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Old Jan 14, 2008, 11:03 PM
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Well I went back after this huge rupture this weekend and I thought I would be crying the whole session. Was I ever wrong.

I walked in and sat down. I looked at him. He looked at me. I smiled. He laughed and I go "What are you laughing at! We both knew we were okay. Just Me and My T Just Me and My T .

OMG. We reviewed the entire rupture. I read him two pages from my journal written over the weekend. He sat and listened with his eyes closed. Just Me and My T

We shared. We healed. We negotiated (ok, well I negotiated). I talked about my inner child who had been very deeply hurt and who hung around all weekend. But it was the mature, adult me who showed up tonite. Woo hoo!

I just don't know how much more of this I can take but dang, I am now officially an expert at the rupture repair cycle and I will tell you this: I learned more about myself over these past 3 days than I have over the past 3 months. Go figure.

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Old Jan 14, 2008, 11:17 PM
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You were strong & brave to weather this rupture. After having survived my own, I know that the days between the sessions can seem VERY long & hard.

I can picture the smile exchange. It's funny how moments like that can change so much....so fast! It's like words are almost unecessary.

I feel happy & relieved for you. You definately won't forget this experience!! Just Me and My T Just Me and My T

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Old Jan 15, 2008, 12:09 AM
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I'm so glad you decided to go to your appointment and face T with your head held high. There is no healing with T unless there is communication. You both did that part very well and I'm proud of you for working through this problem all weekend and facing it today. Well done!!

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Old Jan 15, 2008, 05:31 AM
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Sister, oh yes, we do learn the most during times of crisis then any other time! Good for you!!!
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 09:52 AM
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I walked in and sat down. I looked at him. He looked at me. I smiled. He laughed and I go "What are you laughing at! We both knew we were okay. Just Me and My T Just Me and My T .

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OMG I just love this. It made me melt. Reminds me so much of me and my T. I LOVE IT.

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OMG. We reviewed the entire rupture. I read him two pages from my journal written over the weekend. He sat and listened with his eyes closed. Just Me and My T

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Ohhh I am just picturing this most intimate moment and I'm melting again. He listened this time, Sister. He really did.

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But it was the mature, adult me who showed up tonite.

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Who?? WHO??! jajajajajajaja

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I just don't know how much more of this I can take but dang, I am now officially an expert at the rupture repair cycle and I will tell you this: I learned more about myself over these past 3 days than I have over the past 3 months. Go figure.

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Aren't you glad you went back? Aren't you glad you AIN'T quitting? I sure am. The two of you are beautiful together.
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 10:24 AM
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yay sister! therapy high! can we bottle it? save it? *siiiiiiiiiiiigh...

so happy for you... ruptures are awful... but you know, he felt that pain too.
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 11:18 AM
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Sister that is great news. Why did he close his eyes? Was it so he could listen intently?
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 05:37 PM
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Why did he close his eyes? Was it so he could listen intently?

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Well I like to think that he closed his eyes because he loves listening to my voice.

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Old Jan 15, 2008, 05:39 PM
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maybe that was it!!
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 07:24 PM
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Old Jan 15, 2008, 08:32 PM
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That is wonderful you shared and healed the rupture. Sounds blissful.

Maybe your T was closing his eyes as he listened because he was sharing your pain. Deep empathy.

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Old Jan 15, 2008, 11:18 PM
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What a wonderful session! Thanks for letting me live vicariously through you as my sessions have been for the birds lately. Take care!
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Old Jan 16, 2008, 12:09 AM
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Thanks all.

It was hard. Yeah, real hard. And sometimes I think it's all for the birds except that I know myself so much better now than I did so I know we are doing something right. But, why does it have to be so painful?

Oh well.....

Hey Sol...I have no doubt I'll be back in the birdcage before long. Hey, wait a minute, is that you? Get outta there now, and flap your wings!!!!

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Old Jan 16, 2008, 07:33 PM
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ROFLMAO Sister! Okay, Okay. I'm trying! I'm flapping my wings as hard as I can! Oh well, it seems as if I'm going nowhere fast. Well, maybe next session T will come around to my way of thinking (LOL). And yes, that is the goal. He's being a little recalcitrant lately but it's nothing I can't handle. I want to be patient with him. Hey, where is the birdseed in this place? I'm starved!
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