[vander512]

My therapist tossed me to the curb on Monday. She decided we weren't a good fit. I took it well. At least in session I was pleasant. She told me how much she enjoyed working with me and how she truly cared. whatever

She told me that she felt I was very motivated to get better. Whatever

She told me that she really thought I had interesting stories and she looked forward to sessions with me. Whatever

I didn't say anything unpleasant. I really wanted to go out on a positive note. But this is really bothering me. I texted her about 2 hours ago:

**** you (her name). You are a miserable old *****.

I know that will only make her feel like she made the right decision and give her the upper hand. Whatever

Now this is the kind of communication I can get behind. Will you text my therapist for me too?

[winter4me]

She hurt you and it doesn't sound like you think she was completely honest with you.
& @comrademoomoo gave me a chuckle----humor helps...
I once had a therapist tell me I was fine and could "do this on (my) own" as a termination rationale, when I asked "What if I don't agree" he said had someone Great he could refer me to, …and that he thought I had a lot of anger and he couldn't deal with that. so much for my being "fine"...

[Rive.]

I don't know how effective swearing and insulting / name calling would be. Might have been more effective calling her out on her bs instead.

Hopefully, she doesn't use this against you.

[Flinders40]

Juvenile response and one that will reaffirm her decision for terminating you.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Can't advocate verbal abuse. Sorry. I just don't roll that way. It might have been more effective to just be descriptive about what problems her actions have caused rather than resort to name-calling.

[Salmon77]

Your anger is understandable, but I don't think sending texts like this is going to do much for you. Can you think of better ways to use that energy? Maybe some physical activity, go hit a punching bag or something?

Good luck.

[Taylor27]

I can't advocate with being verbal abusive in any situation. I know you are hurting. There are other ways to communicate that are more better. Name calling does not help you or her. I find journaling really helps me to get my thoughts out and when i can communicate in a respectable manner it helps me, to get what i want to say without tearing down the other person. I get that you are angry and you can get that point across without swearing.

[here today]

The therapist didn't help the OP get in touch with anger and develop ways to understand it and deal it while she was her client.

The avoidant way that the therapist terminated the therapy and didn't directly deal with anything not "nice" about the client was NOT helpful IMO. She may call it "not a good fit", but I think she is incompetent and hasn't dealt with her own issues sufficiently. Maybe she knows it, maybe not.

It's over, the OP has expressed her feelings and opinion in the best way she currently knew how. The therapist certainly didn't help her learn something better.

Yes, it sounds like it's for the best that this "therapy" is over. So sorry that it's been so painful, OP.

[SlumberKitty]

I can understand your anger. I don't like when T's use stuff like, "We aren't a good fit." What does that even mean? I certainly had one T where we both mutually decided our styles just didn't work well together but I was just as happy to be rid of her as she was probably happy to get rid of me. Plus she didn't seem very caring or very on top of stuff so I felt like I had dodged a bullet. I guess it is probably par for the course that the terminating T tells you all this good stuff they see in the client. It just seems like if they see all that good stuff, why can't they work with it? I'm sorry you got terminated OP. I hope that you are able to move on and find another T if you want that is able and willing to help you. I don't think sending the text was the most effective outlet for your anger or frustration. I'm sure the T probably has gotten stuff like that before so it probably doesn't affect her the same way you would have wanted it to. I agree with some of the other posters here. Can you find another outlet for some of that emotion? Maybe take a run or something. Try to use it for something positive. Wishing you the best. Kit

[stopdog]

I don't see this as all that bad. I wouldn't worry about it. You can't hurt a therapist and she quit on you -so no big deal.

[Shotokan]

I do have to agree with everyone about not getting vulgar with her. But, I am sorry that you are dealing with all of this. Do you have a dartboard and a picture of her? You can throw darts at it. A psychiatrist that I saw a long time ago told me to do that when I was dealing with someone that maddened me.

The idea about doing something physical is very good too.

[InnerPeace111]

Nothing others do is because of you. Never take anything personally. It eliminates the suffering.

(Easier said than done.)

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by vander512

**** you (her name). You are a miserable old *****

Good for you!!! I think it's great.

[TeaVicar?]

Good for you op! I hope it helped you feel better. It's not good practice to terminate therapy with no notice and it should really be a joint discussion, unless there's obvious abuse happening.

[Xynesthesia2]

Did the T respond to that text? I would be curious what they say to something like that. I sent angry emails to one of my Ts, didn't use foul language but was definitely angry. He never handled it well, most often came back in a very passive aggressive manner.