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stopdog · May 11, 2021 at 02:24 PM

Even if someone sees you take out garbage -so what? What difference would it make?

unaluna · May 11, 2021 at 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

When there was a car chase on the news. I wanted to see the story about the tiger, but oh no, someone steals a you haul and the rest of the news goes out the window.

Youre funny! I was on youtube last night and all these local accidents showed up, i was like wth is going on tonight?!

stopdog · May 11, 2021 at 02:28 PM

I am worried some texas whahoo with a gun is going to kill the tiger before the animal rescue people can get her.

unaluna · May 11, 2021 at 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Even if someone sees you take out garbage -so what? What difference would it make?

Thank you, dr SD! I'm cured!

You and Dr Albert Ellis.

Honestly, i think it has to do with toilet training. Something freudian. I just dont like them WATCHING me. I like my privacy.

"Me and my garbage...
Strolling down the avenue..."

SlumberKitty · May 11, 2021 at 02:56 PM

It's my job to take the garbage and recycling to the curb every Wednesday morning. Usually at least one of my neighbors is doing the same thing at the same time. I don't mind. I'm the first one up at my house so it's up to me to get them out before the garbage collection comes.

NP_Complete · May 11, 2021 at 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Even if someone sees you take out garbage -so what? What difference would it make?

In my case, it's because I still feel like a pariah because the ex tried to burn our house down and inconvenienced the whole neighborhood until the wee hours in the morning. I also wait until it's dark to take my trash/recycling out, if I take it out, which I don't every week. I also don't want people judging me for how many liquor bottles end up in my glass bin so I take it out as late as possible.

NP_Complete · May 11, 2021 at 03:08 PM

Wait... What? Is there a tiger running loose in Texas? I haven't been paying attention to the news.

SlumberKitty · May 11, 2021 at 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Wait... What? Is there a tiger running loose in Texas? I haven't been paying attention to the news.

Unfortunately, I didn't get to see the story because some yahoo decided to steal a uhaul this morning and there was a chase with the police so all other news got pushed to the side. I really wanted to know what happened!! I only got the teaser that there was a tiger loose. I didn't even know it was Texas!

unaluna · May 11, 2021 at 03:40 PM

yeah my mom used to count the bottles in the mother and daughter across the street's bin. In case you are wondering where i got my nice streak from!

ETA - Tomorrow i am having a grand day out. To the library to pick up tax forms, then a haircut, then my vaccine. I need to find shoes and underpants before then!

Lemoncake · May 11, 2021 at 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thank you, dr SD! I'm cured!

You and Dr Albert Ellis.

Honestly, i think it has to do with toilet training. Something freudian. I just dont like them WATCHING me. I like my privacy.

"Me and my garbage...
Strolling down the avenue..."

My thinking was maybe it was shame related.

Lemoncake · May 11, 2021 at 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

yeah my mom used to count the bottles in the mother and daughter across the street's bin. In case you are wondering where i got my nice streak from!

ETA - Tomorrow i am having a grand day out. To the library to pick up tax forms, then a haircut, then my vaccine. I need to find shoes and underpants before then!

Well done!

You don't need pants for the victory dance.

Lemoncake · May 11, 2021 at 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Unfortunately, I didn't get to see the story because some yahoo decided to steal a uhaul this morning and there was a chase with the police so all other news got pushed to the side. I really wanted to know what happened!! I only got the teaser that there was a tiger loose. I didn't even know it was Texas!

Found it for you. I already knew Houston was wild.

Possible trigger:

Bengal tiger missing, murder suspect owner caught after big cat got loose in Houston neighborhood - TheBlaze

Lemoncake · May 11, 2021 at 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

I’m having an issue with my BF (which I have been talking with T about) and it’s making me feel really really awful and I asked T for an extra session this week which I’ve never done before and he hasn’t gotten back to me (though in his defense I only emailed him two hours ago).

This feels really bad.

What's his normal email reply timescale like?

Lemoncake · May 11, 2021 at 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Dr. K at two PM today PST. Pocket Riders welcome.

How was your session?

chihirochild · May 11, 2021 at 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

What's his normal email reply timescale like?

He responds to texts within the hour, but thus isn’t a text-worthy issue (I’m distressed but not in any actual danger).

His official policy on email is that he doesn’t respond to them at all, though in reality he probably responds to like I dunno 10% of them for one reason or another. And when he does, it’s usually within 12 - 24 hours.

I think part of my anxiety here is that I’ve just never asked him for an extra session and I don’t know how he’ll react. (He did offer me an extra session once but I declined because I wasn’t feeling all that bad at the time.) I’m afraid it’ll become a whole thing about BPD and boundaries and The Therapeutic Frame.

LonesomeTonight · May 11, 2021 at 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

He responds to texts within the hour, but thus isn’t a text-worthy issue (I’m distressed but not in any actual danger).

His official policy on email is that he doesn’t respond to them at all, though in reality he probably responds to like I dunno 10% of them for one reason or another. And when he does, it’s usually within 12 - 24 hours.

I think part of my anxiety here is that I’ve just never asked him for an extra session and I don’t know how he’ll react. (He did offer me an extra session once but I declined because I wasn’t feeling all that bad at the time.) I’m afraid it’ll become a whole thing about BPD and boundaries and The Therapeutic Frame.

So, with my T, if it's a scheduling thing, he tends to prefer texts. Requesting an extra session would fall under that. Maybe try texting and asking if you could have an extra session, without necessarily giving details? (Dr. T prefers texts like that with no details, though he's relaxed on that lately.)

unaluna · May 11, 2021 at 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Well done!

You don't need pants for the victory dance.

LOL! Now youtube algorithm is sending me these: a blast from my past:

unaluna · May 11, 2021 at 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

My thinking was maybe it was shame related.

Exactly. I have a kindle book on shame, i should get back to it.

stopdog · May 11, 2021 at 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thank you, dr SD! I'm cured!

You and Dr Albert Ellis.

Honestly, i think it has to do with toilet training. Something freudian. I just dont like them WATCHING me. I like my privacy.

I keep telling you it isn't hard to be a therapist.

And really I don't think others are paying that much attention to anyone but themselves.

chihirochild · May 11, 2021 at 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

So, with my T, if it's a scheduling thing, he tends to prefer texts. Requesting an extra session would fall under that. Maybe try texting and asking if you could have an extra session, without necessarily giving details? (Dr. T prefers texts like that with no details, though he's relaxed on that lately.)

I *think* my T once specified that texting is only for situations where I’m in danger of hurting myself, though I’ve never had the urge to text him for a different reason and haven’t ever tested or clarified those boundaries. He’ll sometimes text me about scheduling stuff, though, so I dunno.

I’m also a little worried that he hasn’t read the whole email (which, to be honest, is fairly long) and therefore hasn’t encountered my request -or- is annoyed by my request (and/or some of the contents of the email) and is waiting until next session to talk with me about it.

Ugh.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,096 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.9k hugs given	May 11, 2021 at 03:40 PM #709 yeah my mom used to count the bottles in the mother and daughter across the street's bin. In case you are wondering where i got my nice streak from! ETA - Tomorrow i am having a grand day out. To the library to pick up tax forms, then a haircut, then my vaccine. I need to find shoes and underpants before then!