We had a really nice session today. I wonder if he as been reading here... Hey you, you spying on me!!? ;-)

He seems to be listening more...
And he doesn't seem to be trying to sort the 'work' from the 'superficial' and directing the conversation towards what he considers to be the former...

It was nice.

I guess most of it was fairly light... About where I'm at work-wise and about this deadline I've set myself. Then I talked to him a bit about my bf and about how his father is dying... And about how I got to thinking about how I'd feel if my parents were dying and about how I'm not sure I understand how my bf feels very well. Because he had a pretty good relationship with his father, and a pretty good childhood etc. And I'm not sure that I can relate. And he said... That the best thing for me to do is just to listen to him. And that is kind of what I'm doing, so that was nice. Reassuring. Validating. I really want things to work out okay with my bf. Don't want to %#@&#! things up at all.

And we just kind of talked about stuff...

And he brought up about the emails. And fessed up that he has never really had email conversations / an email relationship before. I thought as much. He said that it might take some time... That he was still thinking about how he is best to respond to them etc. But that it was okay. And something that he is willing to work on. And that it will be a good way for us to stay in touch when I'm not around.

And he seemed happy that I was able to talk to him about that a bit. Talk to him a bit about what I'd sent. Maybe he was reassured (partly) that what I send is accessible to the aspect that presents ftf.

It was nice.

See him again Monday :-)

[sunrise]

alex, that sounds like a perfect session! Truly, it does sound like he has been reading what you write (in your emails, here on PC??) and trying to change to accommodate your needs. He sounds very flexible and trying hard to help you.

maybe that's it alex... maybe you can pick out useful things in his emails now and kind of encourage that direction.

i am so glad it went well. (sorry tho to hear about your bf's dad)

[Mouse_]

AK, sounds like a good one! Good for you.

Alex,
I'm so glad that your sesson went well!

Thanks guys.

[MissCharlotte]

Alex,

Nice work! You listen to bf. T listens to you. Sigh.

Thanks. I'm trying to be there for my bf, yeah. I just don't know what to say in response to him, at times. I guess phone is easier there than emails. Can make 'uh huh' 'I hear you' kinds of noises easier by phone. Maybe... This is similar to the problem my therapist is having with emails... Hmm...

Yeah, therapist was in a good listening mode. Maybe partly in response to the emails I've sent, yeah. Talking about stuff on the boards... Helps me figure out what to say to him. I guess I try and communicate stuff that I communicate here. Once I've processed it a bit and kind of pinpointed my concerns.

I think maybe... He saw that too? That it was important to me that he just listen to me because... Where I'm at in my life right now... I'm going through a period where I really need to do that with my friends (some of them have been having a hard time of it) and when I've been feeling weary with that... Turns out that my bf is going through a hard time of it. And... I really want to be there to support him (since he is my best friend). And so, yeah, I need him to listen to me. So I can refuel.

See him tomorrow :-)

It is weird... We are moving to 2x a week. Mondays and Fridays. So it is weird that there have only been two days in between and then I'm back in on Monday. I'm feeling really fond of him at the moment. Really very. I hope things stay like this and he doesn't get back to trying to push me.

I hope he can just trust me... Trust that I'll push myself as I'm able. I don't know. The relationship goes through better and worse phases, I guess. ANd sometimes the worse phases are necessary for progres...

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alex, that sounds like a really relaxed and very enjoyable session for you. It sounds so good!