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ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 10:13 PM

Ha. I just deleted a big long post. Long story, but short version is... I just love T so much. T :o)

Perna · Jan 23, 2008, 10:16 PM

And to think, for this post you're first in line T :o)

But tell us the story, you know you have to eventually! What was said that triggered so much love :-)

ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 10:39 PM

Aww, I get into details and ruin it. lol

We discussed diagnosis. Early on we agreed it wasn't important. I mentioned that the former T (who I saw only about 6 weeks) laid a couple on me, one was a personality disorder diagnosis. When I told this T about it, she lightly said "Oh, well, what isn't about personality development, really."

And we've left it at that.

Last night I brought it up. I've been researching and reading, and thinking and noticing things about my behavior and perceptions. I thought this diagnosis I brought up sounded very much like me. "Depression/anxiety" just never seemed to completely and adequately describe my experiences.

So (told you I get too wordy!) she readily agreed that this diagnosis applies to me. She's thought this for some time. She hadn't mentioned it in part because it seemed to her that when the former T laid those diagnoses on me, I felt 'attacked' and she didn't want me to feel that way with this diagnosis.

She's correct in how I felt about the former T's abruptly stating those diagnoses. But it is so amazing to me that she remembers these things. This was something I told her 10 months ago and never mentioned again since.

So, the love is that she cares how I feel about this. Her noticing how I felt then and bringing it into the here and now of last night's session with her continued thoughtfulness and concern for my feelings just feels so very good.

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krazibean · Jan 23, 2008, 10:42 PM

amazing echoes. I'm love with my T too. She makes me feel really good. T :o)

Perna · Jan 23, 2008, 10:49 PM

Shucks, kid, so you have a good therapist! (No, I'm not in a weird mood, what are you talking about?)

She is taking the time to know you so of course she remembers the importance of the conversation that happened 10 months ago! You are important to her.

sunrise · Jan 23, 2008, 10:50 PM

Your T sounds so gentle and amazing and thoughtful and perceptive, ECHOES. What a wonderful session. T :o)

ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 10:57 PM

Perna

I do have a good therapist. I am so fortunate!
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ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 10:58 PM

Thank you sunny! T :o)

Jan 23, 2008, 11:00 PM

Echoes, I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you might have the second best T in the world! LOL

ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 11:01 PM

thanks krazibean. I've told her that sometimes I'm embarassed that I don't remember the exact words spoken in the session, but I go away with a feeling about it. I was afraid I'd hurt her feelings when I told her that. T :o)

She assures me that's part of therapy, getting a feeling from it.

yay! T :o)

lauren_helene · Jan 23, 2008, 11:16 PM

That is great Echoes! Some T's can be so harsh about diagnosing personality disorders. I know where I fall but thankfully my T isn't changing my diagnosis. I did the MMPI test a few weeks ago.

It was my idea I was curious and I think secretly he was hoping I'd stop researching this stuff on the web. Amazingly, I have stopped so it helped me to at least know about it.

I'm sorry your former T made you feel bad about something almost everyone has in some form or another.

None of us have perfect personality traits...

Fuzzybear · Jan 23, 2008, 11:18 PM

Your T sounds so wonderfully caring and perceptive and it sounds like the two of you make a great partnership! T :o)

ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 11:34 PM

2ND???!!!

ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 11:39 PM

thanks almeda24fan.

you know, I feel a relief actually. I'm not all that concerned about the name; it's just a description, like a color.

I am surprised to be feeling relief.

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ECHOES · Jan 23, 2008, 11:41 PM

((( fuzzy ))) T :o)

Thanks!

I adore her... she tolerates me.. lol. I guess that will work, huh?

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