[emmaleemochizuki]

Probably someone with an eating disorder can relate to this.

It certainly bothers me. If I am working with a T that's really skinny, its very unconvincing, because I find it hard to believe he/she has a healthy relationship with food, and besides seeing skinny people triggers me. But equally if I work with a T that's overweight, it doesn't help either.

My current T used to be very skinny, and it really triggered me, and I was never really able to bring it up in therapy, cos I thought it was rude to comment on someone body, cos I wouldn't want anyone to comment on me too. But she's gained weight since her pregnancy, and I'm not gonna lie it made me less anxious, cos then there isn't this comparison to her, and me feeling horrible because I think I look bigger than her.

[susannahsays]

I have had an eating disorder in the past. Although my eating habits now aren't perfect, I don't engage in the same obsessive/restrictive behaviors anymore.

I have never been bothered by a therapist's weight. The ones I have seen have all been at a healthy weight but not especially skinny. I think I would probably feel jealous of a really fit/skinny therapist because I would assume being that way comes naturally for them and they don't have to resort to the things that I have in the past.

[ArtieTheSequal]

i would say current t is at a healthy weight. i feel like that too susannahsays that it just comes naturally for her and so she can't understand my struggles with my weight. i felt so terribly shamed when she brought it up not long ago!!

Possible trigger:

she said that she suspects i have an eating disorder but i don't think that emotional eating is technically considered one. i think i'm certainly not the only one who's gained weight during this stupid pandemic!!

[Creepeh]

I don't get bothered by a therapist's weight.

I have Binge-Eating Disorder though and am plus-sized.

[ArtieTheSequal]

Originally Posted by Creepeh

I don't get bothered by a therapist's weight.

I have Binge-Eating Disorder though and am plus-sized.

I suspect that's what t thinks i have. but i don't know.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by Creepeh

I don't get bothered by a therapist's weight.

I have Binge-Eating Disorder though and am plus-sized.

Same: all of the above. L is a very healthy weight, amd I'm not bothered by it at all.

[Mountaindewed]

I saw my T for the first time in 6 months a few weeks ago and she lost a lot of weight and I didn’t know what to say. So I didn’t say anything. I didn’t know if I was being rude by not saying anything but I had no idea if I should or not. Or how to say it the right way. I couldn’t tell if she seemed bothered that I hadn’t commented on it. Then again she didn’t comment on my appearance... and I looked different too.

I’ll be going in there on Thursday after having lost 13 pounds since we last met. We’ll see how it goes. She strongly suspects an ED to the point of needing treatment.

I am bothered that she might not robust enough which is an erroneous concern really because she is a bit chunky and very fit. She is old though and I think I am sensitive to any sign of her being frail and vulnerable.

[nottrustin]

It doesn't really bother me. After the birth of my three kids I held onto a lot of weight for a few years. then I lost a lot of weight quickly. They suspect I had the early stages of an eating disorder. Over the last 10 years I gained some of the weight backs especially over the last few month.

Current T is quite slim. We have discussed that she can essentially eat anything she wants thanks to genetics. I also pointed out that she goes for a run every day which also helps. I am a healthy weight and wish I could lose a few pints as I would still be healthy for me. Since covid started ai have also bern exercising everyday. So while I have gained a little bit of weight my clothes are fitting a bit better

[MoxieDoxie]

Because I always think I am fat I get jealous of my T if he loses weight. During my time with him he started working out and I guess working on nutrition. I watched his midsection shrink. I also seen pictures of him on his facebook page when he was younger and he was hefty and unhealthy looking but how he is very healthy looking,

[Salmon77]

My current T used to be very skinny, and it really triggered me, and I was never really able to bring it up in therapy, cos I thought it was rude to comment on someone body, cos I wouldn't want anyone to comment on me too. But she's gained weight since her pregnancy, and I'm not gonna lie it made me less anxious, cos then there isn't this comparison to her, and me feeling horrible because I think I look bigger than her.

Therapy isn't like a social situation where you have to worry about the other person's feelings and being polite and all that. I mean, obviously I don't think therapists deserve to be abused or whatever, but you should be able to talk about what's on your mind.

My T is a little on the heavy side but I don't think about it much.

[Omers]

I don’t have an eating disorder and my T is male. I have never really thought much about any of my T’s weights... BUT current T’s weight/build has changed since the pandemic started and I find it upsetting and I feel a little less safe with him because of how his body is changing.

My first therapist was extremely thin and “recovered” from an eating disorder. I was there for anorexia and trauma. Because she was so thin, she seemed very weak to me, and i didnt trust her to handle all my difficult issues. I also didnt trust her about any of her recovery stuff,