Can I say to my T that sometimes our sessions feel like an interrogation?

emmaleemochizuki · Jun 16, 2020 at 01:59 PM

Every time when I talked about my past in therapy. My T always asked how old I was, what exactly happened (in details) etc etc. Like I get why she might want to know that, and it will help her understand more about how I am now, but every time it feels like I'm being put under a microscope, and being interrogated. It makes me feel very uncomfortable.

And it makes me feel like she doesn't believe me or she thinks that I'm over-exaggerating things.

Can I tell her this is the way I feel?

Lostislost · Jun 16, 2020 at 02:06 PM

Yes you can tell her, and you should. It's your time, don't waste it talking about what she wants to talk about.

Omers · Jun 16, 2020 at 02:35 PM

Absolutely tell her. That would bother me a lot. I’ve worked with a lot of T’s (good and bad) with a lot of styles and no one has ever done that. Current T would never do that. Even when he wanted to do a timeline of my life he said he wanted to know important events and it would be helpful to know of any abuse but I did not have to tell him if I wasn’t ready. He also said I could give as much or as little information as I felt comfortable with.

In addition to therapy I also worked training child welfare workers. I used my own stories and history as examples quite frequently. So I have talked about my history a LOT in a lot of settings from one-on-one to groups of 50+! I can tell you that what you are describing would STILL make me feel uncomfortable so please don’t think it is just you.

Rive. · Jun 16, 2020 at 05:27 PM

That's the premise of therapy, to tell them how you feel. Otherwise, what would be the point...

Amyjay · Jun 17, 2020 at 04:57 AM

Yes, of course you can say that. That's very relevant to your work together.

downandlonely · Jun 17, 2020 at 05:01 AM

I agree. You need to tell her that she's making you uncomfortable.

*Beth* · Jun 17, 2020 at 09:38 AM

Can we trade therapists?

btw - yes. Talk with her about your uncomfortable feelings.

comrademoomoo · Jun 17, 2020 at 12:57 PM

What makes you think this wouldn't be ok?

stopdog · Jun 17, 2020 at 01:41 PM

You don't have to answer any question you don't want to answer and you don't need the therapist to approve or disapprove of anything - you pay them.

Shotokan · Jun 17, 2020 at 05:47 PM

Tell her all of what you told us.

nottrustin · Jun 17, 2020 at 08:50 PM

absolutely tell her. One of the things I have learned with current T is that of I dont bring it up she will not know. Both of my T's have always said I can always tell then I want to change the subject and we do.

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Lostislost Veteran Member Member Since May 2020 Location: Uk Posts: 562 4 890 hugs given	Jun 16, 2020 at 02:06 PM #2 Yes you can tell her, and you should. It's your time, don't waste it talking about what she wants to talk about.
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Rive. Magnate Member Since Sep 2013 Posts: 2,196 11	Jun 16, 2020 at 05:27 PM #4 That's the premise of therapy, to tell them how you feel. Otherwise, what would be the point...
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Amyjay Magnate Member Since Mar 2017 Location: Underground Posts: 2,439 7 692 hugs given	Jun 17, 2020 at 04:57 AM #5 Yes, of course you can say that. That's very relevant to your work together.
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jun 17, 2020 at 05:01 AM #6 I agree. You need to tell her that she's making you uncomfortable.
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Beth catches the flowers Member Since Jul 2019 Location: Downtown Vibes, California Posts: 15,701 (SuperPoster!) 5 23.7k hugs given	Jun 17, 2020 at 09:38 AM #7 Can we trade therapists? btw - yes. Talk with her about your uncomfortable feelings. __________________
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comrademoomoo Grand Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: Toodlepip Posts: 1,830 5	Jun 17, 2020 at 12:57 PM #8 What makes you think this wouldn't be ok?
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Shotokan Member Member Since Jan 2020 Location: In The Dojo Posts: 196 4 1 hugs given	Jun 17, 2020 at 05:47 PM #10 Tell her all of what you told us.
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nottrustin Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: n/a Posts: 4,819 10 375 hugs given	Jun 17, 2020 at 08:50 PM #11 absolutely tell her. One of the things I have learned with current T is that of I dont bring it up she will not know. Both of my T's have always said I can always tell then I want to change the subject and we do. __________________
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