I guess I forgot therapy wasn't all therapists think about....

I guess I'm just another person to her.....

I guess she will move away someday to be with her family....

I guess others dont understand therapy helped me not give up....

I guess others aren't aware that T is all i got....

I guess I'm fooleing myself....

I guess I'm wasteing my time thinking about T....

I guess was in denial all along....

I guess I wont be able to be a T ever inthe future ....

I guess because I dont understand how therapists stay so far away..from their clients....

I guess its because I'm 17....

I guess...

dustin... you were such a help to me the other night. you have a special heart.

can you try an experiment with me? you got nothing to lose.. k?

i want you to write a response to each one of those statements. Pretend. Speak to them like you spoke with me... meaning, pretend there is a hurt person saying them... what could you say back?

i know you're hurting sweetie.. hurting sucks. Therapy is so very hard. please take gentle care of yourself.

[Cthomas]

Hey, im here too.....sorry you are hurting so much.

maybe chat with us and tell us how you feel. im here now.

Sending gentle hugs to you now.

Colleen

[Perna]

Seventeen wasn't my favorite age to be either. My first 9 years of therapy were just "support". I got a bit more life experience under my belt and some things finally changed for me. It all takes time, Dustin. You haven't screwed up in any way, there's nothing to screw up, it's your life. We're all in the same boat trying to learn to paddle, bale, get the engine to turn over, anything we find useful to our own situation.

T can be all you've got but it won't be all you'll ever have. When you're a T are you still going to have that T?

My brother went to the Naval Academy and we had a joke when he was sent to his first ship; our stepmother was wishing he could stay a few days longer on vacation and he was wishing he had a Maserati to drive up to the ship in. I still have his teddy bear from when we were children (he'll be 60 years old in April :-) and we decided back then (when he was 25) that he should drive up to the ship in a Maserati, carrying his teddy bear and with a note from his mother explaining why he was late

Thanks for the replies all....would itbe bad to be a T and have a T? Aren't T's human too?

[Perna]

No, T's do have T's for when they have problems. It would be funny to have the same T as when you were a teenager though I think.

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Perna said:
No, T's do have T's for when they have problems. It would be funny to have the same T as when you were a teenager though I think.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Why? Why get someone who didnt know you in both worlds the teenage and the adult world....sry im stupid probably...oh well....its just i dont want to keep retelling my life story to some stranger and have them adandon me....4 therapists in 3 years is pretty rough on me ya know.....really rough..espcially when you lost all RL friends..

[sunrise]

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Moonkin said:
its just i dont want to keep retelling my life story to some stranger and have them adandon me

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think that at some point you will have success working through some of your issues and then if you begin with a new T a number of years down the road, you don't have to work through the stuff you have already dealt with with a past T. You just start right in on what you want to work on that day, and don't need to tell them the full story of what you have already resolved. I agree, that would be hard! (You can always give them the Cliff Notes version. )

I think it is very positive that already you have a career goal--to be a T. It is wonderful to have something to aim for, but it's OK to change your mind too, as you grow and are exposed to new options and ideas.

[Perna]

My girlfriend, we're 57, is a T down in Georgia and she has seen her T off and on all through her career. I don't know if it's the same T though; she and I were in high school here in Maryland though, she went to college in Missouri and then T school in Louisiana and then moved to and went to work in Georgia. You'll probably move around in your life, Dustin. There might not be jobs where you are now or part of your schooling will be elsewhere, etc. I agree it might be nice to have the same therapist you have as a teenager but I think it would be unusual.