[WastingAsparagus]

I've had some trouble with therapy lately and I'm going to try going it alone for a while. I guess I just wanted to hear from anyone who may have a similar story. Did it work for you? What should I watch out for? I don't know, I'm just posting this thread because I feel like this community helps me. And my therapist doesn't help too much. It seems like therapy has just enabled me to blame my problems on my therapist. I guess that might be a sign of having a bad therapist. But I also think that I am sort of like that anyway. I can't solve problems on my own, or at least I feel that way. So I turn to others for support. Then I get really frustrated when others cannot solve my problems. Including my parents. I think my parents are frustrated with me right now due to the way I behave. I guess it doesn't help to be living with them right now and depending off of them. Yeah, it certainly does not help. I'm struggling to understand what therapy can really do for me these days. I suppose I think it can solve all my problems, but can it really?

[Adyna]

I think therapy is meant to help you fix your own problems, eventually. You are right though, if they are not very good at their job then they will be of little help, or make things worse. I would say the goal would be to find the right therapist for you. Maybe you could try acting like your therapist in the meantime? Write a dialogue between you and the therapist in your head, see what they say. Maybe it could give you some clarity on what you want from a therapist. It’s worth remembering that while people can help, no one can ever fix your problems but you.

[Rive.]

Therapy or a therapist can't solve all your problems. They may give you tools or awareness for you to solve your problems.

They are a source of support or a crutch but *you* are the one who has to do the walking.

[here today]

Sounds like you're internally ready to move out on your own, generally? That's a natural part of life. But looking to other people for support and ideas is natural, too. I've gotten a lot more help from support groups in recent years than therapy.

[tomatenoir]

I quit therapy nearly two years ago. I think therapy can help, but I think it's more limited than therapists make it out to be. And I don't think it's the only way to heal. It's just the most expensive.

It helped me with some issues. And it made some issues worse.

I think the best thing we can do is build a life that has multiple supports, whether that's groups, friends, family, volunteering, etc. Could you kickstart some of those things, especially if you're not ready to leave therapy altogether? I think if you have other stuff going on, it's easier to phase out therapy.

Listen to your gut on this one. Try different things and see what helps and what doesn't. I'm 36 and, at various times in my life, drama club, my husband, books, online classes and writing have helped me as much and more than therapy has.

Good luck. X