[Dannii91]

Hey guys.

I have currently been seeing an in person therapist for a year now and generally speaking, I don’t click as well with her as I did my 7 Cups therapist.

At first I thought it was just me and that I was being unfair and that I should be patient and wait for a connection to happen, but it just never did. And on top of this, she is not as validating as my 7 Cups therapist nor as completely open minded. And sessions with her just feel bland and tasteless as well. It sometimes really irritates me.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I like her and she isn’t a bad T, but I just don’t fully click with her!

I had a recent discussion with a guy that says that his current therapist is nice but is not as validating and doesn’t really click with him either (though I think his T might be more judge mental) and I am now starting to wonder whether this is a serious issue or not.

[Lemoncake]

You are allowed to leave therapy at anytime. Especially If feel like you don't click with them. You will always know what's works best for you.

[Rive.]

It is not a serious flaw nor is it you. You just don't 'click' with that particular therapist. I don't want to judge them as overall rubbish as I don't know how they are with other people but they clearly are not working for you. Nothing wrong with that.

It's kinda like dating or making new friends: you hang out with them and either you 'click' or you don't. It's not a flaw if you don't feel a connection with them.

Clearly here you don't, so I would move on. Plenty more fish in the sea...

[Dannii91]

Well, I finally brought up this issue with my therapist and the experience was rather so-so.

She kept on saying, “I’m sorry but I would never say that” and sort of kept denying she would ever be like that.

She also said that maybe there was miscommunication and that also she talks a bit too much, to which I agreed, to which she then replied, “but there are therapists that say nothing at all”. Yes that is also bad, but still! XD

At some point she asked if I would like to stop therapy, and out of fear and the trauma of losing my 7 Cups therapist I said no.

She started to improve afterwards though, so let’s see how it goes…..

Yeah, I still feel guilty and ashamed for bringing this up, but if doing something like this makes me a ***** then so be it! XD