[Rustyfinger]

Hi.

I didn't know if it was ok to make a thread just for this question. My T gave me some homework for the next session. There was some questions for me to answer. One of them was "How would describe you other person? What positive traits sees in you?"
The thing is that I have no one to ask, aside of my brother, whom I don't get along very well.

I was thinking of asking her what she sees in me but i'm not sure. Have you asked what good things your T's sees in you?

[Miss Laura]

My Therapist asked me to write how I see myself. To begin with I was good to myself but then I started opening up. She read it and said why were you so positive to begin with. I said to be honest I wrote what I thought you would like to hear but then I started to tell the truth. I see myself differently as other people do. But she said when she gave me this homework that she will write what she see's in me. She was really nice. She told me some facts which I agree with then she said I was funny, clever, articulate etc etc. It was 2 pages long. I was so embarrassed as I can't take compliments. I'm slowly and I mean slowly understanding her way of thinking as mines is distorted

[Omers]

My T asked me to work on self affirmations and I couldn’t so he asked if it would be OK if he said them sometimes. There aren’t many people around me that like me and I am pretty hard on myself so it hasn’t been going well. I am thankful my T is willing to share what he sees rather than judge me as resistant. Some T’s will help you with it others won’t.

[Rustyfinger]

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

My Therapist asked me to write how I see myself. To begin with I was good to myself but then I started opening up. She read it and said why were you so positive to begin with. I said to be honest I wrote what I thought you would like to hear but then I started to tell the truth. I see myself differently as other people do. But she said when she gave me this homework that she will write what she see's in me. She was really nice. She told me some facts which I agree with then she said I was funny, clever, articulate etc etc. It was 2 pages long. I was so embarrassed as I can't take compliments. I'm slowly and I mean slowly understanding her way of thinking as mines is distorted

That's so sweet from her! You have a very kind T. I decided to not ask her and wait for her to tell me. If my therapist comes of her own volition, that's fine. Thanks for sharing!

[Rustyfinger]

Originally Posted by Omers

My T asked me to work on self affirmations and I couldn’t so he asked if it would be OK if he said them sometimes. There aren’t many people around me that like me and I am pretty hard on myself so it hasn’t been going well. I am thankful my T is willing to share what he sees rather than judge me as resistant. Some T’s will help you with it others won’t.

Yeah, I know that it can be hard not being close to people and judging yourself all the time. I hope my T gives me some if them herself. Thanks.

[susannahsays]

She has given me unsolicited compliments on occasion. She also makes unsolicited remarks about negative aspects of my character. I enjoy that more.

[Rustyfinger]

She didn't say anything after all. I guess that's okay because, given my way of thinking, I would discard any type of compliment. It's kind of a bummer, though

[Rustyfinger]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

She has given me unsolicited compliments on occasion. She also makes unsolicited remarks about negative aspects of my character. I enjoy that more.

Yeah, I know. The compliments take me by surprise. And the "negative" makes me laugh of myself a little bit