Couch 232: Not Sully!

My chonkadonk

Wow yesterday sucked.

I had a Zoom appointment with IOP T. It didn't go well. Then it went worse. She said I was at high risk for suicide and self harm and asked me to go to the hospital. I asked her if by going to the hospital I would jeopardize my place in IOP. She said no, that when I got out I could just start back up. I really wasn't feeling overly suicidal but she was very insistent that I go to the hospital. So I went.


While I am in the ER waiting forever to talk to the psychiatrist, I get a text message from my IOP case manager Ray telling me that IOP is not the place for me. That management has decided I need a higher level of care that they won't be providing and that he will try to find me some resources closer to me. (There are none. I live in a rural area.) So I got kicked out of IOP. I'm so upset.


First, my IOP T told me that I wouldn't get kicked out. She also told me that this wouldn't be our last session because she wanted to see me again. I believed her. Second I was told that after 30 days you could do aftercare in IOP. I did more than 40 days and I don't have access to aftercare. This sucks.


So, as I was sitting there waiting, now I was feeling really bad but I still didn't feel like I was an imminent threat to myself. So when I got to talk to the psychiatrist via telehealth, I was like, listen, I really want to go home. This is what is going on. So he really listened to me. He talked to the IOP case manager twice, he talked to my parents twice. He tried to get ahold of my psychiatrist but it was in the evening and I'm not sure I have his correct cell phone number. So he gave me a new medication called Zyprexa, well I will have to pick it up at the pharmacy today, or likely my Dad will, to take as an as needed basis. I forget what the initials are for that. Is it PRN? And I got to come home after being at the hospital for about 7.5 hours.


Then I had emailed my IOP therapist saying this was crap and that I wasn't angry (which was true at the time but I think now I might be angry) but that I was hurt and disappointed over being kicked out of IOP when I listened to them and did everything I was told to do. She sent me back an email which was basically like, it's out of my hands, and I'm sorry you are upset but everything I've done is to protect you and I've done my best. Etc Etc. Not enough of an apology or whatever it was I was needing!


So now, I really need to find a T ASAP. I have the one lady that I tried over the weekend. I wasn't sold on her but I'll give her another shot. Or a couple of tries anyway. But this totally sucks. I keep crying. I cried myself to sleep last night. And I don't cry so that's a big thing. I'm really upset.


Oh and before the session with IOP T I had asked her for a letter or an email that I could hang onto while she was on vacation and after I couldn't see her anymore. I think it's called a transitional object. She was like, you're breaking boundaries. You're causing a toxic relationship. Stuff like that. Wow. I don't know where that was coming from. My former T would write me letters before she went to Singapore every other year and I had that to hang onto for the three weeks that she was gone. So that really sucked too. I was very disengaged with her and she could tell and she told me my cognitive functioning was low yesterday and stuff like that. All of that really hurt too.


So today I am at work. I am crying a lot. My Dad brought me a coffee which is so nice. He is like, I know you didn't get enough sleep so I thought I would bring this to you. I told him I've been crying and he doesn't really understand but he's like I don't think your IOP handled that very well. I don't know what I need couchies, but I'm such a mess today and such a wreck. I can't decide if I am angry or hurt or scared or overwhelmed or what.

Kit, I would be feeling angry about the whole IOP situation as well. Obviously not knowing what was said to make her think you needed to go to the hospital, it seems like they really mishandled the situation. Also saying that you're making things toxic by asking for a letter seems really hurtful and out of line. Hugs.

Thanks everyone for the hugs. I really appreciate it.

I have been texting with my case manager from IOP today. He went before the director and plead my case. He said I haven't harmed since the one time at the beginning of program, the ER doctor didn't hold me, and I've come a long way in program and am almost done. I have to sign some sort of safety contract/commitment but they are going to let me back into IOP. My case manager is a miracle worker. I am so thankful for him. I don't know if I want to see the IOP T again but I might not have a choice. At least she is on vacation until Friday of next week. I'm going to have another therapist do check in's with me while she is out. I don't know what that will look like but okay. I'm not thrilled about having to sign a contract. I think it is actually counter productive for the IOP place. They are basically acknowledging that I am a risk to myself and that they are continuing to treat me. I don't see how that could go their way in court but I'll sign the paper anyway, since it will get me back into IOP. My case manager is an angel.


At least I've stopped crying. And I got an appointment with my PCP for tomorrow at 2:30 PM. The hospital wanted me to follow up with her. I'm not actually sure what she will be able to do for me but okay. An appointment I have.

Aww, I don't know why the picture isn't working

My chonkadonk

How would you guys react to this situation?

Zoom meeting breaks up. You’re the host. Some people leave, but two stay on because one is inviting the other to an event she has an extra ticket for (no, she’s not inviting you too.). They go on and on checking their schedules. And because you’re the host, you’re stuck leaving the Zoom window open or you’ll cut them off. (Never mind they can also connect on Facebook or text or email.) You turn off your webcam to give them some privacy, but you actually need to stay online, so you stay at the computer.

Would you have said something or just waited for them to finish talking?

New job became too physically difficult but the company is letting me transfer departments at the end of the week. Two shifts to go.

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New job became too physically difficult but the company is letting me transfer departments at the end of the week. Two shifts to go.

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How would you guys react to this situation?

Zoom meeting breaks up. You’re the host. Some people leave, but two stay on because one is inviting the other to an event she has an extra ticket for (no, she’s not inviting you too.). They go on and on checking their schedules. And because you’re the host, you’re stuck leaving the Zoom window open or you’ll cut them off. (Never mind they can also connect on Facebook or text or email.) You turn off your webcam to give them some privacy, but you actually need to stay online, so you stay at the computer.

Would you have said something or just waited for them to finish talking?

I've asked if one of the folks continuing to chat minds if I transfer hosting to them. Then I leave and they can continue to talk as long as they want.

I would have made one of them the host
on zoom and left. I often do this with students who meet with me in a group and then they want to keep talking and I want to leave.

I would have done this...except this Zoom account is through my school and for security reasons I can't allow anyone outside my institution to host when I'm not present. These women are outside my school (it's my writer's group).

I would have done this...except this Zoom account is through my school and for security reasons I can't allow anyone outside my institution to host when I'm not present. These women are outside my school (it's my writer's group).

Anyway, I'm sure the whole thing is minor to you all, but it also hurt to suddenly be wallpaper.

*hugs*, LT. I'm proud of you for being able to continue with your session.

I still remember how awful I felt when I just thought I'd seen P at one of my Mum's art exhibitions. Now I'm not so sure it was her, but...same height, same hair.