Couch 219: The Goose Drank Wine

SlumberKitty · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:00 PM

My T got a 2017 Prius. She needed a new car because her old Prius died. It took her at least two weeks to find this car. I haven't seen it yet. I just asked her about it in my text to her today. She said, "Thanks for asking!" I wonder if it is the same color as her last Prius.

SlumberKitty · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:03 PM

It's funny because I can't imagine T driving any other car besides a Prius. Pdoc drives a Range Rover or something like that. I can envision him in something sleek and classy like an Aston Martin though. But T, the Prius just fits her.

ElectricManatee · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Today in session, as part of a conversation about my fearing annoying people, Dr. T said how I tend to apologize to him 3-10 times each session.

I first read this as you being afraid of people who are annoying, and I was so very confused.

unaluna · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Mine just arrived.

I knew I liked you for a reason.

Im a very unstable genius!

SlumberKitty · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:22 PM

I'm getting absurdly excited about Christmas. It must be the pandemic because I am never excited this early. I'm working on my shopping and have quite a bit done actually but it's like I want to get wrapping paper (not that the stores have it yet) and start filling out my cards (which I do have already) and stuff like that. This is nutty. Even for me. I'm trying to enjoy the season that I'm in. I talked my Dad into buying one of those little pumpkins the ones that are about 4 or 5 inches tall when we went to the supermarket the other day. And I found a cute Turkey decoration for my office for when Halloween is over and I take down my pumpkin decoration (not the same thing as what we bought in the supermarket).

unaluna · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by cygne

Sometimes I wonder how I'd see the world if I were a raccoon. Would people shoo me away from their trash cans or would they give me their sneakers to wash?

Yes! Allie Brosh has a chapter in her new book about this, kinda. Looking at the world thru the eyes of animals, companionate or otherwise.

atisketatasket · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I first read this as you being afraid of people who are annoying, and I was so very confused.

Me too. Because I couldn't see being afraid of annoying people and also seeing Dr. T.

SlumberKitty · Sep 25, 2020 at 04:56 PM

I think I am starting to love T. I didn't want to because I don't want it to be painful when I leave T like it was with Former T but I don't think I love her to that depth yet so I think I'm okay. Just get the warm fuzzies sometimes with her. Even today with just our text conversation. She said, "I am more proud than words can say." THREE TIMES! I was like, aww! Then the warm fuzzies came.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I first read this as you being afraid of people who are annoying, and I was so very confused.

OK, that's funny! English major/copy editor fail with my phrasing on that one...

LonesomeTonight · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Me too. Because I couldn't see being afraid of annoying people and also seeing Dr. T.

OK, I can see that, too!

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:43 PM

I told t today that it hit me the other night what scares me about being dependent on her. it means that she can hurt me. she just said "yes". I mean I guess I'm glad she doesn't think I'm too dependent on her but I still feel like I am.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:46 PM

I saw this cute idea on facebook earlier, to make 'fossil cookies', making impressions in cookie dough with plastic dinosaurs. I'm filing that idea away for if/when i have grandkids someday.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:56 PM

I am absolutely stalling right now; I don't want to start assignment 2 (reading a journal article about childhood trauma and writing a peer review.) Definitely considering not doing it and just forfeiting the 20 possible points. Then again it might be therapeutic?? I talked about it with L today and she said I've had a breakthrough as far as being able to actually call what happened in my childhood trauma, in the past I couldn't/wouldn't and would always minimize it/shrug it off/excuse it away/etc. Maybe finally being able to talk about it that way will give me a powerful perspective when writing my review. We'll see.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:42 PM

Artie, I kind of quoted you to Dr. T today, talking about the Good Little Girl thing. And how I related to what you'd said about it.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I told t today that it hit me the other night what scares me about being dependent on her. it means that she can hurt me. she just said "yes". I mean I guess I'm glad she doesn't think I'm too dependent on her but I still feel like I am.

That seems like an important revelation.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:44 PM

see artie spamming the couch. go, artie, go!

(no really, artie. go.)

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Artie, I kind of quoted you to Dr. T today, talking about the Good Little Girl thing. And how I related to what you'd said about it.

It's an interesting thing, it is. I was talking with my sister at length about it recently (she's been in therapy for 10 years herself, longer than me even!) and she suggested instead of wanting to rid myself completely of it that instead I learn how to use it to my advantage. And she sent me a couple of research articles about that very subject. I'll have to find the links.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

That seems like an important revelation.

Yes I think so too. I'm a little bummed that it took me SO long to get to where I am right now. All in my own time though I guess, cuz there's no magic timeframe on this stuff is there? I had a lot of layers of defenses that we had to work through to get here.

atisketatasket · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:51 PM

I just googled “good little girl complex.” First hit for me: the Electra Complex.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 25, 2020 at 06:57 PM

I looked at that and well that's just disturbing! huh.

L and I have always called it 'good little girl' but apparently you get closer results if you google "good girl complex" or "good girl syndrome".

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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 04:00 PM #581 My T got a 2017 Prius. She needed a new car because her old Prius died. It took her at least two weeks to find this car. I haven't seen it yet. I just asked her about it in my text to her today. She said, "Thanks for asking!" I wonder if it is the same color as her last Prius. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 04:03 PM #582 It's funny because I can't imagine T driving any other car besides a Prius. Pdoc drives a Range Rover or something like that. I can envision him in something sleek and classy like an Aston Martin though. But T, the Prius just fits her. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,383 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,837 hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 05:43 PM #591 I told t today that it hit me the other night what scares me about being dependent on her. it means that she can hurt me. she just said "yes". I mean I guess I'm glad she doesn't think I'm too dependent on her but I still feel like I am.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,383 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,837 hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 05:46 PM #592 I saw this cute idea on facebook earlier, to make 'fossil cookies', making impressions in cookie dough with plastic dinosaurs. I'm filing that idea away for if/when i have grandkids someday.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,918 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.2k hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 06:42 PM #594 Artie, I kind of quoted you to Dr. T today, talking about the Good Little Girl thing. And how I related to what you'd said about it.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,383 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,837 hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 06:44 PM #596 see artie spamming the couch. go, artie, go! (no really, artie. go.)

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,188 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 06:51 PM #599 I just googled “good little girl complex.” First hit for me: the Electra Complex.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,383 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,837 hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 06:57 PM #600 I looked at that and well that's just disturbing! huh. L and I have always called it 'good little girl' but apparently you get closer results if you google "good girl complex" or "good girl syndrome".