T’s age

Mine is old enough to be a big sister.
I cannot take advice from someone younger than me. I once tried out a therapist who was about 15 years younger because i was desperate. But i kept thinking of her as a kid, and how with a little life experience she would change a lot of the things she said. So i had to quit going to her. I prefer older, wiser people.

Well I wouldn't want some baby therapist that might be reduced to tears because of my negative transference. Or who might be shocked at stuff I say or do and worse, who might fail to conceal said shock.

Mine is 11 years older then me. Which is just about right. I have a cousin who’s the same age and he always seemed so much older then me no matter age I became.

I tried out a guy who was 2 years older then me. It was weird but I think it would have been alright but he got spooked when he heard my diagnosis.

My T is quite a bit older than me. She is old enough to be my Mom, in fact I think she is older than my Mom. It's okay. I kind of see her as a maternal figure anyway.