Was T wrong to make me do this?

I had previously been seeing a T for two years. I was going through a phase when I was trying to date and repeatedly expressed my belief that once a guy I am dating learns about my copious physical and mental health disorders, he won't want to date. During one session, T asked me if a (married, platonic) guy friend of a few years that I have knows about all of my physical and mental health problems. Over a year earlier, he had shared with a group of us that he has bipolar and about his hospitalization. I said he only knew about a few of the minor physical health issues, like my many, many allergies and my chronic headaches and migraines, but not the real serious physical stuff and none of the mental health stuff. Outside of two very close family members, I don't share this with anyone. I don't feel comfortable with other people knowing this about me. T insisted that I needed to tell him everything. I needed to lay out every single one of my physical and mental health issues to him. She told me that since he shared about his bipolar with me, I should share with him, that it was critical to my improvement. She claimed if I told him and saw he took it well, I would feel confident about telling dating prospects. I didn't think it would because it's two different scenarios. Sure, he'd still be my friend, but that doesn't mean that a guy who is looking to have children with me will react this way when learning I have things that can be passed down to my kids that will range from being a chronic disability to being life-threatening. T kept insisting I had to do it so I went and told him. I told him about my multiple surgeries, my near-death experiences, all of my chronic physical illnesses, all my mental health illnesses. He took it well and only said, "Oh, I didn't know." Nothing changed on his end, but from that day, I have been uncomfortable around him. It gives me such anxiety to see him and know that he knows all of my "secrets." I don't feel comfortable talking to him or hanging out because I know that he has all this context for the things that I may do or say. I feel like he now sees how each one of my "quirks" is actually tied to a full-blown illness, like (a milder example) he now knows my quietness and introversion are social anxiety. It makes me so uncomfortable that I have slowly tried not to be around him. I miss our friendship though. He was one of like 2 friends I had and I enjoyed spending time together and navigating our ****** workplace. It's been nearly 2 years now and I still can't feel comfortable knowing that he knows as much as he does.

Am I wrong to be mad at my T for making me do this? Is there a way to fix our friendship?

I think it is inappropriate for a therapist to "make" a client do anything. I think that this was particularly inappropriate. You should get to choose who you disclose your personal information to. It's true that it can be very freeing to share something that we have shame about to someone else and have that person not reject us the way that we thought that they would, but you are right...he might not reject you, but you can't really tell if it changed his opinion about you. You don't know what he is thinking.

I don't think that your relationship with your friend is likely to be ruined. I think that you are the same person that you always were and that he probably isn't judging you for your mental or physical illnesses. But it might be helpful to talk openly about it with him. You could tell him why you disclosed that information and now you worry that he will think differently about you. You could even tell him that you think that you made a mistake about listening to your therapist because it might have been more than you should have shared given your level of relationship. (unless you don't believe that).

Another option would be to just continue on as you have been with the friendship and not bring it up again. I think if you did that though you would want to try to focus on talking about him for awhile...ask his opinions and listen to him talk about things that are bothering him. I don't think that most people are afraid of catching a mental illness or dislike being around people that have one. The problem comes when the relationship seems to be all one way...one person caretaking another one all the time rather a more equal relationship.

I'm less optimistic about the relationship with your therapist. I think it's appropriate and helpful for a therapist to encourage a client to develop natural support systems (people that they can talk to other than the therapist), but I don't think it's at all a good idea to pressure a client to do something she is really uncomfortable with.

No. You are not wrong to be angry.
And, remember it is OK to say No, I am not doing that.

I think full disclosure about things like that with anyone you're close to is healthy and important, but it takes time. Both you and that person have to get through it in baby steps — you because giving up all of that in one goal is likely to contribute to a panic attack or at least a ton of anxiety and that person because, if they're special to you, they likely feel more deeply stuff you tell them and it's hard to process multiple heavy things, let alone one thing.

I think like you alluded to too, revealing things to a close friend is different than a significant other. What each of those people want and need are different and in an ideal world no one should be or get rejected for sharing who they are, that doesn't mean what a person wants or needs in a friendship is across the board the same in a relationship.

Getting rejected for any reason sucks. It's never easy for anyone, let alone those who are more sensitive due to past experiences, but in my experience it's better to be vocal about what you want and need and expect that in return. That way, any pain from things not working is sooner on and hopefully less painful than a relationship that drags on and one or both people are living in the dark