[TrailRunner14]

I’ve become quite the TED addict since someone posted the video of Brene Brown’s Anatomy of Trust utube video.

There is another thread for interesting psychotherapy articles. I wondered if a place to share TED Talk videos would be welcomed.

I listened to this one a couple of days ago, for the first time, and have replayed it several times.

I wanted to share it somewhere.

There are several things here that are my story. I never understood the power in telling my story and the healing that happens in the process.

Edited.

I took the video off. I didn’t want it to hurt someone who wasn’t in a place to see or hear it.

It was “The Secret That Almost Killed Me” by Kirsten Johnson.

It’s really good, if you are in the right place to hear it.

Please add videos that you would like to share.

I think there is great information here.

[WarmFuzzySocks]

I listen to the TED Radio Hour podcast in the car often, which features different TED speakers. One TED talk that really resonated with me was Debra Jarvis, a cancer survivor. What she had to say about difficult experiences and identity was useful to me. I think this is the speaker who used the analogy of crossing a rope bridge that I find so resonant.

[here today]

Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

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Edited.

I took the video off. I didn’t want it to hurt someone who wasn’t in a place to see or hear it.
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I did watch it and found it triggering but had aspects of my story, too.

I'm not sure you want to hear this, in which case I'm sorry if it not's something that you want to read, either. But what came up for me is a different kind of trauma, a different kind of white elephant -- and how angry I am at how led down the garden path of delusion that I have been by therapy and therapists over many years.

Yes, I was vulnerable to that because of how numbed out I had learned to be in the family of origin -- identifying, following, and meeting expectations because – that was the way to be.

That’s what “therapy” was supposed to find and help with, right? Theoretically. And I lived by theory and expectations, aspects of life that my cognition could take control of. So much of what Kirsten Johnson had to say about how trauma victims stay silent – that’s true of trauma and mistreatment in therapy as well, in my experience.

It’s taken practically my whole life to find this out – and there is no recognition anywhere in the society of a need for any help, "professional" or otherwise, for me or people like me who have been mistreated in therapy and very confused by it. No recognition that we exist. No recognition that there is any trauma, or mistreatment -- just more stuff that's "my fault".

But for me to speak out. Yes, that does help a little. Pretty late for me, but it’s not over till it’s over.

[SalingerEsme]

I admire Shep Nuland's Ted Talk on Electro C therapy wile being a well known surgeon and Andrew Solomon on depression.

When i started the interesting psychotherapy articles thread i asked the mods if it could be a sticky as thought it was more of a resource thread. Perhaps you can ask them about TED talksp

[koru_kiwi]

Originally Posted by here today

I'm not sure you want to hear this, in which case I'm sorry if it not's something that you want to read, either. But what came up for me is a different kind of trauma, a different kind of white elephant -- and how angry I am at how led down the garden path of delusion that I have been by therapy and therapists over many years.

Yes, I was vulnerable to that because of how numbed out I had learned to be in the family of origin -- identifying, following, and meeting expectations because – that was the way to be.

That’s what “therapy” was supposed to find and help with, right? Theoretically. And I lived by theory and expectations, aspects of life that my cognition could take control of. So much of what Kirsten Johnson had to say about how trauma victims stay silent – that’s true of trauma and mistreatment in therapy as well, in my experience.

It’s taken practically my whole life to find this out – and there is no recognition anywhere in the society of a need for any help, "professional" or otherwise, for me or people like me who have been mistreated in therapy and very confused by it. No recognition that we exist. No recognition that there is any trauma, or mistreatment -- just more stuff that's "my fault".

But for me to speak out. Yes, that does help a little. Pretty late for me, but it’s not over till it’s over.

i haven't had an opportunity yet to watch this, but thanks for speaking up and saying this

[skeksi]

Thank you for sharing that, Trail Runner. I could relate and I found it valuable.

[Seelenna1982]

Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

I’ve become quite the TED addict since someone posted the video of Brene Brown’s Anatomy of Trust utube video.

There is another thread for interesting psychotherapy articles. I wondered if a place to share TED Talk videos would be welcomed.

I listened to this one a couple of days ago, for the first time, and have replayed it several times.

I wanted to share it somewhere.

There are several things here that are my story. I never understood the power in telling my story and the healing that happens in the process.

Edited.

I took the video off. I didn’t want it to hurt someone who wasn’t in a place to see or hear it.

It was “The Secret That Almost Killed Me” by Kirsten Johnson.

It’s really good, if you are in the right place to hear it.

Please add videos that you would like to share.

I think there is great information here.

Thank you for sharing that. It was a great talk, I so hope to be in that place where I can freely talk and begin to recover one day!

A Ted Talk that really motivated me to think about reaching out for help was ‘How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime’

[TrailRunner14]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

When i started the interesting psychotherapy articles thread i asked the mods if it could be a sticky as thought it was more of a resource thread. Perhaps you can ask them about TED talksp

Thank you for the thread! I enjoy it often. It was my inspiration for this one.

I’m not familiar with stickys, and I agree with you that it could be a resource as the interesting psychotherapy thread is.

I would trust the mods opinion if they would like to make it that.

[TrailRunner14]

Originally Posted by here today

I did watch it and found it triggering but had aspects of my story, too.


I'm not sure you want to hear this, in which case I'm sorry if it not's something that you want to read, either. But what came up for me is a different kind of trauma, a different kind of white elephant -- and how angry I am at how led down the garden path of delusion that I have been by therapy and therapists over many years.


Yes, I was vulnerable to that because of how numbed out I had learned to be in the family of origin -- identifying, following, and meeting expectations because – that was the way to be.


That’s what “therapy” was supposed to find and help with, right? Theoretically. And I lived by theory and expectations, aspects of life that my cognition could take control of. So much of what Kirsten Johnson had to say about how trauma victims stay silent – that’s true of trauma and mistreatment in therapy as well, in my experience.


It’s taken practically my whole life to find this out – and there is no recognition anywhere in the society of a need for any help, "professional" or otherwise, for me or people like me who have been mistreated in therapy and very confused by it. No recognition that we exist. No recognition that there is any trauma, or mistreatment -- just more stuff that's "my fault".


But for me to speak out. Yes, that does help a little. Pretty late for me, but it’s not over till it’s over.

Thank you for your honesty!

I’m so sorry that you have experienced this. Professionals should help and not harm and my heart is truly sad for the hurt that you have encountered.

May I say that I agree with you! “It’s not over till it’s over” and I’m thinking that it’s not over until you stop speaking out.

I've listened to “The Secret That Almost Killed Me” by Kirsten Johnson. I don't like the speaker much but I also relate to parts of the story. The dark secrets (mine were different, who doesn't have some?) and especially the recovery part. I, and many other people I know, experienced early sobriety in quite similar ways. That was where the peer support groups and especially the person who I often refer to as my "sober mentor" were extremely important. The latter person, especially, was the best model I'd ever seen for how to use anger constructively. I learned how anger, if channeled correctly, can be one of the best antidotes to anxiety and also a very powerful motivation to make constructive change. In that way, also good for depression. For me, this was perhaps the most useful emotional skill I'd learned about coping in early recovery. Not in therapy though.

Sherwin Nuland's TED talk about Depression/ECT is also one of my favorites. I really like his style and it is a very positive, inspiring recovery story. He also has the kind of humor that I appreciate.

[here today]

Originally Posted by Xynesthesia

I've listened to “The Secret That Almost Killed Me” by Kirsten Johnson. I don't like the speaker much but I also relate to parts of the story. The dark secrets (mine were different, who doesn't have some?) and especially the recovery part. I, and many other people I know, experienced early sobriety in quite similar ways. That was where the peer support groups and especially the person who I often refer to as my "sober mentor" were extremely important. The latter person, especially, was the best model I'd ever seen for how to use anger constructively. I learned how anger, if channeled correctly, can be one of the best antidotes to anxiety and also a very powerful motivation to make constructive change. In that way, also good for depression. For me, this was perhaps the most useful emotional skill I'd learned about coping in early recovery. Not in therapy though.

Sherwin Nuland's TED talk about Depression/ECT is also one of my favorites. I really like his style and it is a very positive, inspiring recovery story. He also has the kind of humor that I appreciate.

Here's a TED talk on anger that I found interesting. Not one by a psychologist, but by a professor of management:

Nuland's talk was also very interesting.

[TrailRunner14]

Originally Posted by here today

Here's a TED talk on anger that I found interesting. Not one by a psychologist, but by a professor of management:

Nuland's talk was also very interesting.

Thank you for this!!

Anger has always scared me, whether from someone else or from me. I struggle with it greatly.

The “sweet spot” was encouraging to me!

Originally Posted by here today

Here's a TED talk on anger that I found interesting. Not one by a psychologist, but by a professor of management:

Nuland's talk was also very interesting.

Oooooh, I relate so much to this! What he talks about is exactly many of my own experiences and life lessons. Also similar to what I'd learned from my father early in life - indirectly and pretty unconsciously back in my childhood, he was very much in-touch with his anger and sometimes overdid it, but mostly used it constructively to his goals. Then, when that sober mentor came along (after my using many wrong ways to manage my emotions for a decade at least), it just clicked immediately and was very easy for me to pick up and integrate it into my own personality/life strategies. Kinda natural. I love riding that current of irritation and anger even in small things like my busy city, when I need to commute to work in the mornings. I sometimes still suffer from depressive spells and lack of motivation, which can make it hard to get my day started. But when I do, when I get out, I most often need to go through a very irritating, hectic, anger-provoking environment, in order to get to work. Often even half-way through my commute, or by the time I arrive, I am awakened and charged with all that discomfort and irritation the commute caused. Then I get to my peaceful office and can start dealing with my day constructively. I also use my anger in leadership similarly to the speaker. And there is a lot more...

Nuland, from that video and from his books that I read, always seemed one of those "mental twins" for me (not the "bad at tech" part though). That's why I like his style, humor, topics of his interest, thoroughness, knowledge, general life experience, and motivation to go out and speak to the public about it all. I was actually planning to contact him personally. Unfortunately, he died shortly after I got sober and advanced with my own ordeals (which also included anxiety, depression and obsessiveness). I read his books and think that he would have fit perfectly in my particular constructive chain of choosing men and transference. I still imagine he and I could probably have been good friends at least for a while. Of course it is now just a fantasy I also like this talk by him, about hope and the respect for everyone's experience and going beyond ourselves. The kind of spirituality that I relate to: Sherwin Nuland: The extraordinary power of ordinary people | TED Talk

[TrailRunner14]

This is an amazing talk on addiction.

It stuck me that connection is such a healing things for so many things that we struggle with.

[here today]

Yes, "You're not alone, we love you". The absence of that feeling, the absence of that kind of environment, is so . . . painful.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks for sharing... “you’re not alone, we love you” - this was not in my family of origin, at all. So painful.

[TrailRunner14]

This is a great talk on epigenetics.

It could be mind blowing if you entertain it.

To me it’s very encouraging!

[Anne2.0]

Originally Posted by TrailRunner14

This is an amazing talk on addiction.

It stuck me that connection is such a healing things for so many things that we struggle with.

I thought this was a great talk too, and I agree that one can listen to something about "addiction" and apply to something in your life that isn't addiction.

I also discovered some great talks on "autoplay" or whatever after that, and listened to quite a few (more about life direction/goals kind of things).

[TrailRunner14]

Just wanted to share this because it’s me right now.

It really spoke to me.

[Anastasia~]

I can understand how what we resist, persists could be a really helpful idea for conflict. I have an issue going on in which it could be really helpful to me. I think it came from DBT.



Unfortunately, I think Mahari's terminology "The Borderline," and "The Narcissist," are dehumanizing. I find this disturbing in a mental health counselor.

[Anastasia~]

I think this video would be good for people who are in therapy (or not) for low self esteem, social anxiety. I might try it out.



Amy Cuddy: Your body language may shape who you are | TED Talk

[Seelenna1982]

I found this surprisingly empowering. A few parts didn’t relate to me but defowl bring this into my therapy journey (outside of therapy)

[mugwort2]

Originally Posted by koru_kiwi

i haven't had an opportunity yet to watch this, but thanks for speaking up and saying this

Feeling sorry you went through such emotional hurt with past MH professionals.

[TrailRunner14]

Impossible dreams, obstacles and community.

This talk gave me such hope to find community, not in a fairy tale way.

I do believe there is strength in community and that’s what we were made to live in.