[Mountaindewed]

Do any of you feel like you are the only client your therapist has? One of the reasons I had to temporarily end therapy was because my T remembered every little detail. She didn’t forget anything. It felt like I was her only client so I guess I kind of acted like it. Not sure how she felt though. I guess maybe I had poor boundaries. Does anyone else feel like this?

[Omers]

It is odd, yes, T makes me feel like his only client. I can see lots of ways that he works hard to create that space for every person and couple he works with. In almost a year and a half I have never seen him with another client. Sometimes there are clients before me and there are almost always clients after me but he makes sure not to be seen with on in front of the other. Even when scheduling he never mentions other clients and when he works out of town he says it in a way that does not imply other clients.
But then he has, on occasion said things like “ in the past I have done XYZ with other clients and would be open to that with you if you would find it helpful. And one session he did start by telling me of a session earlier in the day that was extremely difficult and had him a bit distracted. I do not want to know what on earth had to happen in session to get him that frazzled! But he settled into our session easily and everything was OK.
So... I feel like his only client but I know I am not. He even shared that he currently has a full caseload. I have mixed feelings. I know he is busy and I am a pretty high demand client which I feel poorly about. Feeling like his only client helps me feel a little less poorly about it. But then I wouldn’t want to be his only client in reality.
The other thing I am reading in your post though is being seen. T knows that is a delicate balance with me. If I have brought something up in session we are usually OK. Things he picks up on or things from email he has to be very careful with. Normally his clients want to feel seen and are fearful of being trapped. I am extremely fearful of being exposed or feeling exposed but like feeling securely contained.

[Mountaindewed]

I’ve only seen her associate with one other client because he was in the waiting room very early. She mentioned the last time not having time for something because of her other clients and it hit me that she did in fact have other clients and that just threw me off a bit.