Couch 224: 2day, 2morrow, 4evah!

I have an air fryer that is the toaster oven style (as opposed to the basket style) - so it bakes, toasts, air fries - air fry is just another term for convection oven. Go marketing.
I really like it and only use my regular oven for holiday or big gatherings -which means I have used my big oven only once in the past 10-11 months. I use the air fryer oven daily. I have used toaster ovens ever since I got out of a dorm room so this was just an upgrade from my old one that died.

I love these! And pressure washing, and carpet cleaning. It's so satisfying!

Glad your H is feeling better, Artie!

Like this one? Sunbeam 4 in 1 Air Fryer + Oven | JB Hi-Fi

Yes like that
This is not the brand I have, but
this is a very popular brand over here
The Ninja(R) Foodi™ Digital Air Fry Oven in Black and Silver, Convection Oven, Toaster, Air Fryer, Flip-Away for Storage, 1800 watts, Stainless Steel, SP100 - Walmart.com - Walmart.com

Are these having forpoopitous effects on your health?

I think we can improve here. How about for#twoitous?

This just encourages her fascination with all things water closet related. Perhaps we could get her to broaden her horizons - skinner boxes, electrodes, white rabbits = there are a lot of goofy therapy things out there that are not related to
bodily goo

Hopefully your psychiatrist will have seen similar cases, but maybe you could write it down or give permission for your normal T talk to the psychiatrist.

Thanks for sharing the article. I understand it being scary as it was for me to talk about my gender experience without being pleural.

I do identify as fragmented. I think a large amount of my fragmentation comes from my gender dysphoria and a binary societal world. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that many trans people have this type of internal struggle if they were raised in a way that did not respect their internal gender identity. Perhaps you could talk about more in terms of parts of you having different feelings about it without having to specify right away what those parts are. I hope your gender psychiatrist can reassure you that it's ok to have different feelings about it. I know when I had to seek a 2nd letter for the hysterectomy's surgery, it was with a LGBTQ focused therapist. They guided the discussion based on learning about the history of my awareness to my gender. We didn't really focus too much on my doubts. When I was going for my top surgery, I was worried that if I shared with T my uncertainties, she'd pull the letter. Where I live for top surgery we only need 1 letter from mental health. T reassured me that she wouldn't pull the letter without me asking her to and we were able to talk about my fears. T even visited me in the hospital after that surgery (the clinic we were meeting at was part of the hospital so she was already on site).


Like the article, I needed to confront those topics within me as well. To be honest, I think every trans person that is looking at doing any type of physical/chemical transition need to confront those topics. I see it as part of being informed; internally informed. I was really clear on my transition of the things I didn't want - deeper voice, facial/body hair. I can't say those are not happening, I do keep my testosterone at a low enough level that the changes are not significant. I do not know your system, do you feel you have a good handle as to what your system looks like (the major players), how they help you live and survive, their strengths, and where they weigh in on your gender? Would any of them be/feel damaged/betrayed by your transition?


I have noticed being sensitive to the testosterone in my emotional/mental world. The higher my testosterone is, the less I cry even if I want to cry, sometimes it even feels like I lose the ability to cry. It is also easier for me to be "mean" to myself (SH, food restrict, overwork). There's this place on the hormone level where I feel young/very young and long for T. I know that sounds like just my standard transference; however, I've been on the testosterone long enough to do trials and there does seem to be a link to it. I use a gel so it's a daily dosing and I have more control over adjusting the dosage day to day.


What part of your gender journey are you seeing this psychiatrist for? What part of your journey are you at? I know you are in a different country and that you just recently got out from under your abusive parents. Have you been able to give your different parts the space needed to explore gender in general? I would hope that on the outside chance this psychiatrist (gate keeper) does cause a delay, it is just to give you that space, to ensure that all of you are on board with a way of life. It always sucks when there is a gate keeper in our lives that get to judge what our lives should be like simply because they are granted some authority. Have you been able to do any research on this person and see which philosophy they take in terms of informed consent verse gate keeping? In your country, are they trending more open or more conservatives towards gender identity issues? I'd think if this is a person that specialized in gender items, they would be on the forefront in that trend. What has your T had to say about this person - did your T refer you to them? And no, none of that logical stuff will override the fears - they are valid. You have hopes and someone you don't know gets to judge your ability to reach those goals and achieve those hopes. I'll be thinking of you - I hope it goes well.

Great questions, Eliot, thank you.

We're still too new as a system I feel. Last year I saw the Gender psychiatrist while believing it was just me in my body, and Little being a metaphorical younger self. She was ready to put me on testosterone right away, either a gel or a patch since I stated considering a low dose and that I'm non binary. But I don't know enough about testosterone and I'm unsure what effects I want beyond "I want to feel ok inside".

I requested gender therapy partly due to that plus my partner being unwilling to support me chemically transitioning and was referred to a social worker (T2) experienced in gender issues.

Then someone showed up internally and told me I'm now ready to know about her. That sent my gender identity haywire since all 3 or 4 of us have our own gender identity. Depending on how close they are to the front, my experience of gender changes.

T2 thinks some dysphoria could be a coping mechanism for trauma since I was abused from a very young age. Not sure how accurate her opinion is. She suggested I take time to settle down since I was newly free and I mentioned "dissociated selves" emerging.

From what little regular T told me, I'm "in good hands" and she said the psychiatrist is both trans affirming and trauma sensitive. I referred myself through the public health system as it's the only public health gender clinic in my region.

I guess I'm still afraid because of uncertainty and fear of gatekeeping. I'm also really new to this "oh wait, I've other selves" thing (my thread in dissociative disorders such forum talks more about what happened) and I definitely need more time for the others to explore, us all to discuss, find other hidden alters etc.

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