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I did once. And I found her. Then I looked her up again and I couldn’t find her. I guess maybe she blocked me. Don’t know why she was looking me up in the first place though. One of those situations where you have to tell on yourself in order to find out anything so it’s best to just keep quiet.
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#2
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Mine asked me if i wanted to friend her on facebook. She has a work account and a private account. Its not a big deal.
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#3
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While still a client, no. He was a pretty open book so I wasn’t that curious. Post-therapy (9 years later), we are Facebook friends and keep in touch regularly.
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#4
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I've looked up mine on google a couple of times, but she has no internet presence, so I haven't done it in a long time.
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#5
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Yes, of course. I always check online for information / reviews about professionals before I work with them.
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#6
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Plenty of times. The first time I did, I wrote a Facebook privacy guide for her. Had a panic attack in the session I confessed. She doesn't mind that I look. She felt pretty flattered since I was the first client to confess. She has a public Instagram she doesn't mind anyone finding and following, which I follow.
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#7
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Yes, when I was looking for him and after but I haven't done anything wrong I don't think as it's all public. We aren't Facebook friends but I like to check it sometimes to see a recent photo of him, I don't know why. Maybe to see how he looks in his 'real life'. He knows I'm super attached anyway.
There's a spelling mistake in his personal facebook bio which is quite annoying but I don't feel like I can just tell him..lol. |
#8
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Constantly and they can not tell if you are looking them up or not. What has been great is if they post on a facebook group that is public even though you have to join to post, their comments will show up in your search. I have found so much information on what my x-T is doing by his post in public groups.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
#9
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Yes, I have. Didn't find out too much, he has a professional webpage that tells you pretty much everything there is to find about him online. He doesn't use the internet much, as far as I know.
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Yes. T1 has a very limited web presence on the internet with just his professional web page. After off handedly mentioning another web page in session once I asked if I would be allowed to look at it (it is public but it would take a lot to find it on google) he sent me a link. It has been very helpful to our work together. Just last week we talked in session about how much it helps and he was surprised, but then he had forgotten he gave me the link too...
T2 has a professional FB page that I started following long before I set up my first appointment with her (still haven’t seen her yet). I was curious about her from running into her in the building. It is mostly inspirational stuff but it does show some of her personality. Pdoc set up a FB page during the pandemic with inspirational stuff and I really like having it as a resource... as with most things Pdoc it is so very... Purple.
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#11
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Of course I have. What else do people do when they are drunk and alone late on a Saturday night?!
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#12
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Yes, before working with any provider, I google them. Current T has a FB page but the most recent picture updated was from the week she started her private practice. Besides that I have found only 3 things online about her. If I ask needing connection I will look at her psychology today profile. There is a typo in it and it reminds me she is human. The type has been there for 3 years. One day at work I was helping a client look up providers and I realized because of how she filled her information there is a large group of the population who is searching for a particular criteria she will not pop up
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#13
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Yes, not Facebook though as I’m not interested. We have discussed my above average internet stalking skills before, but not in relation to him. I think he would be surprised how much I’ve uncovered really...
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Yes. I've googled her. I've not looked any of them up on Facebook. I am friends with my former Pastor T on Facebook but that was sort of different. I wanted to find any reviews and I found good reviews of former T. I didn't find much information about current T except where she has worked in the past. No reviews. Pdoc specifically asked me if I would put a google review for him. I did.
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Yes I have checked her facebook out. I have not told her or don't think it would be okay with her knowing that. The clinic I go to has very strict policies around that. Also I try not to do it very often either. I have found interesting things about her through google such as her training and work she has or is still involved in. It has helped feel at ease talking to her about things that i have never ever felt safe in sharing with other therapist i have had.
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#16
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Yes. I have looked her up all over the internet. I easily found her address; it turns out she lives less than 2 miles from me (our town is pretty small). I drove past her house once. It's not something I would make a habit of, because I get very stressed about it. I feel like I'm protecting myself by knowing as much about her as I can. For example, are there any signs that she's unreliable or anything like that?
I would not want to have any online connection with my therapist, besides emails.
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I googled her the other night and I found some interesting career things that she had done. She never mentioned them to me before. I’ve been trying to figure out the time frame when she would have done them. She’s mentioned a lot of stuff to me that was relevant to our conversations. But never this.
I think she may know that I do google her though. We were talking about bad reviews about doctors and other people and I accidentally said “you don’t have any bad reviews” she had a weird look on her face but kept it cool and didn't ask why I was looking her up. I honestly googled her then because I had some crappy therapy experiences. So I wanted to see what her reviews were like.
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Md, you have every right to check her reviews. I'd say that is good self care. How did you find out about her former career things? I want to look my T up and find out about her former career things ![]()
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I’ve said before that something was up with my T though.
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#20
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Yes, I remember well...she's the kind-of odd T that you wonder about.
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#21
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I looked my T up so much on Facebook that he showed up on my feed as a someone I might want to be friends with! EEKK. I hope I did show up on his feed.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Recently I looked at her Facebook, which I do from time to time, and discovered that she recently got married. I am upset, not that she got married, but that she didn't tell me. I know, technically it's none of my business, but a few weeks ago I thought she was loosening boundaries, and now I see that that isn't the case.
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