I am sorry to say I disagree. Having had. Those needs met by my therapist in a safe way it absolutely has helped and has allowed me to form real relationships with other people whereas before I just wanted everyone to be the provider of this for me, if that makes sense. Her giving me what I never had, in this way, allowed me to really grow and develop. I got through the barrier, so to speak, and came out the other side. I am still in therapy, working on other issue now but I no longer feel this enormous gaping hole. I no longer seek this in my outside relationships, though I do now have them at least. It won't be the same for everyone, but it has helped me. She showed me love, and helped me to love myself.
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Originally Posted by Amyjay
She *can't* meet those needs. The time for when those longings needed to be filled has gone. Even if she could give you what you want now, it wouldn't help, and it would never be enough. It needed to be given at the time the developing child needed it. There is nothing she could give you now that will fill the void that was made back then.
The way forward is to face the void. When you can face it and explore it and see inside it really does stop feeling so desperate. When you face it and accept it for what it is then you can begin to fill it with real things.
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Oct 04, 2020, 09:09 AM
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