Can I say to my T that sometimes our sessions feel like an interrogation?

Every time when I talked about my past in therapy. My T always asked how old I was, what exactly happened (in details) etc etc. Like I get why she might want to know that, and it will help her understand more about how I am now, but every time it feels like I'm being put under a microscope, and being interrogated. It makes me feel very uncomfortable.

And it makes me feel like she doesn't believe me or she thinks that I'm over-exaggerating things.

Can I tell her this is the way I feel?

Yes you can tell her, and you should. It's your time, don't waste it talking about what she wants to talk about.

Absolutely tell her. That would bother me a lot. I’ve worked with a lot of T’s (good and bad) with a lot of styles and no one has ever done that. Current T would never do that. Even when he wanted to do a timeline of my life he said he wanted to know important events and it would be helpful to know of any abuse but I did not have to tell him if I wasn’t ready. He also said I could give as much or as little information as I felt comfortable with.

In addition to therapy I also worked training child welfare workers. I used my own stories and history as examples quite frequently. So I have talked about my history a LOT in a lot of settings from one-on-one to groups of 50+! I can tell you that what you are describing would STILL make me feel uncomfortable so please don’t think it is just you.

That's the premise of therapy, to tell them how you feel. Otherwise, what would be the point...

Yes, of course you can say that. That's very relevant to your work together.

I agree. You need to tell her that she's making you uncomfortable.

Can we trade therapists?

btw - yes. Talk with her about your uncomfortable feelings.

What makes you think this wouldn't be ok?

You don't have to answer any question you don't want to answer and you don't need the therapist to approve or disapprove of anything - you pay them.

Tell her all of what you told us.

absolutely tell her. One of the things I have learned with current T is that of I dont bring it up she will not know. Both of my T's have always said I can always tell then I want to change the subject and we do.