[just2b]

So my T has moved 2 hrs and 30 min away. While I am still trying to process it and all, I am struggling how this will really start to feel. I was so looking forward to going back to in person even though that is a while away. Looks like I will have to get used to seeing her through a computer screen.

My question is, if anyone has ideas or has been able to get to a more connected space through computer screen, how did you do it? I have days where I want to feel connected to her, I want to feel her presence, and its hard through the computer. Other days, where I am fine with how things are done.

I'm struggling a lot with how I feel and what this is going to be like. Just her move is making me feel abandon, and yet we are still doing therapy like always. I cant see to get that understanding to other parts of me. I feel so childish at times for how this has affected me and my recent behavior. I try not to beat myself up about it but hard to remember at times. Thanks.

[nottrustin]

I have also struggled with the feeling like the connection isn't there. My therapist and I have discussed it a couple of times. So sometimes when I am feeling thr need to reconnect we talk a out it and spend some of your appointment just talking about random stuff so I can reconnect. She is a hiker and I have taken up some hiking so sometimes that is what we discussed. I also went to the ocean one day and picked up a flat rock in the shape of a heart. She lives near the ocean so it made me think of her. I usually hold it during our appointments. It isn't perfect and it still feels very different than out in person appointment but it helps.

Sadly, I have a feeling what you are going through with a therapist moving so far away may be an issue for many clients. I know of a couple of therapists who have done the same.

[*Beth*]

Having your therapist move away has to be very difficult. I've been doing teletherapy for one year and I feel I can barely stand it anymore. I don't know if I could manage it indefinitely, but I suppose if I was really bonded to my T I would manage it. One thing I have learned from teletherapy is that I don't have to sit there stiff and always looking straight ahead. I now bring tea to my appointment and reach for the mug naturally. I guess I'm saying that I just behave more naturally on screen and don't feel as restricted as I did in the first many months.

Holding something in your hand during the session seems helpful for a lot of people. I'm going to try that at my next teletherapy session, because I roll the hem of my shirt or dress ridiculously during the session because of anxiety.