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Magnate
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I started face to face again with my therapist a couple of months ago, after being online since March 2020 (we briefly tried face to face in a different place in September 2020 but I didn't like the distance between us).
So since I've resumed seeing him in the room, I'm struggling to feel as connected as I did on zoom. I find it harder to be candid, and he seems almost like a different person (he lost weight during lockdown which hasn't helped). I want to keep going face to face as we've resumed hugs, but I miss zoom T. We had a zoom session last night because I was unhappy with our face to face session and I just felt so much closer to him than I have in ages. I wish I could see him on zoom then just hug him at the end. Anyone else struggling with the readjustment? |
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Magnet
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My t and I are still doing telehealth, but I wonder have found myself wondering what it will be like. When I am on Zoom (with anyone) it feels like we are all up in each other's faces. I think you've written about sessions that include sitting and looking at one another, could that feeling of being up close be part of it?
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Magnate
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Magnate
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#4
I wonder if you feel safer with the physical distance - sort of a buffer between you - while in person you feel more exposed and self-conscious. I can also see how in person you might be distracted by the whole room, the whole person visually rather than just the face, perhaps.
I hate virtual meetings of all kinds - this last year and a half has been awful because I just detest the unnaturalness of the computer. I'm the type to turn off my mic and camera and just be a faceless, silent person in a zoom meeting. I would have been an awful client if I'd had to do therapy that way. It's interesting how some people really like the virtual meetings and others just hate them. |
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Magnate
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I HATED my first session back in person, and was not expecting that. I felt so exposed and vulnerable and awkward. It was hard for her to see me again. We did phone only sessions over the pandemic, so that part may be a little different for you. It took a few sessions to feel more normal, and now we are back to virtual. Sigh.
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Grand Magnate
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I think the loss of feeling connected is pretty common. I experienced it for quite a while on the beginning of virtual sessions. My therapist and I had to spend time finding ways to feel comnected. It is still something I struggle with.
I suspect when we get to return to face to face appointments we will have to figure out how to reconnect that way. __________________ |
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I was ecstatic to be back in person. The thing is, though...we still have to social distance in her office and we still have to wear masks. So sessions still feel a little bit fake to me.
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Magnate
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#9
I'm going back to zoom next week because I can't hack it. It's completely overwhelming for me. He is going away for two weeks at the start of September. I can't see him face to face any more before he goes.
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I love in person sessions. Tele health really wrecked my mental health. Plus all the false promises of “we’ll be back at this date” and then that not happening. I finally had to tell her not to mention in person sessions until she actually knew for sure. Which she never did.
But I’ve been back to in person since May 18th and it’s been great for me. I had my mask on until 2 weeks after I got the second dose of the vaccine. But I’ve kept my mask off every session since. I did start wearing it in the waiting room though. I’m worried I’m going to go back to telehealth. My old therapist had told me that she thought our virtual appointments were a lot more deeper then in person ones. I kinda agree but I’m not sure why they were deeper. I did spill my guts about quite a few things I wouldn’t dare talk about it in person to her. But I’ve been ok talking with my current therapist about most of these things. __________________ Ridin' with Biden |
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Just wondering whether he or both of you are masked in f2f sessions? If so, that might be a contributing factor. I was able to have in person sessions for most of the pandemic, but both of us were wearing masks, and not being able to see her full face really did a number on me, in many different ways.. Sending you hugs, cr |
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Magnate
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So it's not about things being different to pre covid, it's that I'm overwhelmed by in person now period. I can't explain it, it's like I feel more distant from him when I am in the room than I do when he is miles away and I'm looking at him on a screen. I don't get it and I don't like it. |
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I'm going back to face to face in a couple of weeks. Both really looking forward and feeling anxious about it. I think I am nervous about being inside her house again, like not really feeling welcome anymore, and I am also wondering what the perspective/distance will feel like in the room.
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