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Jun 16, 2020 at 01:59 PM
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Every time when I talked about my past in therapy. My T always asked how old I was, what exactly happened (in details) etc etc. Like I get why she might want to know that, and it will help her understand more about how I am now, but every time it feels like I'm being put under a microscope, and being interrogated. It makes me feel very uncomfortable.
And it makes me feel like she doesn't believe me or she thinks that I'm over-exaggerating things. Can I tell her this is the way I feel? |
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Jun 16, 2020 at 02:06 PM
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Yes you can tell her, and you should. It's your time, don't waste it talking about what she wants to talk about.
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Jun 16, 2020 at 02:35 PM
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Absolutely tell her. That would bother me a lot. I’ve worked with a lot of T’s (good and bad) with a lot of styles and no one has ever done that. Current T would never do that. Even when he wanted to do a timeline of my life he said he wanted to know important events and it would be helpful to know of any abuse but I did not have to tell him if I wasn’t ready. He also said I could give as much or as little information as I felt comfortable with.
In addition to therapy I also worked training child welfare workers. I used my own stories and history as examples quite frequently. So I have talked about my history a LOT in a lot of settings from one-on-one to groups of 50+! I can tell you that what you are describing would STILL make me feel uncomfortable so please don’t think it is just you. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Jun 16, 2020 at 05:27 PM
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That's the premise of therapy, to tell them how you feel. Otherwise, what would be the point...
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Jun 17, 2020 at 04:57 AM
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Yes, of course you can say that. That's very relevant to your work together.
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Jun 17, 2020 at 05:01 AM
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I agree. You need to tell her that she's making you uncomfortable.
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Jun 17, 2020 at 09:38 AM
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Can we trade therapists?
btw - yes. Talk with her about your uncomfortable feelings. __________________ |
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Jun 17, 2020 at 12:57 PM
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What makes you think this wouldn't be ok?
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Jun 17, 2020 at 01:41 PM
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You don't have to answer any question you don't want to answer and you don't need the therapist to approve or disapprove of anything - you pay them.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Jun 17, 2020 at 05:47 PM
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Tell her all of what you told us.
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Jun 17, 2020 at 08:50 PM
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absolutely tell her. One of the things I have learned with current T is that of I dont bring it up she will not know. Both of my T's have always said I can always tell then I want to change the subject and we do.
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