Couch 213: The Tulip couch

Jersey 4 · Apr 02, 2020 at 02:11 AM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Hugs, Jersey. Scary. I'm glad that nothing was broken. I hope writing it out helped dump it here so you're not holding it by yourself.

Thank you. I am going to try to close my eyes now for a bit.

LonesomeTonight · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:50 AM

Hugs, Jersey, that's really scary! Even if she didn't see you, she shouldn't have been going 50 mph. I'm guessing she was texting or something. I'm glad you weren't more seriously injured, though be sure to take it really easy with the concussion and give your brain time to rest. You're welcome to post here at any time, of course!

LonesomeTonight · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Kind of in a similar situation as WFS I think with H staying at his mom's since the 16th. Our agreement was to switch off with the kids of who would stay in the house doing a half of a week each. But with the shelter in place, I don't think I have anywhere I could go for half the week for the next month or so while this lasts. I'm sheltering in place as much as possible, only sticking to the essential things. But I think it's unsafe and stupid to be staying over at my family's multiple times a month right now because of what H did. I think he should be the one to stay at his mom's during this whole thing, yet I really don't need him or his mother saying I'm keeping the kids away from him during this especially with CPS still involved

Hm, that is really complicated...Could you check with the CPS caseworker to see what they recommend? I suspect there are lots of other families with similar situations in their caseload, so maybe they've figured out how to handle it? I agree that you shouldn't have to be leaving the house when he was the one whose actions led to the separation...Not sure if your state has a shelter in place order, but I suspect that could affect things (legally) as well.

LonesomeTonight · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

My T has said something similar too. I think it's a therapisty ploy to reel the client back in when they are justifiably furious with the therapist. I mean, it's also not wrong in terms of how strong relationships generally work, but still...

Speaking of furious, @@, you might want to read this article that new cat posted.

Yeah, I think you're right that it's a bit of a ploy, sometimes with some gaslighting and/or defensiveness and/or avoidance of admitting fault mixed in. Because mine will say that he can be frustrated or annoyed with me (and tell me), but that "it doesn't threaten the relationship," and he wants me to understand that. What he means is that he won't abandon me over it. Which I have come to accept. However, it can still threaten the relationship in other ways.

Like, after the big rupture in August/September, it took a long time for me to feel safe asking him for certain things, like I kept trying to be what I thought would be his ideal client for a while, fearing rocking the boat. I'm over that now, and I think our relationship *has* gotten stronger and we both have greater respect for the other person and their needs (this is me saying that last part, not him). But it took time and a lot of work and trust on each of our parts to get there.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 02, 2020 at 07:39 AM

Hugs, Jersey I'm so sorry that happened, please be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to heal. That must have been so scary!!

LonesomeTonight · Apr 02, 2020 at 08:59 AM

Today in bad combinations: PMS and being trapped inside with your D and H...

ElectricManatee · Apr 02, 2020 at 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Today in bad combinations: PMS and being trapped inside with your D and H...

Might be time to break the glass on the emergency chocolate.

Speaking of which, where is Lemon? She probably has extra...

unaluna · Apr 02, 2020 at 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Might be time to break the glass on the emergency chocolate.

Speaking of which, where is Lemon? She probably has extra...

I still cant believe you found that letter from the cat about the song!

Also, i agree with you and LT about chihiro's t, that he sounds like MY t, and he's doing a THING, and oh my hes willing to change that thing. Its not really HIM, its just a thing he was doing. But you, oh yes, its really you. Hiss...

SheHulk07 · Apr 02, 2020 at 11:32 AM

Hugs, Jersey! That sounds terrifying and I hope you can take some time rest after that.

atisketatasket · Apr 02, 2020 at 02:17 PM

Apparently there is a minor epidemic among dogs, who are so happy their people are home for quarantine that they’re spraining their tails from overwagging.

This would never happen to a cat.

stopdog · Apr 02, 2020 at 02:21 PM

My cats go on the back porch to get away from me and the dogs. If we come out - they make a great display of standing up and turning away from us before lying back down on the table out there.

Jersey - sorry to hear about your accident.

Polibeth · Apr 02, 2020 at 03:07 PM

I'm getting COVID-19 tested tomorrow....finally. I've been sick over a week

downandlonely · Apr 02, 2020 at 03:08 PM

I hope you'll be ok @Polibeth

Polibeth · Apr 02, 2020 at 03:08 PM

Jersey...sorry about your accident but glad that it wasn't worse

LonesomeTonight · Apr 02, 2020 at 03:19 PM

Hugs, Polibeth. Hope you're OK!

Lemoncake · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Might be time to break the glass on the emergency chocolate.

Speaking of which, where is Lemon? She probably has extra...

I'm sorry I've not been around much. If I'm being honest I've been on two other forums mainly just talking about you know what.

Surprisingly things with R have also been going well for a while- it feels different kinda warm and fuzzy which sounds stupid and he even said today that he did miss me when I wasn't there.

RE chocolate: I placed an order for 5 bars of chocolate from Seed & bean for my sisters last week, but have two bars of Green & black Butterscotch and Ginger untouched if anyone wants + even a box of toffifee.

Lemoncake · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

I'm getting COVID-19 tested tomorrow....finally. I've been sick over a week

Hope you feel better soon.

Lemoncake · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I spoke with my chair on Zoom this morning about grading policies. Apparently the provost’s office (which insists syllabi are contracts) is saying that any change to a syllabus under current conditions must be approved by students.

Just trust us to do our jobs.

The customer isn't always right.

Our school just does it's thing and we get on with it. Your kids are 18 in college right? Still kids.

Lemoncake · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Kind of in a similar situation as WFS I think with H staying at his mom's since the 16th. Our agreement was to switch off with the kids of who would stay in the house doing a half of a week each. But with the shelter in place, I don't think I have anywhere I could go for half the week for the next month or so while this lasts. I'm sheltering in place as much as possible, only sticking to the essential things. But I think it's unsafe and stupid to be staying over at my family's multiple times a month right now because of what H did. I think he should be the one to stay at his mom's during this whole thing, yet I really don't need him or his mother saying I'm keeping the kids away from him during this especially with CPS still involved

It's a exceptional situation though.

For now maybe H could stay with his mother's. You don't have to take calls from her. Do you have a family lawyer who could help guide you right now?

Lemoncake · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:58 PM

@Una your Ryan is donating $1 million dollars to two american charities.

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,870 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.1k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 05:50 AM #402 Hugs, Jersey, that's really scary! Even if she didn't see you, she shouldn't have been going 50 mph. I'm guessing she was texting or something. I'm glad you weren't more seriously injured, though be sure to take it really easy with the concussion and give your brain time to rest. You're welcome to post here at any time, of course!
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,328 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,812 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 07:39 AM #405 Hugs, Jersey I'm so sorry that happened, please be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to heal. That must have been so scary!!
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,870 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.1k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 08:59 AM #406 Today in bad combinations: PMS and being trapped inside with your D and H...
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SheHulk07 Magnate Member Since Oct 2013 Location: CO Posts: 2,305 10 871 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 11:32 AM #409 Hugs, Jersey! That sounds terrifying and I hope you can take some time rest after that.
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,174 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 02:17 PM #410 Apparently there is a minor epidemic among dogs, who are so happy their people are home for quarantine that they’re spraining their tails from overwagging. This would never happen to a cat.
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Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 03:07 PM #412 I'm getting COVID-19 tested tomorrow....finally. I've been sick over a week
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 03:08 PM #413 I hope you'll be ok @Polibeth
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Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 03:08 PM #414 Jersey...sorry about your accident but glad that it wasn't worse
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,870 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.1k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 03:19 PM #415 Hugs, Polibeth. Hope you're OK!
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Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,773 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.2k hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 04:58 PM #420 @Una your Ryan is donating $1 million dollars to two american charities. __________________
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