[weaverbeaver]

Like everyone here I am adjusting to online therapy. I have mixed feelings about this. It’s a tad more intimate because you get to see different rooms in ts house and see her up close and personal. I thought I would miss seeing her in person more but I don’t.

Well this weeks therapy session was strange because t was eating her breakfast and she kept looking really close into the camera and it was very intense. I told her it was scary and to please back off, t thought this was funny and laughed.

I liked how t was so relaxed and comfortable with the camera and it reminded me how uncomfortable I am in my own skin.

[Yaowen]

Dear weaverbeaver,

Thank you for sharing that. I have never done online therapy but I think if I had the experience you describe, I would find it scary too.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[peacelizard]

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

Like everyone here I am adjusting to online therapy. I have mixed feelings about this. It’s a tad more intimate because you get to see different rooms in ts house and see her up close and personal. I thought I would miss seeing her in person more but I don’t.

Well this weeks therapy session was strange because t was eating her breakfast and she kept looking really close into the camera and it was very intense. I told her it was scary and to please back off, t thought this was funny and laughed.

I liked how t was so relaxed and comfortable with the camera and it reminded me how uncomfortable I am in my own skin.

Unless you're using a different online platform, Zoom allows you to choose from a selection of artificial backgrounds. Haven't figured out how, but I know the little intro video tells you you can.

With my therapist, I know that he's most likely in his house, but you honestly couldn't tell by looking at what's behind him. It's very generic and could just as likely be a random neutral-colored wall in his house as somewhere in a library or someone else's waiting room, you know.

For me, it's been a bit of an adjustment in that I've had the opposite experience: I've had trouble connecting in the same way and feeling a sense of intimacy. Plus, overall, I've felt a lot more detached and distracted.

Plus, another part of my problem is that if the appointment is right after work, I don't really have time to drive home and there's nowhere at work that I can think of where I'd feel comfortable doing that for fifty minutes, so once or twice I've had to pull over at a rest stop on the highway by work. I couldn't think of anywhere else that I could go and not look sketchy talking on the phone or to myself for that length of time.

And doing it at home — it's better than nothing, but it's impossible for me to get comfortable, I don't want my therapist to see or think what an utter slob I am or that my depression might be worse than I'm sharing, and I feel like anyone can hear everything that I'm saying through the closed door, so there goes privacy.

[Flinders40]

Why is she eating during your session?

[Omers]

My T is doing it from his office (there are very few people in the building at the same time as T) so it is nice to see him in our same space.
My T will often eat/snack during sessions with me because we talked through it and I am OK with it. He does it at the very beginning and doesn’t take very long. The way you mentioned your T eating breakfast made me feel a little weird... like she decided to sleep in and have a leisurely morning nashing on breakfast while chatting with you... that would bug me.
I know most of us are working on figuring out the boundaries of this new way... good luck!