said to give it time. Had a good T appointment. I'm too tired to write about it now but I will try to later or another day. Gave her the DX from my psychiatrist. She only seemed surprised about one. She's hopeful the hallucinations will be better on these meds. Hugs to anyone who wants one. Kit

downandlonely · Feb 22, 2020, 08:03 PM

@SlumberKitty I really hope the meds help.

atisketatasket · Feb 22, 2020, 10:24 PM

For my coming of age writing class this week, we have to design a writing exercise. I’m blanking.

unaluna · Feb 22, 2020, 10:41 PM

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For my coming of age writing class this week, we have to design a writing exercise. I’m blanking.

What does that mean? Like, first love, first car, first bra?

atisketatasket · Feb 22, 2020, 10:48 PM

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What does that mean? Like, first love, first car, first bra?

I think the instructor wants more. One of the given examples is "write a story in which every sentence begins with a letter of the alphabet, in order. One sentence must be one word. One must be exactly 100 words." That sort of thing.

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