[AliceKate]

Mine are usually a bit longer. Just wondering..

[AliceKate]

My T never says that. She is usually very subtle, leading the conversation to more shallow grounds until I realize our time is up. I can't see the clock from where I'm sitting, which is good, because I tend to obsess about time and it would distract me completly.

[ScarletPimpernel]

L lets me go over a little.

[SlumberKitty]

Mine are either the scheduled time or my T lets me go over a little. It depends whether she has someone after me. She frequently starts late but she makes up the time at the end.

[stopdog]

I paid attention to the time- when time was up I stood up tossed money on the table and left. I wasn't going to leave it up to her

[AliceKate]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I paid attention to the time- when time was up I stood up tossed money on the table and left. I wasn't going to leave it up to her

Why not?

[RoxanneToto]

Mine do last about as long as they’re meant to, give or take a few minutes.

[nottrustin]

I am the last appointment of the day. Typically at about the time my appointment is scheduled to end she wills say "I am not ending thr appointment now but it is 7:00 so we need to start shifting towards grounding you and winding down". She will then go back to what we were talking about. Sometimes we continue with what we were discussing. Other times we will change the subject. It really depends on where we were.

[ArtieTheSequal]

We don't usually, but we went over by like 10 minutes today. I'm a fragile mess lately, so I guess it makes sense.

[*Beth*]

We generally go just about exactly 50 minutes. I'm a time-watcher and it would cause me to be nervous and embarrassed if she had to tell me to stop.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by BethRags

We generally go just about exactly 50 minutes. I'm a time-watcher and it would cause me to be nervous and embarrassed if she had to tell me to stop.

This is very similar to me. Near the end, I'll tend to say things like "I know we only have a few minutes, but..." or "I know we have to stop, but..." to show I'm aware of the time. The few times that T's (current or ex) have said we had to stop without my saying anything made me feel really bad. Occasionally, my current T will say something like, "Is this an OK place to stop?" or "OK if we schedule now?" when I've reached a seeming stopping point.

My former marriage counselor would often go over time considerably, like 10-20 minutes, even longer at times (but not always). So with him, I'd use the "I know we have to stop soon" to sort of test whether he was allowing us more time that session. To see if he'd then say "we still have time." He also often started sessions late (due to giving other clients more time!), so if I didn't pay close attention to what time he actually took us back, I sometimes wouldn't be sure when the 45-50 minutes would be up.

[Mountaindewed]

Old T was very strict about the time because of her “next client” new T let me go over the first time. Second time she just politely said the time was up.

[Salmon77]

Yes, we start and end on time, every time, give or take a minute. T keeps time, I can't see the clock from my position. I like that it's reliable.

[daisydid]

My session times vary anywhere between 45-60 minutes. We end where it makes sense to end. I know that that variability may bother some but I always feel like my sessions are fruitful. I don’t feel cheated when they’re shorter.

[Lonelyinmyheart]

We sometimes go over a little, occasionally a fair bit. Sessions are normally an hour.

[Taylor27]

My session runs over by 20 to 30mins over every time. She books for 90mins each time. I am only booked for 1hr.

[AliceKate]

I think in my country it's 50min end of story. We do up to 60 usually.

[*Beth*]

What drives me nuts (and hurts my feelings for some reason) is when either my T or my pdoc "sneak a peek" at the clock behind my head. They both do it very rapidly, as if I won't notice. I wish they'd just put the freakin' clock where I can see it and let's be upfront about the whole thing.

[AliceKate]

Originally Posted by BethRags

What drives me nuts (and hurts my feelings for some reason) is when either my T or my pdoc "sneak a peek" at the clock behind my head. They both do it very rapidly, as if I won't notice. I wish they'd just put the freakin' clock where I can see it and let's be upfront about the whole thing.

can you tell them this?

[Lemoncake]

We usually ended on time. Most extra time would be 1-2 mins on top.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

There never really was a discussion of how long a session actually takes, as far as I remember. But after seeing my T for over 4 years, usually the sessions go for about 50 minutes, when I have little to talk about sometimes it's only 40 and if there's a lot of things coming up we usually go over, the longest session was about 70 minutes. It's a bit different every time, usually we end after about 50 minutes, give or take a few.

[ArtleyWilkins]

I think the official schedule was for 50 minutes, but I am not a clock watcher. I know I was often his last appointment of the day, and it was not at all unusual for us to go long. The only time I remember us intentionally stopping early was a time when I was really not feeling well (starting to get sick) and he told me to go home and go to bed. LOL. I don't think he charged me for that session if I remember correctly.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by BethRags

What drives me nuts (and hurts my feelings for some reason) is when either my T or my pdoc "sneak a peek" at the clock behind my head. They both do it very rapidly, as if I won't notice. I wish they'd just put the freakin' clock where I can see it and let's be upfront about the whole thing.

That's annoying! My T has like 3 clocks in his office, so no matter where a client sits, they can see one (as can he).

[feileacan]

My T starts the sessions exactly on time and ends exactly on time. I don't watch the clock because I don't want to be responsible on time. It is on my T to end the session on time. I am lying on the couch so I will not see the T's face but I will still notice when he starts to throw glances at the clock and so I know that the session is about to end soon. I guess my internal clock is also quite well tuned already and I would start feeling weird after the 45 minutes have passed without actually having to look at the clock.

[stopdog]

If a therapist did not have a clock where I could see it, I would simply look at my watch or set it/my phone on my knee so I could see it. I would not let a therapist keep me from seeing the time.