Do you ever wonder what your T's other clients are like?

I sometimes do.

I wonder what sort of other clients she sees, and if they struggle with similar problems like I do.

I’m more curious about how they interact and what their dynamics are like. I wonder if she worries about them the way she’s professed concern about me.

My T doesn't have a waiting room. I usually ring the doorbell (once) at my allocated time. If there is nobody else there, he lets me in pretty much straight away, but if there's another client, I wait for them to come out. I noticed that a lot of his clients are middle-aged men dressed either in suits (I guess they come straight from work) or in smart-casual attire. I also saw a few elderly gentlemen coming out (or waiting when I came out of my session). Sometimes, if there is a new client after me, they tend to ring the bell earlier than their allocated time as they assume he must have a waiting room. A few months ago, a youngish guy did this and T had to go down and explain that he was still in the middle of a session. I saw him when I came out and he seemed apologetic and a little embarrassed.

Once I saw a young woman which made me super jealous because, in my head, I am his only young female client (probably not true). She smiled at me and was super nice, held the door etc. I felt bad for my jealousy and I really wondered what sort of problem she was there for. I saw her once more after that, and I think that must have been her last session because it was almost two years ago and I haven't seen her since.

I also noticed a few teenage boys that go see him. One of them always greeted me and complimented me on what I wore, which I found funny and sweet in an "I could be your teacher" sort of way. There were also a couple of families who were clearly there for their kid. One family thought I was the receptionist greeting them when I came out of my session, which I found quite awkward. Had to explain I was a client and that there wasn't a receptionist/waiting room.

it's interesting seeing some of his other clients and it makes me wonder who they are./what they do/why they are there etc.

I've spoken with a couple of her clients in the waiting room. One older man was really sweet. And yes, I am extremely curious about her other clients and, like CharlieStarDust posted, I wonder if she says the same things to them that she says to me. She probably does to the clients who are longer-term and have deeper issues (like I am and do).

No, I never wondered that. I don't particularly care to be honest.

Oh, I did bump into a couple when we were doing in-person. But yeah, I don't care. I am the special-est of them all, after all!

I have seen a few as I have come and gone. Most are upper middle class to upper class, most are dressed very professionally. The vast majority drive recent years of higher end cars. Most come of as snooty or disgruntled and sitting there like they are waiting for a painful procedure at the dentists. They seem cold, distant and disconnected from the world around them.
Although the “one” I enjoy running into most is the other T who is in the building and uses my T as a supervisor. She can be appropriately assertive and outgoing when greeting her clients but is always shy and almost apologetic around me. T has joked with her about taking me on as a client and I thought she would surely keel over or melt into the carpet. She drives an expensive red car with a child seat in back... I always make a point of greeting her in a friendly manner to ease tensions.

I usually don't think about it. I know most of Pastor former T's clients were married or about to be married or in a relationship of some sort. I was an oddity there because I wasn't there for relationship counseling. With Regular T I know she works with a lot of youth that have been in gangs or stuff like that. So also not very much like me.

Yes, mostly I wonder about them in relation to me, like how do I compare. Are they smarter, more interesting, nicer, more open, does T like them better, etc.

Only in that it seems like I am not her typical client. She specializes in Trauma (why I initially started seeing her). She works with alot of immigrants and the LGBTQ communities. She has not talked about specific clients but made generalized statements. Things like she always get a flu shot because her previous employer required those who didnt get the shot to wear a mask. Working with some of the immigrants she felt uncomfortable wearing a mask because she has worked with many that people wearing masks were a trigger

Since I fit into neither of those groups (neither does she BTW). I sometimes wonder things like does she look at my trauma and think it is not as big of a deal. does she treat me differently because of different culture differences, etc?

Not really.

In relation to me... most are couples, almost all of them are younger than I am. They are more educated but less smart and all come from a much higher income bracket than I have ever been in. Most, although not all, I would classify as the “worried well”... someone that mostly has things going good for them but need someone to listen about this or that... Most are easier than me.

All the time. I don't really care what they look like or about their person lives. I just want to know what is wrong with them. Are they getting better faster than me? Does he have them work on the same stuff? I have DID and have lots of trauma issues to work through. He uses EMDR as the main modality for trauma (we also do DBT , CBT ) and it is SLOW going due to the DID. I always want to know if anyone else is as slow as me with making progress with EMDR. I ask him periodically and he gives me the same answer. But yeah, that is what I want to know.

I’ve seen a couple in passing and they are like 10-12 year old kids. She mentioned a 6 year old haven just been in her office before me one time. She claims that she sees other adults too. I just wonder if she remembers or ever thinks about me between sessions. I’m the only one of her clients who’s transitioning. So I guess maybe I stick out a bit more. But I’m probably just way too full of myself.

This pretty much sums it up for me.

I do wonder sometimes. I know one of her other clients because I referred my friend to her, and we talk about "our" therapist occasionally. It's fascinating how different their relationship is. My T sees a lot of queer grad students, which I used to be (the grad student part, I mean; I'm still queer). I followed her from one job to another, so I bet I've known her longer than pretty much anybody else, which makes me feel smug about my specialness, even though she would neither confirm nor deny such things.

Well I was in 2 groups that T ran, for awhile, so I "knew" some clients that way. But there are only one or two that I keep in touch with. Then there was
one I will never forget, as hard as I try. He was a thief, got caught, and still didn't understand why what he did was wrong. I wanted to smack his smug smile off his face. To avoid this, I sat on my hands.

I don't really think about who they are as people, more how my T interacts with them and whether she's the same with them as she is with me. I struggle with feeling jealous at the knowledge T has other clients but thankfully I've never had to see any of them.

Before Ts passing I didnt think about it very often. When I did I wondered if she was as close to others as we were and if she had such blurred boundaries. After her passing, I talked to EMDR T about whether T knew about the intense maternal feelings I had. She told me T told her during their conversations about me that there was a lot of maternal transference. I wonder if I was the only one of her clients that felt this way and that she also felt maternal towards.