Couch 215: The Overcoming Couch

SlumberKitty · May 18, 2020 at 05:14 PM

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience.

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy.

I named this one the overcoming couch because we are all working hard at overcoming stuff! We can do it!

SlumberKitty · May 18, 2020 at 05:14 PM

My coworker in NY is smart. I wished she worked in the CA office with me.

SlumberKitty · May 18, 2020 at 05:15 PM

I had a T session on Saturday with my Regular T. It went well. We worked on mindfulness of thought (capturing thoughts), anxiety over people being mad at me even when I have no evidence to support that, and what do I do with those thoughts and feelings, my inability to feel anger and how that builds up in me, and my reoccuring flashbacks of the hospitalization.

SlumberKitty · May 18, 2020 at 05:25 PM

Have to go pick up a prescription after work. I was just there on Saturday getting my ADHD medication and now it's time to go back! Always something!

LonesomeTonight · May 18, 2020 at 05:29 PM

Thanks for the new couch! My p-doc had an opening at 10:30 tomorrow, so seeing her then. Receptionist was like, "Phone, Facetime, Skype, or Zoom?" I went with Zoom, as I'm used to it now. It's just weird having to make those sorts of choices...

unaluna · May 18, 2020 at 06:10 PM

Great couch name! Thanks, slumber!

atisketatasket · May 18, 2020 at 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Those are my favorite foods. What does this mean??

An a heated bed...

You and the stopdog were meant to be together, if you would just transform into a dog?

So the student government at my school came up with a one-time (hopefully) teaching award: "Best Pandemic Pedagogue." You're reading a post by her right now. I've won teaching and research awards before, but I think I'm proudest of this one. I might even hang the certificate up on my office wall.

stopdog · May 18, 2020 at 06:40 PM

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So the student government at my school came up with a one-time (hopefully) teaching award: "Best Pandemic Pedagogue." You're reading a post by her right now. I've won teaching and research awards before, but I think I'm proudest of this one. I might even hang the certificate up on my office wall.

Congratulations. Nothing says fun like a plague

chihirochild · May 19, 2020 at 05:52 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You and the stopdog were meant to be together, if you would just transform into a dog?

So the student government at my school came up with a one-time (hopefully) teaching award: "Best Pandemic Pedagogue." You're reading a post by her right now. I've won teaching and research awards before, but I think I'm proudest of this one. I might even hang the certificate up on my office wall.

@@ that is fantastic! We all know you're a badass, but it's always nice to hear that other people know it too. Congratulations

UnderRugSwept · May 19, 2020 at 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

So the student government at my school came up with a one-time (hopefully) teaching award: "Best Pandemic Pedagogue." You're reading a post by her right now. I've won teaching and research awards before, but I think I'm proudest of this one. I might even hang the certificate up on my office wall.

Congrats! It would have been fantastic if they would have given you some toilet paper as well.

atisketatasket · May 19, 2020 at 10:42 AM

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Congrats! It would have been fantastic if they would have given you some toilet paper as well.

I had actually bought a big 24-pack in January before all this started, so I’m good for the rest of the year.

It’s like the smartest thing I did this year.

SheHulk07 · May 18, 2020 at 06:38 PM

Spoke to T1 this afternoon and talking to him again on Thursday. I briefly recapped the weekend for him and the things that happened. I didn't talk in details about everything, but he also said he didn't need details if i was too uncomfortable sharing.

LonesomeTonight · May 18, 2020 at 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Spoke to T1 this afternoon and talking to him again on Thursday. I briefly recapped the weekend for him and the things that happened. I didn't talk in details about everything, but he also said he didn't need details if i was too uncomfortable sharing.

Glad you'll be able to talk to him again Thursday and that he's not pushing for details.

unaluna · 07:39 PM

Yeah but i need somebody who can put a smoke alarm back up on the freakin wall.

Eta - okay, i got it to stick, but now its telling me it doesnt like my 3 and 4 year old batteries.

Its 90 pct humidity outside, i dont think anything is going to catch fire tonight.

That thing was chirping for 10 minutes every hour last night. It gave me the weirdest sense of reality.

So @@ - you are gonna be running that place pretty soon!! Well done!

atisketatasket · May 19, 2020 at 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Yeah but i need somebody who can put a smoke alarm back up on the freakin wall.

Eta - okay, i got it to stick, but now its telling me it doesnt like my 3 and 4 year old batteries.

Navajo rabbit, you jinxed me. I was just drifting off to sleep finally when the detector in my bedroom started its low battery beep. And then the detector in the hall followed. New dectectors as of 2 years ago, never changed a battery in them. Don’t even know how to get them off the wall yet or where the battery compartment opens.

Forty minutes later, I do. That’s after digging out old 9v batteries, one of which it rejected (was unwrapped for some reason), realizing I only had 3 batteries, knowing that at 1 am during a pandemic *nothing* is open now to get more, not even Walmart, climbing up and down a stepladder multiple times, having to open one of the non-beeping ones to check how to insert the battery because I forgot to look when I took the beeping ones’ batteries out, setting off three of four alarms...and now finally there is peace. I was thiiis close to just cutting wires. I mean, didn’t it used to be you could just take the damn battery out and leave it that way?

Loan dog thinks it’s walksies time. New cat thinks it’s breakfast time. I’m wide awake.

I won’t be winning “Best Pandemic Smoke Alarm Tender.”

BabyLoves · May 19, 2020 at 04:37 PM

I'm trying to overcome smoking and overeating. Please pray for me 🙏 my name is Trish or Patricia. I haven't smoked since April 31,2020...but I have been eating like a glutton and it's not because I quit smoking I was overeating like this before when I was smoking. I know that the Lord helps those who help themselves so I will talk to my psychiatrist about the overeating at my next appointment so I can develop an action plan. Thank you for listening and I appreciate your prayers 😊.

SlumberKitty · May 19, 2020 at 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by BabyLoves

I'm trying to overcome smoking and overeating. Please pray for me 🙏 my name is Trish or Patricia. I haven't smoked since April 31,2020...but I have been eating like a glutton and it's not because I quit smoking I was overeating like this before when I was smoking. I know that the Lord helps those who help themselves so I will talk to my psychiatrist about the overeating at my next appointment so I can develop an action plan. Thank you for listening and I appreciate your prayers 😊.

Hi Trish/Patricia welcome to the couch. Great job on not smoking since April 31st. That's a great accomplishment! Good job! HUGS if wanted kit

MobiusPsyche · Jun 08, 2020 at 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ElleLove

Hello. This is my first real post. I’m not quite sure how this works. I hope you all are feeling alright today-if not-you made it through the day. Tomorrow is a new beginning.

I have multiple diagnoses and am on medicine, have been since I was a teenager. I’m seeking out someone, anyone just to feel a connection, I am in a difficult situation at the moment. I’m in a brand new city, new state, moved here with my significant other and now we’re just strangers, or enemies I’m not sure. I am in the process of finally getting a job. My life is upside down and the person I thought was my life partner won’t talk or anything anymore. It’s like he’s waiting for me to end it. Yet I have nowhere to go right now. Currently we’re feet apart yet we have not spoken in days. It’s crushing, painful, embarrassing, disappointing.

But I use apps and journal and make myself take my medicine and get out of bed ,shower etc.

I cleaned the entire place today. I did the dishes, and more dishes, wiped all surfaces down, vacuumed, did laundry, bathrooms, took the trash out, made food, took my dog out for a walk, and played fetch. I even watered the plants. He cane home from work hours late, said nothing. Changed and walked out and left. He’s back I hear him eating. We could or we have everything we wanted yet I’ve never felt more alone.

That’s my current situation. It feels good to write this out. Feels good to share it with just anyone and no one. Hang in there, I know I am.

Welcome, ElleLove. That sounds like a tough situation. Are you able to see a therapist or counselor at the moment? Or are you just relying on the medications? I can't imagine being frozen out like you describe. But best of luck on the job search.

NP_Complete · Jun 08, 2020 at 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ElleLove

Hello. This is my first real post. I’m not quite sure how this works. I hope you all are feeling alright today-if not-you made it through the day. Tomorrow is a new beginning.

I have multiple diagnoses and am on medicine, have been since I was a teenager. I’m seeking out someone, anyone just to feel a connection, I am in a difficult situation at the moment. I’m in a brand new city, new state, moved here with my significant other and now we’re just strangers, or enemies I’m not sure. I am in the process of finally getting a job. My life is upside down and the person I thought was my life partner won’t talk or anything anymore. It’s like he’s waiting for me to end it. Yet I have nowhere to go right now. Currently we’re feet apart yet we have not spoken in days. It’s crushing, painful, embarrassing, disappointing.

But I use apps and journal and make myself take my medicine and get out of bed ,shower etc.

I cleaned the entire place today. I did the dishes, and more dishes, wiped all surfaces down, vacuumed, did laundry, bathrooms, took the trash out, made food, took my dog out for a walk, and played fetch. I even watered the plants. He cane home from work hours late, said nothing. Changed and walked out and left. He’s back I hear him eating. We could or we have everything we wanted yet I’ve never felt more alone.

That’s my current situation. It feels good to write this out. Feels good to share it with just anyone and no one. Hang in there, I know I am.

That sounds really painful and lonely. Have you tried talking to him about what's going on? What does he tell you?

chihirochild · May 19, 2020 at 08:21 AM

COVID negative again!

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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	May 18, 2020 at 05:14 PM #2 My coworker in NY is smart. I wished she worked in the CA office with me. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	May 18, 2020 at 05:25 PM #4 Have to go pick up a prescription after work. I was just there on Saturday getting my ADHD medication and now it's time to go back! Always something! __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,833 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	May 18, 2020 at 05:29 PM #5 Thanks for the new couch! My p-doc had an opening at 10:30 tomorrow, so seeing her then. Receptionist was like, "Phone, Facetime, Skype, or Zoom?" I went with Zoom, as I'm used to it now. It's just weird having to make those sorts of choices...

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,990 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.7k hugs given	May 18, 2020 at 06:10 PM #6 Great couch name! Thanks, slumber!

SheHulk07 Magnate Member Since Oct 2013 Location: CO Posts: 2,305 10 871 hugs given	May 18, 2020 at 06:38 PM #12 Spoke to T1 this afternoon and talking to him again on Thursday. I briefly recapped the weekend for him and the things that happened. I didn't talk in details about everything, but he also said he didn't need details if i was too uncomfortable sharing.

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